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In this empowering episode, Harley Rabbit dives into the topic of sex positivity and overcoming shame around sexuality. Sharing personal stories, including a formative memory from high school and a transformative recent experience in a burlesque dance class, Harley explores how societal messages shape our views on expressing sexuality. Harley reflects on reclaiming self-confidence and finding permission to be authentically sexy in a world that often discourages it.

Referenced in this episode

• Christina Agulara - Genie in a Bottle
• The Vavoom Room - Burlesque Dance Studio Townsville 
• HarleyRabbit.com – Book a free connection call.
• The Animal Game - Somatica® Exercise watch on Youtube

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In this episode, Harley Rabbit opens up about finally getting her first tattoo—a significant milestone that stirred up childhood memories and beliefs. Harley reflects on how her journey into kink and pain play has reshaped her understanding of resilience, pain, and bravery. Sharing stories about childhood fears, needle phobias, and reclaiming agency through kink, Harley discusses how these experiences helped overcome lifelong limiting beliefs.

Tune in for an honest, empowering discussion about using kink as a way to challenge old narratives, embrace your strength, and celebrate your journey. Plus, hear updates on Harley’s coaching journey, Somatica training, and her battles with challenges in the adult industry. 

Resources Mentioned:

• Book Recommendation: The Way Out by Alan Gordon for chronic pain management.
• HarleyRabbit.com – Book a free connection call.
• Find tattoo pictures on Harley’s Instagram and Fetlife profiles.

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In this episode, Harley dives into a fun yet insightful analysis of three popular love songs that might make you rethink your playlist: I Lose Control by Teddy Swims, Elastic Heart by Sia, and Grenade by Bruno Mars. Taking on the role of a relationship coach, Harley imagines these song lyrics as if they were clients sitting in a therapy session, sharing their romantic struggles.

Harley explores how these songs, while catchy and romantic on the surface, often glorify toxic behaviors that we’ve come to accept as ‘normal’ in love stories. From possessive jealousy and feeling out of control to shaming, blaming, and self-sacrifice, these songs highlight common patterns that are often romanticized in music but can be damaging in real relationships.

Tune in for a mix of humor, raw honesty, and relationship wisdom as Harley breaks down why we should pay closer attention to the messaging in the love songs we adore. You'll never hear these tracks the same way again! (Written by AI)

Mentioned in this Episode

• Loose Control - Teddy Swims
• Elastic Heart - Sia
• Grenade - Bruno Mars

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CNC (Consensual Non-Consent) is often discussed from a woman’s perspective, but what about men? In this episode, I’m joined by Dotch, a Somatica® practitioner who once saw CNC as a hard limit but has since learned to enjoy facilitating these fantasies. Dotch shares his journey, from initial discomfort to embracing CNC in a way that feels safer, consensual, and exciting. We discuss the challenges men face, including shame and the fear of crossing boundaries, and offer insights on how to explore CNC responsibly. Tune in for a thoughtful, candid conversation on navigating CNC from a man’s point of view.

Mentioned in this Episode

• Beginner’s CNC Play for Couples Eventbrite (Book tickets)
• Beginner's CNC Play for Couples (Fetlife Event)
• Somatica®
• Somatica® BDSM Mastery Course
• Emily Tesh - Some Desperate Glory (book)

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In this episode, Harley Rabbit delves into attachment theory and its relevance to the kink community. The discussion covers the four main attachment styles: secure, avoidant, anxious, and disorganized, exploring how these styles affect relationships and personal dynamics. Harley emphasizes the importance of understanding these attachment styles to foster self-awareness and compassion, and discusses the potential for developing an earned secure attachment through personal growth and therapy. The episode concludes with an invitation to an upcoming workshop on consensual non-consent play (written by AI).

Mentioned in this Episode

• Book a Connection Call
• My Services 
• Polysecure - by Jessica Fern (book)
• Beginner’s CNC Play for Couples Eventbrite (Book tickets)
• Beginner's CNC Play for Couples (Fetlife Event)

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In this episode, Harley Rabbit delves into the concept of intimacy within the kink and BDSM communities, challenging common misconceptions that equate kink with violence and degradation. Harley emphasizes that true intimacy in kink is built on trust, vulnerability, and open communication. The discussion explores various forms of intimacy that can arise in kink, including the exploration of personal limits and the importance of aftercare. Harley also shares personal experiences that highlight how kink can foster deeper connections and accelerate feelings of intimacy between partners.

