One of the most common things I hear when working with women is “I just want real love.” Dude, I hear you. I know. And sure, to some degree, lots of men are the worst. But, I have news for you- you’re part of the problem. 

Look, it’s never fun to identify what we’re doing wrong. But if you feel like you’re in an endless loop of attracting men who are super fun and hot and things go well until they crash and burn- eh, sorry but you’re employing a pattern. You’re doing it to yourself and you’re getting in your own way. That’s why on the latest episode of the podcast I talk more about:

• How you might be repeating bad dating patterns
• Things to look out for as you date
• Qualities to look for in a partner

Basically, you’re not asking the right questions. You’re probably so focused on the chemistry in the relationship that you’re neglecting the compatibility. Lucky for you though, I’ve got some great tips on how to combat this, and make sure your next relationship is set up for success. Get ready to find yourself some real love.

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Oh hey, all my Anxious Attachment bitches. How’s it going? By “it” I specifically mean dating- not great? Well, that’s why I’m here so listen up. Before you know it we’ll have you dating appropriate men with confidence and ease. No stalking your phone/ their social media pages. No word vomit to fill weird silences. 

If you struggle with Anxious Attachment it can feel like you need to “fix” yourself before you start dating- but this isn’t super realistic. If you struggle with anxiety in your relationships, it’s probably stemming from past trauma that you’ve reacted to and carried throughout your entire life. That doesn’t just disappear no matter how much work you do to overcome it. That’s why in the latest episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast I’ll help you:

• Figure out why you date the way you do
• How you can date while doing the work
• How to overcome Anxious Attachment

Honestly, you might never overcome Anxious Attachment completely and maybe you shouldn’t. It’s made you who you are up to this point.

But it doesn’t define you. Maybe the trick is learning to live with it, identifying where it can lead you astray when dating and accepting that working through it is going to be a lifelong journey of learning and acceptance. 

Want to learn more about what Anxious Attachment is? Listen to Episode 31: Attachment Style Series - Anxious Attachment!

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Common belief of the collective “them” would have you believe that you have to be a perfect and flawless version of yourself in order to actually love yourself. I would argue that in subscribing to this school of thought, you’ll be waiting forever to love yourself, and I don’t love that for you. That’s why in this next episode I go more into:

• What self-love actually is
• How to accept all parts of yourself

Ultimately you’re the one who gets to decide what you believe and how you’re treated by yourself and others. Rejecting who you are, or being nasty to yourself isn’t going to help set the bar all that high, and really the person you’re hurting is you and your inner child. 

You and little you deserve love, compassion and respect, but you have to believe that just as much as I do for you to get there. Let’s go. 

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What gives? Things were going so well, you felt like you really liked this guy. Why then, seemingly out of nowhere do you now loathe the very way he breathes? 

This, friends is the dreaded ick; the sudden irritating or off-putting thing you randomly notice after things were going so well.  I got more information about it, but you’re not gonna like it. Because it’s actually not about him or his teeth or gremlin toenails or any other slightly off-putting things that really shouldn’t be automatic dealbreakers if aside from them you genuinely like the person. In this episode we’ll talk more about:

• What the ick actually is
• How to avoid it
• How to discern between the ick and intuition

The truth of the matter is, the ick is actually more about you than it is about him. This means that you hold most of the cards in terms of dealing with, and getting past it and in doing so, finding real and meaningful love.

It’s gonna take work though, and honestly about yourself and the way you seek connection. Let’s go. 

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What’s your game plan with your emotions? Do you even have one? Do you go radio silent and withdraw, as you clutch tea and stare out the window, preferably at the rain? OR do you enjoy leaning into intense feelings, embracing them as you throw epic tantrums and verbal barbs? Is there a balance between the two? There is! Especially when we first go from suppressing to expressing, it can be hard to find the balance between validating yourself and your emotions and using it as carte blanche to word vomit every feeling that crosses your mind. On the latest episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast we’ll talk more about:

• Differences between emotional expression and dumping
• Tools to help you cope better
• Ways to make sure you’re expressing yourself appropriately 

A truly emotionally empowered woman discerns when and what and how to share because she knows that at the end of the day, she’s got this shit. She may turn to others for perspective from time to time, but she doesn’t need to make them feel like overwhelmed shit in order to feel better.  

