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Happy new year! If you are wanting to have an exciting year of kinky experiences, it’s likely you might need to do some vetting. 

So what is vetting? And how do we do it well? 

Personally, my vetting process could use an update, so I did some research and found my top 10 questions I will be using to vet potential new play partners. (Honestly, I wish I’d known about these years ago).

Each person's vetting process will be very different! Feel free to cherry pick from my list, as well as come up with some great vetting questions of your own. Doing this work now could save you a whole bunch of headaches later on!

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Cruciator CNC Zoom Workshop

Vetting questions resource

Also check out @kimoftheinternet on instagram (I got lots of my questions from her)

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Today we are doing a deep dive into Age Play! I was lucky enough to sit down with Bear, a kinkster from Perth, Western Australia, who is very active in the age play scene over there. 

Bear is extremely passionate about this space, as you will be able to tell in the interview. He is a little himself, and he also runs workshops and has recently opened up his own physical store Kelmscott, specialising in Little and Pet Play gear. 

We cover a lot of ground in this conversation, from the various different forms of age play AB/DL, Little Space, Middle space etc. We talk about common misconceptions, age-play hypnosis, dealing with shame, how to support your caregivers, events and lots more! 

Bear has kindly offered listeners a PDF submissive questionnaire, which is a helpful resource for when playing with a new partner. You can if you’d like a free copy of that, you can email bear at [email protected].  

I am also doing a giveaway for this episode. You can grab yourself a free lifetime ticket to my audio story “Daddy Reads You a Bedtime Story.” You can find that one at my website Harlyrabbit.com. Use the code BEDTIME at the checkout. That code will be valid until the end of the year!

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Daddy Reads you a Bedtime Story - Harley Rabbit audio story - Use the code BEDTIME

The Bear’s Cave 

“Submissive questionnaire” PDF email Bear at [email protected].  

Age Regression article

KangaCon

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Last night I got to experience something I’ve been wanting to try for a long time - I got to go into my friend's pool and be tied up in ropes! 

If this sounds super dangerous, that’s because it is! But with careful planning, the right people and knowing your own limits, it is possible to have these experiences in a relatively safe way. 

In this episode I take you through each step of my first time water bondage experience. I discuss everything from planning the scene, to trying underwater, to how it felt to be completely bound while in deep water. 

It wasn't at all what I expected! 

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Are you curious about the darker, more extreme or taboo side of kink? I know I certainly am! In this episode we are taking a deep dive into CNC and Abduction play. 

I was fortunate enough to interview a Fetlifer who goes by the name of Cruciator. Cruciator has decades of experience in kink, and specializes in abduction play and multi day scenes.  

Although Cruciator clearly has a wealth of knowledge on many aspects of BDSM, In this episode we’ll focus mostly on his abductions scenes, as this is something that is personally, a big bucket list item for me - and I think for some of you guys too. 

Obviously there is a massive trigger warning on this, if your are triggered by any kind of consensual-non-consent play - this episode will not be for you. But if this topic peaks your curiosity,  then please join me as we go deeper down the rabbit hole than ever before. 

Please listen with an open mind. Here is my interview with Cruciator! 

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Harley Rabbit Website Sign Up

Pornography in a Free Society (book)

Spanner case (Wikipedia article)

R*pe & Abduction Scenes (Fetlife writing)

Extreme Scene Protocol (Fetlife writing)

R*pe Play & Abduction Scenes - Organisation, Safety & Practical Methods (zoom class)

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Most kinksters (myself included) struggle with shame. One of the reasons for experiencing shame is because what turns us on is often in opposition to our personal values. 

For example, you might identify as a feminist, and the idea of a dominant / submissive relationship might feel wrong to you - yet for some reason these dynamics turn you on. 

Or maybe you feel strongly about treating all people with respect, but you’re secretly turned on by the idea of degradation play. 

You might be asking yourself… is this ok? And what does that mean for your own morality?

If you want to be able to accept your kinky side, you will need to be able to answer these questions for yourself. 

