Setting boundaries might seem straightforward, but it’s often challenging to recognise and communicate them, especially in the context of kink. This week's episode dives into the complexities of identifying and asserting your boundaries, with a particular focus on the struggles faced by those with anxiety who may have become adept at ignoring their body’s warning signals. I share insights from my recent experiences at a weekend rope workshop that showed me that saying ‘no’ can actually lead to more fun! Special thanks to Evil Girls HQ and Miss Gen for an incredible workshop – if you have the chance to take a class with Miss Gen, don’t miss it! Links below.

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This week’s podcast was the hardest I’ve ever recorded. It’s easy to share the positive aspects of kink—the great experiences and the joys of exploration. What’s hard is sharing the negative experiences. It would have been much easier to keep this private, but my podcast is about sharing my kink journey openly and honestly. I can't do that if I’m only highlighting the good parts.

In this episode, I discuss a recent experience where my vetting process failed, and I ended up trusting someone who caused me significant harm. This experience was confusing and required a lot of reflection and conversations to understand fully. I share all of this on the podcast as openly and accurately as I can. This isn't about pointing fingers but rather an honest exploration of the risks we take in this community and how we can better protect ourselves.

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In this episode, I dive into a recent adventure that took me to Brisbane, where I explored rope suspension for the first time. While I successfully achieved my suspension goals, it was the floor rope scenes with a talented rigger named Ravel (@ravel_shibari on Instagram) that truly transformed my perspective on rope.

Join me as I share about these floor scenes, revealing what they looked like, how they felt, and the crucial elements of successful scene negotiation and trust-building with a new play partner. In line with our show’s ethos, I also peel back the curtain on some of the less glamorous aspects of kinky play—like stress, expectations, and fatigue—helping to normalise the full spectrum of experiences that come with exploring our kinks.

Tune in to learn why sometimes the most insightful lessons come from unexpected places!

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• Ravel on Fetlife
• Ravel on Instagram
• Crystal Chateau
• Rope Radar (scene negotiation tool)
• Contact Improvisation

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Welcome to the next instalment of our Everyday Kinkster series. In today’s episode I have a chat with Alisa Milard. Alisa is studying at Somatica Institute with me, and she has also just started her practice at Intimacy Illumination as a somatic sex and relationship coach. 

Alisa shares all about her kink journey, beginning with what it’s like to be a single female sub navigating this world on your own, all the way through to exploring impact play, rope suspension, fire play and electro play! We also talk about embodiment, somatic and the crossover between somatic therapies and kink. If you’d like to get in touch with Alisa, you can do so at @intimacy_illumination on Instagram, or by clicking the links below. Mentioned in this episode

• Intimacy Illumination (Instagram)
• Lotus Blooms sex shop in DC Alexandra Virginia
• The Crucible Dungeon in DC 
• Black Rose (kink educational group)
• The Kink Consultant Instagram 
• Agreeable Agony  (impact toys)
• Violet wand (electro play)
• The Body Keeps the Score (book)
• Come As You Are (book)
• Polysecure (book)
• The Bone Season - Shannon Smith (book)

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I am so excited to dive into this topic today! Most of us learn about blowjobs from porn, which usually shows some very talented actresses and actors taking a lot, very deeply! This is actually pretty hard to do (especially for a long time) and there is no wonder that so many of us think we are bad at giving blowjobs. In this episode I’m going to teach you my biggest secret to giving an insane blowjob! I’m also going to share a bunch of tips and techniques that are going to be WAY easier than what you’ve seen in porn, and will most likely be a lot more pleasurable for you and your partner! I’ll even take you through a practical exercise to get you started. 

