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This week it was my absolute pleasure to speak with artist, kinkster and fet!sh photographer KinkyLens! I know many of you enjoy taking sexy photos of your kinky explorations, and this episode is packed with tips and advice for capturing those magic moments on camera.

Len speaks about his experiences, including what it’s like to photograph couples having sx! He shares about his journey in k!nk, beginning with magazine cutouts of lingerie, all the way up to working and teaching as a professional photographer. 

What I love most about this interview is the pieces of Len's wisdom that are scattered throughout. Len is extremely insightful, sharing a beautiful perspective on a world too often misunderstood.

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Ralph Gibson - nude photographer 

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This question brings up a lot of feelings for the best of us. Maybe the thought of your partner fantasising about someone else feels really icky for you? Or maybe you are like me, and you need to have all sorts of fantasies during sex, but you feel guilty about it, like you’re disconnecting from your partner? 

In this episode we will discuss the role of fantasy during sex, and hopefully disarm some of these negative feelings. Fantasy is a healthy and normal part of the erotic experience, and is not something we need to feel threatened by or guilty about. In fact, if you can learn to embrace your own fantasies, and your partners - this could be what takes your sex life from, “fine” to “OMFG!” 

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There are many things in life we’d like to happen quickly. The 3 minute planking part of your workout, waiting for the microwave countdown timer, or the last hour of the work day when your partner just texted you an eggplant emoji… 

Unfortunately, sex usually isn’t one of them. Today’s episode is all about Premature Ejaculation; what it is, and what you can do about it. 

I was lucky enough to have an anonymous guest offer to be on the show today, and share his honest experiences with PE. As much as this isn't the sexiest topic we’ve had on this show, it certainly is an important one. PE is something that affects hundreds of thousands of people around the world. It’s frustrating, it can be embarrassing, and it’s very rarely talked about. 

Neither myself or my guest are medical doctors, so this episode isn’t medical advice. It’s about normalising a very common sexual health issue, while also giving hope that there are options available, which you can discuss with your doctor. 

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The Journal of Sexual Medicine, Volume 6, Issue 10, October 2009, Pages 2888–2895, https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1743-6109.2009.01392.x Published: 01 October 2009

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There are lots of reasons we keep our kinky lives a secret. For some of us, secrecy is part of the fun! For others, it might be about privacy. But for lots of us, we keep this stuff secret because we are afraid of what others might think, if they knew the truth about us. 

This creates a source of shame, and leaves us feeling like we have to hide a part of ourselves in order to feel accepted. 

I recently had an important conversation with my mum, where I told her about my kinky lifestyle. It wasn’t until I had had this conversation that I realised just how much I’d been needing it. It was like a weight had lifted. 

It’s this conversation that I want to talk about in today’s episode, because I know many of you might also have someone in your life you wish you could be more open about this with. 

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Not everyone is super well matched in the bedroom. You might be an amazing couple, but when it comes to sex you’re just not really compatible. This is the case for a lot of long term couples, but it doesn't have to mean the end of the relationship, or that you have to sacrifice a fulfilling sex life.  

While there are lots of things couples can do to improve their sexual compatibility, outsourcing sex is also a fantastic option! In today's episode, I will go through 5 amazing pieces of advice for couples who are wanting to try opening up their relationship and outsourcing sex!

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Episode #36: Are Open Relationships Committed? 

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Most of us have grown up in a culture where monogamy is the norm. If you enter a relationship it is pretty much expected that you will be monogamous. But times are changing, and alternative relationship styles like polyamory and open relationships are becoming more popular, and more and more people are becoming more curious about them. 

I wanted to do an episode specifically about open relationships or ENM (ethically non-monogamous) relationships where I could address some common questions and misconceptions. 

If you are wondering “do these relationships really work in the long run?” or “are open relationships as committed as monogamous relationships?” this episode is for you. 

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Cruciator CNC Zoom Workshop

Episode #32 Extreme Scenes: Understanding Abduction Play with Cruciator 

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Happy new year! If you are wanting to have an exciting year of kinky experiences, it’s likely you might need to do some vetting. 

So what is vetting? And how do we do it well? 

Personally, my vetting process could use an update, so I did some research and found my top 10 questions I will be using to vet potential new play partners. (Honestly, I wish I’d known about these years ago).

Each person's vetting process will be very different! Feel free to cherry pick from my list, as well as come up with some great vetting questions of your own. Doing this work now could save you a whole bunch of headaches later on!

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Cruciator CNC Zoom Workshop

Vetting questions resource

Also check out @kimoftheinternet on instagram (I got lots of my questions from her)

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Today we are doing a deep dive into Age Play! I was lucky enough to sit down with Bear, a kinkster from Perth, Western Australia, who is very active in the age play scene over there. 

Bear is extremely passionate about this space, as you will be able to tell in the interview. He is a little himself, and he also runs workshops and has recently opened up his own physical store Kelmscott, specialising in Little and Pet Play gear. 

We cover a lot of ground in this conversation, from the various different forms of age play AB/DL, Little Space, Middle space etc. We talk about common misconceptions, age-play hypnosis, dealing with shame, how to support your caregivers, events and lots more! 

Bear has kindly offered listeners a PDF submissive questionnaire, which is a helpful resource for when playing with a new partner. You can if you’d like a free copy of that, you can email bear at [email protected].  

I am also doing a giveaway for this episode. You can grab yourself a free lifetime ticket to my audio story “Daddy Reads You a Bedtime Story.” You can find that one at my website Harlyrabbit.com. Use the code BEDTIME at the checkout. That code will be valid until the end of the year!

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Daddy Reads you a Bedtime Story - Harley Rabbit audio story - Use the code BEDTIME

The Bear’s Cave 

“Submissive questionnaire” PDF email Bear at [email protected].  

Age Regression article

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Last night I got to experience something I’ve been wanting to try for a long time - I got to go into my friend's pool and be tied up in ropes! 

If this sounds super dangerous, that’s because it is! But with careful planning, the right people and knowing your own limits, it is possible to have these experiences in a relatively safe way. 

In this episode I take you through each step of my first time water bondage experience. I discuss everything from planning the scene, to trying underwater, to how it felt to be completely bound while in deep water. 

It wasn't at all what I expected! 

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Are you curious about the darker, more extreme or taboo side of kink? I know I certainly am! In this episode we are taking a deep dive into CNC and Abduction play. 

I was fortunate enough to interview a Fetlifer who goes by the name of Cruciator. Cruciator has decades of experience in kink, and specializes in abduction play and multi day scenes.  

Although Cruciator clearly has a wealth of knowledge on many aspects of BDSM, In this episode we’ll focus mostly on his abductions scenes, as this is something that is personally, a big bucket list item for me - and I think for some of you guys too. 

Obviously there is a massive trigger warning on this, if your are triggered by any kind of consensual-non-consent play - this episode will not be for you. But if this topic peaks your curiosity,  then please join me as we go deeper down the rabbit hole than ever before. 

Please listen with an open mind. Here is my interview with Cruciator! 

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Pornography in a Free Society (book)

Spanner case (Wikipedia article)

R*pe & Abduction Scenes (Fetlife writing)

Extreme Scene Protocol (Fetlife writing)

R*pe Play & Abduction Scenes - Organisation, Safety & Practical Methods (zoom class)

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