In this episode we are diving into doing just that! 

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Gorean Slave Positions

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It’s all well and good if you are into romance and passion - you know, the kind of sex you see in the movies - but what if you're not? What if you don’t fit the mould of socially sanctioned sex? Well many kinksters don’t, and that can lead to feelings of shame, guilt and being abnormal. 

Although only one very narrow type of sex is usually ever represented in film and TV, the Three Dimensions of Sex teaches us that there are in fact 3 distinct types of sex.

In this episode, I take you through each of the dimensions, as well as share my personal experiences, and challenge societal norms. If you've ever felt there's more to sex than meets the eye, this episode is your golden ticket. Get ready to redefine pleasure on "Turns Out I'm Into It."

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You are such a good girl / boy. Well done for clicking on this podcast. I’m so proud of you for being curious and wanting to explore kink!

In this episode we are talking about praise kink. This has been blowing up on TikTok lately and I thought it would be a fun topic to explore on the show. I discuss what praise kink is, what it looks like and how it might bring more confidence to your sex life! 

I have lots of stories to share about how praise intersects with my other kinks, and how it has dramatic effects on my pain tolerance, confidence, and overall enjoyment of a scene. 

Many of us really struggle to take a compliment in real life - so kink can be an excellent safe space to invite more praise into your life. 

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• HarleyRabbit audio fantasy Quickie in the Kitchen
• HarleyRabbit Newsletter Sign Up

Sources

• Australian Broadcast (ABC), 2022, What is a praise kink? And why is TikTok talking about it? https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/the-hook-up/what-are-praise-kinks-on-tiktok-and-do-i-have-one-/101328780

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What is Sleep Play? Well, Sleep Play is a kink where one person is asleep (or pretending to be asleep) while the other person engages in sexual activity with them. 

For some people, this sounds super creepy! But for others, there are lots of great reasons why Sleep Play can be a fantastic turn on! 

In this episode we will discuss how Sleep Play may look very different for different people, as well as give you the tools to discuss this kink with your partner(s).

If you are enjoying this podcast, don’t forget to leave me an anonymous star rating! 

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• HarleyRabbit audio fantasy In the Dark - Her POV
• Harley Rabbit audio fantasy In the Dark - His POV
• HarleyRabbit 25% off discount code “SLEEPY” available this week only!

Sources

• Deehan, E. T., & Bartels, R. M. (2023). A Qualitative Exploration of Sleep-Related Sexual Interests: Somnophilia and Dormaphilia. Sexual Abuse, 35(3), 288-312. https://doi.org/10.1177/10790632221098359
• The Erotic Mind - by Jack Morin PhD

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Have you ever found it challenging to utter that two-letter word, "no"? 

In this episode, I discuss the reasons why saying "no" can be an uphill battle for so many people. I also explore the important role personal boundaries play in nurturing not only your self-worth but also the health of your relationships.

I will give you five of my personal favorite strategies to make saying "no" more manageable. This is particularly tailored for those who identify as people-pleasers, like me!

My mission is for you to leave this episode not only understanding the challenges of saying "no" but also armed with the confidence and skills to assert your boundaries effectively when the situation calls for it.

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• HarleyRabbit audio fantasy Tied and Taken
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Collars carry a lot of meaning within the BDSM community, and that meaning can be very different depending on the person.

I asked the community on Fetlife to tell me what collars mean to them - and I got some wonderful responses which I share in today's discussion. From a simple fashion accessory, to a way to shift into a submissive headspace, to a symbol of the D/s dynamic - collars can mean a lot of different things!

There really is a lot more to collars and ownership than what appears on the surface, so today we dig deep into the rabbit hole, and find out what makes collars so important in the kink community!

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• Backstage video: www.harleyrabbit.com/backstage
• Episode 24: What’s so Good About a Threesome?
• Steel collar purchased from hardrrr.com
• Fetlife writing “‘Collared’ & ‘Owned’ to me mean Freedom” by VictoriaCage.

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