If you are interested in exploring some CNC roleplays with a trusted partner, I am hosting an online workshop in October. You can get tickets here:

Beginner’s CNC Play for Couples Eventbrite (Book tickets)

Beginner's CNC Play for Couples (Fetlife Event)

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I got up to some exciting kinky shenanigans this weekend and I can’t wait to share! Slade and I did our most elaborate roleplay yet, which was a CNC schoolgirl fantasy. This has been a fantasy of mine for a long time, and was also my first time exploring middlespace. In this episode I share the details of the roleplay and what I learned, as well as how it felt to explore a more complicated for of ageplay where I was actually getting to sooth some old wounds using the repetition with agency pathway. 

If you are interested in exploring some CNC roleplays with a trusted partner, I am hosting an online workshop in October. You can get tickets here:

Beginner’s CNC Play for Couples Eventbrite (Book tickets)

Mentioned in this episode 

• Join my mailing list here
• 3 Part Trauma Mini-Series
  • #44: When Bad Feels Really Good - kink is NOT Abuse
  • #45: The Truth About Turn Ons
  • #46: Strength in Darkness - Soothing Trauma with BDSM
• Beginner's CNC Play for Couples (Fetlife Event)

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In this episode, I talk with Jeanne Baade, a sex and relationship coach who discovered her sexuality later in life after growing up in a conservative christian household. Jeanne shares how she first experienced a clitoral orgasm at 48, and her journey into kink and BDSM. We explore simple ways for beginners to dip their toe into BDSM, like using blindfolds, scarves and rope harnesses to build trust and connection with a partner.

Jeanne’s humour and storytelling make this conversation both insightful and engaging, offering relatable advice for anyone curious about exploring kink. Whether you're new to BDSM or looking to reignite your relationship, Jeanne’s wisdom provides a welcoming introduction to this world.

Mentioned in this episode

• Intimate Unicorn website
• Follow Jeanne on Instagram @intimateunicorn 
• Follow Jeanne on Facebook 
• Obedience (app)
• Come Together - Emily Nagoski
• Come As You Are - Emily Nagoski 

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In this episode, we’re diving into a topic that might not be the sexiest, but it’s crucial for anyone exploring their sexuality, especially in non-monogamous relationships. I’m joined by Dr. Sara Whitburn, a General Practitioner specialising in sexual health and the Deputy Medical Director at Sexual Health Victoria, to tackle all the awkward questions about STIs.

We’ll be covering what you need to know about common STIs, including what you should be testing for and how often. Dr. Sara answers those burning questions like, “How risky is oral sex without condoms?” and “Can I get genital herpes if my partner gives me oral with a cold sore?” 

If you have an active sx life with multiple partners, or just want to stay informed, this episode is a must-listen. Being educated about STIs allows us to make informed decisions about the risks we’re willing to take and how we negotiate boundaries with our partners.

Mentioned in this episode

• Sexual Health Victoria website
• Herpes Foundation New Zealand
• Better Health Channel (sexual communication)
• Sexual Health Victoria on Instagram (@sexualhealthvictoria)
• Sexual Health Victoria on Youtube
• Sexual Health Victoria on TikTok (@shvic.org.au)

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One of the most common challenges people experience in their sex life is issues with libido. Whether it's a mismatch with their partner's libido or a sudden drop-off, these issues can be frustrating and confusing. In today's episode, I introduce a controversial exercise called “Keeping Your Pilot Light On.” This exercise focuses on finding ways to comfortably tap into your arousal in your day-to-day life, outside of the bedroom.

We delve into the ethical questions this topic brings up, particularly regarding sexual fantasies and keeping them separate from reality. It's an important discussion for anyone on their kink journey, providing valuable insights and practical advice on maintaining a healthy and balanced approach to arousal.

Mentioned in this episode

• Private Coaching with Harley 
• Book a free 15min Connection Call with Harley 
• Somatica® Institute
• The Erotic Mind - Jack Morin PhD (book)

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