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Hey friends! Today I am spilling the beads about my plans for a rope trip in Brisbane! Woop Woop! I am doing a rope class with Slade, visiting the Crystal Chateau, and have organised two rope sessions with some amazing riggers! It is super scary to plan scenes, especially with people you don’t know, so that’s why in this episode I walk you through all the steps I took to plan this experience, so you can do the same! This includes being realistic about expectations,, looking for partners, having a throughout vetting process and communicating desires, limits, boundaries and health issues. If you’d like to follow me on this journey in real time, make sure you follow me on instagram @harley_rabbit 

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Meet the man behind Kangacon - Australia's first Ageplay convention. I had so much fun chatting to DaddaG about his journey as an ABDL and a caregiver. DaddaG is filled with amazing stories about his experiences with other ABDL’s, he also shares about his many trips to CAPCon and TeddyCon in the US, and how these conventions inspired him to start KangaCon in Australia. Tickets to KangaCon are on sale now, and DaddaG gives us a great description of what to expect across the 3 day event, including a ball bit, stuffy pageant, story time, as well as informative classes. I am so grateful for DaddaG coming on the show, as this is such a fun and informative episode for anyone curious about exploring Ageplay. 

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• Kangacon Fetlife Group
• Dr Phil Episode with Brett
• CAPCon - USA Convention
• Teddycon - USA Convention
• Tomkat - Canadian Camp
• DiaperBois

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Summary:

In this episode, Harley Rabbit concludes the mini-series on degradation play, pain play, and taboo kinks by discussing trauma and its relationship to kink. She addresses the misconception that kink is a symptom of trauma and emphasizes that kink is a normal and healthy expression of human sexuality. Harley explores how kink can play a role in alleviating trauma and discusses two pathways for exploring trauma in kink: repetition with agency and resolution. She provides case studies to illustrate these pathways and highlights the importance of aftercare and consent in exploring trauma through kink. Harley concludes by inviting listeners to read a recommended book and previews the next episode on age play (summary written by AI). 

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Takeaways:

• Kink is a normal and healthy expression of human sexuality, and it is not a symptom of trauma.
• Exploring trauma through kink can provide a safe and consensual way to reclaim and transform past wounds.
• There are two pathways for exploring trauma in kink: repetition with agency and resolution.
• Aftercare and consent are essential in exploring trauma through kink.
• Understanding and exploring trauma in kink can help remove shame and stigma surrounding these practices.

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• Coming Together - Danielle Harel PhD and Celeste Hirschman MA

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Summary

In this episode, Harley Rabbit explores the concept of arousal beyond romance and challenges the idea that love is the sole source of arousal. She introduces the concept of the four emotional aphrodisiacs: closeness, anxiety, guilt, and anger. Harley shares a personal experience of fulfilling a fantasy and discusses a study on peak erotic experiences. She delves into the connection between negative emotions and arousal, emphasizing the importance of finding a balance. Harley also explores how negative emotions can be transformed into positive experiences and discusses the role of conflict resolution in arousal. The episode concludes with a promotion for a new audio fantasy and a preview of the next episode on trauma and kinks (summary written by AI).

Takeaways

• Arousal is not solely dependent on romance and love; it can be triggered by a range of emotions.
• The four emotional aphrodisiacs are closeness, anxiety, guilt, and anger.
• Negative emotions can be a source of arousal when experienced in the right balance.
• Transforming negative emotions into positive experiences can enhance arousal and satisfaction.
• Conflict resolution plays a role in arousal and can lead to feelings of satisfaction.

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• The Cage Guy
• Follow me on Chaturbate 
• Lovense
• The Erotic Mind - By Jack Morin PhD
• HarleyRabbit VIP Membership



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Summary

In this episode, Harley Rabbit explores the difference between abuse and kink. She shares personal stories and examples to illustrate the importance of agency in kink scenes. Harley discusses how agency creates a safe container for exploring negative emotions and sensations, such as embarrassment, anxiety, and pain. She emphasizes the need for consent, negotiation, and boundaries in kink play to ensure the well-being of all participants. Understanding agency is crucial for both tops and bottoms to engage in ethical and consensual kink experiences (summery written by AI).

Takeaways

• Agency is the key difference between abuse and kink.
• In kink scenes, agency creates a safe container for exploring negative emotions and sensations.
• Consent, negotiation, and boundaries are essential in kink play.
• Understanding agency is crucial for both tops and bottoms to engage in ethical and consensual kink experiences.

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