Healthy love: what it is, what it’s not, and how the fuck do you actually find it?   In case you missed it, I’ve recently discovered the gift of a real, loving, trusting relationship, so everyone give a hearty welcome to Drew Wild. I figured it was time to officially introduce him to this sphere of spiritual space I love so much, and show you first hand how self-healing can help you find a truly awakened partner. Together we’re talking about all things healing and finding healthy love, such as: 

• Different types of trauma
• Why addiction stems from our trama 
• How both of these contribute to damaging patterns
• How to start healing

To start attracting relationships that not only allow you to be you, but the BEST version of yourself, you have to put in the work and take responsibility for your own behaviors. You have to identify your patterns and be willing to admit where you’re going wrong in the pursuit of love.    Easy to say, incredibly difficult to do- that’s why we’re here to help on the latest episode of the UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast.   Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   Or maybe you want some one on one action? Try out The Intimate Woman for some private coaching realness: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman     CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning   Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   Or MAYBE you want to connect with Drew (it’s fine, I’ll allow it). Check him out at:   Instagram: https://instagram.com/drew_wild   Drew Wild is an Addiction Coach whose mission is to change the way this planet looks at and approaches addiction and to tear down any stigma with that word.   Drew works with men and women who struggle to break free of their vices, who want to live a life of freedom without needing to lean on alcohol, porn, social media, pills, food, weed, drugs or anything else that leaves them feeling regretful, empty and unfulfilled.   Podcast episode about Drew's journey: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0g2TbaGJSKMrhwAYFf4R5G?si=3ede67da47704add

The truth of the matter is, there is no such thing as perfect: he’s not perfect but neither are you. You both have weird hang-ups and quirks and flaws. You’re both going to annoy the ever-loving shit out of one another from time to time. You’re going to fight. You’re going to disagree. This doesn’t mean your relationship is bad or doomed or that you need to end it. In this episode we’ll talk more about:

• Societal expectations vs reality
• How flaws are inherent in any relationship because people are flawed

If you feel safe, heard, seen, emotionally and sexually fulfilled- if you love him, don’t go looking for trouble where there is none. Your relationship is normal. It’s the world’s expectations that aren’t. So stop trying to make problems and make some sweet sweet love instead. 

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We saw it all the time right when hashtags were becoming a thing: #friendgoals, #relationshipgoals, usually captioning pictures of girls with their heads squished together surrounded by brunch mimosas. And while brunch is a wonderful activity to incorporate into your friendship routine, it’s not necessarily a building block to a “friend goal” situation.

Sorry, friend (get it), but you’re actually going to have to work at your friendships. This is not to say that being someone’s friend has the rigidness of a relationship. That being said, you still want to make sure you’re surrounding yourself with good people, and that you’re one of these “good people” for those in your life. That’s why in this episode my friend Caitlyn and I: 

• Break down how to be a decent friend and human
• How triggers get in the way of vulnerability 
• How to show up for other people as a friend

If you want a real, lasting friendship, if you want #friendshipgoals, you have to earn it. You have to show up, and be the friend they need- the friend that you would want. 

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Instagram: https://instagram.com/complete_bycaitlin   Ignite: http://completebycaitlin.com/ignite   Shadow Work WTF? Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/2LC3UfnbRuoiSOcAC5yMwd?si=XHw57dwhTYW4gB5frNrTdQ

Today we’re going to talk about The 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse. No, not that apocalypse, don’t get all excited and throw all your predictions about end times at me.

Relationship professional John Gottam is an expert on all things lasting connection, and he has defined the 4 most prominent nails in the coffin when it comes to break-ups and divorces- The Four Horsemen of a Relationship Apocalypse, if you will. These are dynamics I’ve encountered in my own relationships, and I’ve seen them countless times with clients. That’s why in the latest episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationship Podcast I’ll go more into:

• The 4 dynamics to look out for that affect relationships
• How to flip the script
• How to “fight better”

If you can break these bad habits and patterns, and embrace newer ones that ease rifts and distance instead of perpetuating them, you might just find yourself a love that lasts. It’s not about being right, it’s about being in a loving respectful relationship you both cultivate and care for, even during the harder moments. 

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I’d like to take this episode to talk about a topic I feel often gets pushed under the dating rug- the almost relationship.

We’ve all been there- you go on a few amazing dates, he’s wonderful, you’re communicating and connecting and planning events months in the future. You feel solid, and you just KNOW you're both on the same page. He mentions meeting his parents. This is it. Any day he’ll ask you to be in a real honest to goodness relationship…only he dumps you instead. What gives?

