Turns Out I'm Into It!

In this episode, Harley Rabbit explores the difference between abuse and kink. She shares personal stories and examples to illustrate the importance of agency in kink scenes. Harley discusses how agency creates a safe container for exploring negative emotions and sensations, such as embarrassment, anxiety, and pain. She emphasizes the need for consent, negotiation, and boundaries in kink play to ensure the well-being of all participants. Understanding agency is crucial for both tops and bottoms to engage in ethical and consensual kink experiences (summery written by AI).

• Agency is the key difference between abuse and kink.
• In kink scenes, agency creates a safe container for exploring negative emotions and sensations.
• Consent, negotiation, and boundaries are essential in kink play.
• Understanding agency is crucial for both tops and bottoms to engage in ethical and consensual kink experiences.

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Today I am starting a new series called Every Day Kinksters. The idea is to interview regular, everyday people, either from Fetlife or wherever, and ask them about their journey - because we all have a story to tell!

Today’s episode came about because I was talking to one of my classmates, Will Denison, and he casually mentioned he used to do live sex shows… so of course I stopped him right there, and asked if he would tell his story on my podcast. Thankfully, he agreed!

Will is someone who’s lived a thousand lifetimes already, starting in culinary school, serving in the military, and competing as a male pole dancer. And this is just the beginning! 

If you are interested in Will’s Lovers and Fighters Initiative which he talks about toward the end of the episode, this is a program he has set up specifically for Veterans to navigate the world of sex and relationships - you can find more information at pegasussexology.com. You can also email will directly at [email protected]. (Links below).Mentioned in this episode

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Recently I’ve had quite a few DM’s from subs who are new to kink, but are unsure on how to find a good Dominant partner, and how to stay safe in general. So, I figured this would be a great topic for this week’s podcast!

First of all, if you are a sub and you’re just starting out on your kink journey, well done!!! This is an amazing world, and you are going to learn and experience so much more than you could in your vanilla life.

That said, I totally get this can be overwhelming at the beginning, especially if you are trying to figure it all out on your own. That’s where I am here to help. In this episode I share my golden rules for all subs, as well as things to explore and get you started on your journey. 

For the first time ever, this episode is also available on YouTube - if you’d prefer to watch rather than listen, you can visit my channel here. 

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This week it was my absolute pleasure to speak with artist, kinkster and fet!sh photographer KinkyLens! I know many of you enjoy taking sexy photos of your kinky explorations, and this episode is packed with tips and advice for capturing those magic moments on camera.

Len speaks about his experiences, including what it’s like to photograph couples having sx! He shares about his journey in k!nk, beginning with magazine cutouts of lingerie, all the way up to working and teaching as a professional photographer. 

What I love most about this interview is the pieces of Len's wisdom that are scattered throughout. Len is extremely insightful, sharing a beautiful perspective on a world too often misunderstood.

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This question brings up a lot of feelings for the best of us. Maybe the thought of your partner fantasising about someone else feels really icky for you? Or maybe you are like me, and you need to have all sorts of fantasies during sex, but you feel guilty about it, like you’re disconnecting from your partner? 

In this episode we will discuss the role of fantasy during sex, and hopefully disarm some of these negative feelings. Fantasy is a healthy and normal part of the erotic experience, and is not something we need to feel threatened by or guilty about. In fact, if you can learn to embrace your own fantasies, and your partners - this could be what takes your sex life from, “fine” to “OMFG!” 

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There are many things in life we’d like to happen quickly. The 3 minute planking part of your workout, waiting for the microwave countdown timer, or the last hour of the work day when your partner just texted you an eggplant emoji… 

Unfortunately, sex usually isn’t one of them. Today’s episode is all about Premature Ejaculation; what it is, and what you can do about it. 

I was lucky enough to have an anonymous guest offer to be on the show today, and share his honest experiences with PE. As much as this isn't the sexiest topic we’ve had on this show, it certainly is an important one. PE is something that affects hundreds of thousands of people around the world. It’s frustrating, it can be embarrassing, and it’s very rarely talked about. 

Neither myself or my guest are medical doctors, so this episode isn’t medical advice. It’s about normalising a very common sexual health issue, while also giving hope that there are options available, which you can discuss with your doctor. 

The Journal of Sexual Medicine, Volume 6, Issue 10, October 2009, Pages 2888–2895, https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1743-6109.2009.01392.x Published: 01 October 2009

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There are lots of reasons we keep our kinky lives a secret. For some of us, secrecy is part of the fun! For others, it might be about privacy. But for lots of us, we keep this stuff secret because we are afraid of what others might think, if they knew the truth about us. 

This creates a source of shame, and leaves us feeling like we have to hide a part of ourselves in order to feel accepted. 

I recently had an important conversation with my mum, where I told her about my kinky lifestyle. It wasn’t until I had had this conversation that I realised just how much I’d been needing it. It was like a weight had lifted. 

It’s this conversation that I want to talk about in today’s episode, because I know many of you might also have someone in your life you wish you could be more open about this with. 

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Not everyone is super well matched in the bedroom. You might be an amazing couple, but when it comes to sex you’re just not really compatible. This is the case for a lot of long term couples, but it doesn't have to mean the end of the relationship, or that you have to sacrifice a fulfilling sex life.  

While there are lots of things couples can do to improve their sexual compatibility, outsourcing sex is also a fantastic option! In today's episode, I will go through 5 amazing pieces of advice for couples who are wanting to try opening up their relationship and outsourcing sex!

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Most of us have grown up in a culture where monogamy is the norm. If you enter a relationship it is pretty much expected that you will be monogamous. But times are changing, and alternative relationship styles like polyamory and open relationships are becoming more popular, and more and more people are becoming more curious about them. 

I wanted to do an episode specifically about open relationships or ENM (ethically non-monogamous) relationships where I could address some common questions and misconceptions. 

If you are wondering “do these relationships really work in the long run?” or “are open relationships as committed as monogamous relationships?” this episode is for you. 

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Happy new year! If you are wanting to have an exciting year of kinky experiences, it’s likely you might need to do some vetting. 

So what is vetting? And how do we do it well? 

Personally, my vetting process could use an update, so I did some research and found my top 10 questions I will be using to vet potential new play partners. (Honestly, I wish I’d known about these years ago).

Each person's vetting process will be very different! Feel free to cherry pick from my list, as well as come up with some great vetting questions of your own. Doing this work now could save you a whole bunch of headaches later on!

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