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Sure, sometimes circumstances in life can get hard, but for the most part, you set the tone for your own life. Are you living in the land of the desperate, constantly in a panic about the world running out of men and yourself running out of time and fun and youth and money? If that’s all you fixate on, and all you look for it literally wires your brain to look for every bad thing out there; it’ll even invent things to worry about so you’re caught up in a never-ending cycle of cynical mania. Lucky for you in this episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationship Podcast, we’ll talk more about:

• Why perfect isn’t real
• Why striving to be enough is better than striving to be perfect

Here’s the thing; while seeking improvement and growth is great, you’re also great just as you are, right now. And if you start viewing yourself as already enough, you’ll take so much pressure off of yourself and others. You’ll stop holding yourself and others to impossible standards. You’ll be happier and lighter and more open to the good.

So train your brain to find it, because while it’s good to check in with yourself sometimes and see where you could improve, it’s never good if it comes at the expense of loving yourself in the present moment. 

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Nothing can take a date from great to…not great quite like unrealistic expectations. Maybe he is just as charming as your text banter. Maybe you both really do have the same chemistry in person as you do over the phone. There is a chance that he is the one. But for the love of god, please just let things unfold naturally. Not sure how to do this? Well lucky for you, on the latest episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationship Podcast we’ll talk more about:

• How expectations can ruin a relationship
• Ways to make sure yours are realistic

Isn’t dating hard enough without projecting a bunch of bullshit onto some poor sap just because you’re lonely or desperate or don’t have good boundaries? You owe it to him and yourself to make sure that you’re keeping pace with emotions appropriately, in a healthy way. Let me help you figure out how. 

Exciting news! The doors are now open for Swipe Right…in this 2-day live workshop, you’ll learn how to date like a mother fucking queen! https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right 

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Is there anything more exciting or terrifying than a first date? No other event is so full of hopeful potential as well as awkward dread; It’s a weird thing for sure. And then there are the “first date tips” that usually revolve around what to wear and what to eat (or not eat because - patriarchy) and a whole host of other superficial bullshit that doesn’t actually help you establish a connection (if there’s even potential for one). So, what the hell are you supposed to do? Well, lucky for you, on the latest episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast I talk more about:

• Dating tips to foster a true connection
• Ways to take the pressure off yourself

Dating can be a vulnerable and scary experience, but most things that are worth it are vulnerable and scary. If you never try, you’ll never know who you could have met, and how they could have changed your life for the better. This doesn’t have to mean meeting “the one”; genuine connection with any other human is a gift, and can profoundly affect who you become. So get out there, and be brave. 

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I’ve been thinking a lot about thoughts. Specifically the power we give them over us and over situations in our lives. Don’t get me wrong, honoring your feelings is important, but when they demand you spiral out and assign meaning to things that aren't true, it’s easy to get bowled over by them- and half the time they aren’t even true. In this episode I talk more about:

• How situations we panic about are inherently neutral 
• How to stop the panic spiral 
• Ways to step into reality with a calm openness 

I read somewhere that you can’t blame yourself for knee-jerk reactionary thoughts, they just pop up, but if you can learn to take back the power from subsequent racing thoughts and instead embrace a curious acceptance of reality and its various possibilities, you’ll be a lot happier in your general life, as well as your dating one. You have more power than you think you do.

Get on the waitlist now! For Swipe Right, my new 2-day program that will get you noticed on dating profiles! We will come up with a plan together to find your dream man and build your dream relationship. 

https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right

Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that your dating with the right intentions sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

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Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

Intention is everything, babes, so you have to figure out yours. WHY do you want to date? I am telling you right now, if you haven’t done *the* work, you shouldn’t get back out there. It’s easy to know when you shouldn’t date, but it’s harder to know if you’re finally ready.

We all know that we need to feel complete and in love with ourselves before we can ever expect to enter into a healthy partnership. But if you’re fulfilled but lonely, is that so bad? Well you’re in luck because on this episode of UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast we talk all about:

• Signs you’re ready to date
• How motivations define what you’re looking for

You know where you’re at with yourself better than anyone, so you’re going to have to be really honest about your motivations for dating. But no matter what I hope you know that desiring true connection is never a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of you hoping to find what you deserve- a companion to do life with. 

Get on the waitlist now! For Swipe Right, my new 2-day program that will get you noticed on dating profiles! We will come up with a plan together to find your dream man and build your dream relationship. 

https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right

Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that your dating with the right intentions sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:

Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning

Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/