That’s why we delve deeper into:

• How to get over a relationship that never was
• Ways to be there for yourself in hard times
• How to tap into your power for future relationships

Look, even if you get married and ride off into the sunset, happily ever afters aren’t guaranteed. So better that you learn to grieve connections big and small so that you’re prepared and know how to rely on your greatest resource- yourself. No one can take your own power from you once you’ve found it. 

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One of the most common things I hear when working with women is “I just want real love.” Dude, I hear you. I know. And sure, to some degree, lots of men are the worst. But, I have news for you- you’re part of the problem. 

Look, it’s never fun to identify what we’re doing wrong. But if you feel like you’re in an endless loop of attracting men who are super fun and hot and things go well until they crash and burn- eh, sorry but you’re employing a pattern. You’re doing it to yourself and you’re getting in your own way. That’s why on the latest episode of the podcast I talk more about:

• How you might be repeating bad dating patterns
• Things to look out for as you date
• Qualities to look for in a partner

Basically, you’re not asking the right questions. You’re probably so focused on the chemistry in the relationship that you’re neglecting the compatibility. Lucky for you though, I’ve got some great tips on how to combat this, and make sure your next relationship is set up for success. Get ready to find yourself some real love.

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Oh hey, all my Anxious Attachment bitches. How’s it going? By “it” I specifically mean dating- not great? Well, that’s why I’m here so listen up. Before you know it we’ll have you dating appropriate men with confidence and ease. No stalking your phone/ their social media pages. No word vomit to fill weird silences. 

If you struggle with Anxious Attachment it can feel like you need to “fix” yourself before you start dating- but this isn’t super realistic. If you struggle with anxiety in your relationships, it’s probably stemming from past trauma that you’ve reacted to and carried throughout your entire life. That doesn’t just disappear no matter how much work you do to overcome it. That’s why in the latest episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast I’ll help you:

• Figure out why you date the way you do
• How you can date while doing the work
• How to overcome Anxious Attachment

Honestly, you might never overcome Anxious Attachment completely and maybe you shouldn’t. It’s made you who you are up to this point.

But it doesn’t define you. Maybe the trick is learning to live with it, identifying where it can lead you astray when dating and accepting that working through it is going to be a lifelong journey of learning and acceptance. 

Want to learn more about what Anxious Attachment is? Listen to Episode 31: Attachment Style Series - Anxious Attachment!

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Common belief of the collective “them” would have you believe that you have to be a perfect and flawless version of yourself in order to actually love yourself. I would argue that in subscribing to this school of thought, you’ll be waiting forever to love yourself, and I don’t love that for you. That’s why in this next episode I go more into:

• What self-love actually is
• How to accept all parts of yourself

Ultimately you’re the one who gets to decide what you believe and how you’re treated by yourself and others. Rejecting who you are, or being nasty to yourself isn’t going to help set the bar all that high, and really the person you’re hurting is you and your inner child. 

You and little you deserve love, compassion and respect, but you have to believe that just as much as I do for you to get there. Let’s go. 

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What gives? Things were going so well, you felt like you really liked this guy. Why then, seemingly out of nowhere do you now loathe the very way he breathes? 

This, friends is the dreaded ick; the sudden irritating or off-putting thing you randomly notice after things were going so well.  I got more information about it, but you’re not gonna like it. Because it’s actually not about him or his teeth or gremlin toenails or any other slightly off-putting things that really shouldn’t be automatic dealbreakers if aside from them you genuinely like the person. In this episode we’ll talk more about:

• What the ick actually is
• How to avoid it
• How to discern between the ick and intuition

The truth of the matter is, the ick is actually more about you than it is about him. This means that you hold most of the cards in terms of dealing with, and getting past it and in doing so, finding real and meaningful love.

It’s gonna take work though, and honestly about yourself and the way you seek connection. Let’s go. 

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What’s your game plan with your emotions? Do you even have one? Do you go radio silent and withdraw, as you clutch tea and stare out the window, preferably at the rain? OR do you enjoy leaning into intense feelings, embracing them as you throw epic tantrums and verbal barbs? Is there a balance between the two? There is! Especially when we first go from suppressing to expressing, it can be hard to find the balance between validating yourself and your emotions and using it as carte blanche to word vomit every feeling that crosses your mind. On the latest episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast we’ll talk more about:

• Differences between emotional expression and dumping
• Tools to help you cope better
• Ways to make sure you’re expressing yourself appropriately 

A truly emotionally empowered woman discerns when and what and how to share because she knows that at the end of the day, she’s got this shit. She may turn to others for perspective from time to time, but she doesn’t need to make them feel like overwhelmed shit in order to feel better.  

Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

 

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