Have you updated your weight loss goals in the past few years? Or do you still aim for the body you had 20 years ago? Today we’re going to talk about why your goals need to change with you as you grow and as you age. And doing this intentionally can feel wonderful.

In February we talked about subjects that related to how you eat. And In March we mostly talked about how we think and how it affects all that we do and how we eat.

And this month, in April we are talking about caring for ourselves…the love part of my Eat, Think, Love Program to stop overeating. Today we are working on weight loss goals as you change, as you age. Because hating yourself and your body as you age is so self-defeating.

This is an important subject. No matter what your age is right now.

If this feels true to you, I want you to ask yourself if you’re looking at yourself through the eyes of the HS or college version of you?

And right now, are you maybe 10 or 20 or 30 years beyond that time of your life?

Things change with time, and your goals change too, even your goals for how you want to eat. And what you think your weight should be.

So, how are your goals defined right now?

I want you to acknowledge your current driver…the thing that motivates you to do this personal work on yourself.

And ask yourself, is your ‘why’ really current?

Join me as we look at weight loss as we age: how to think about it so it’s achievable and feels good.

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If you’re one of my listeners who runs to the fridge or pantry at the first sign of a bad mood, you’ll want to listen carefully to our coaching session today, called: Name that mood, so you don’t go to food!

Here’s what we’re going to talk about today:

What happens when you name your feelings?

Learn the skill of naming your feelings with me today, so you can take the fear out of feeling whatever you feel. No more eating to escape a feeling!

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You say you will eat or not eat something. You feel determined. But before you know it, you’re eating it! What just happened? And why did it happen? That’s what I’m going to talk about with you today.

Alright…. imagine this: You want something, you want to be able to do something, like wait until you are hungry to eat, or stop eating when your body says: enough! and you try to do it.

But your new goal smacks into what you think

And remember, beliefs are just thoughts that you’ve practiced thinking repeatedly, so they are just very firmly entrenched in your mind, and they come up often.

How do you even know what you believe?

That sneaky little voice in your head that tells you you’ll probably fail, or says things like: who are you kidding, …. whenever you make a decision, once again, to stick to your eating plan. That inner voice that challenges you and shakes your confidence. Which was probably shaky to begin with, right?

It’s kind of amazing but the truth is that that little voice holds all the power over you.

But it is all about your thoughts because they lead you to all the things you do, and all the things you say you’ll do and then end up blowing off.

Let me give you some new thoughts that you can borrow from me that will help your eating match your thoughts…. you will learn to do what you say you want to do.

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You know in these coaching sessions we talk a lot about stopping your overeating and becoming a natural eater. That is the way to weight loss. But what if you have trouble with imagining being a natural eater because you can’t visualize what that would even feel like?

That’s exactly what I’m going to help you with today.

I talk a lot about your goals, not just for a number on the scale but your three big goals so that you can stop overeating. Of course, you want to do that because ending overeating is what leads to weight loss.

To me, these are the ultimate goals if you are struggling with your overeating and your weight. But what if you can’t even imagine being a natural eater? There are two parts to this dilemma…you can’t imagine that it’s possible for you because you’ve never really been a natural eater, and you don’t even really know what it would be like, look like, or feel like to live this way. So, you don’t have a sense of what you are aiming for.

Do you clearly know what it would look like to be a natural eater? Here are some ideas:

I think you get the idea! Listen in and learn how to start imagining this for yourself. You can do this!

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Do you ever step on the scale and hate the number you see?

These scenarios are common if you are still struggling with overeating.

‘I just can’t figure this out!’ And you feel confused and frustrated.

Instead of wasting time on blame and confusion and frustration, I want you to get in the habit of pausing and assessing where you are.

What needs to be tweaked?

No drama, no blame. But I do want you to take responsibility for where you are. Because responsibility means you are in charge of your results. So, you can be in charge of making changes and getting a different result.

No blame. Just responsibility.

Ask yourself: what am I doing, thinking, feeling, eating, to create my current results?

You don’t need to change everything.

Figure it out, my friend.

Also see the Math of Weight Loss  Part I and Part II

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When you aren’t hungry, and you know you should turn down food that is offered to you, do you fear missing something great? This is FOMO. The fear of missing out. You might also tell yourself that you only live once! This is YOLO.

What if instead you had JOMO? The joy of missing out. This could be a game-changer for you. Here’s your coaching session for today.

Today we’re going to talk about a few things:

2. We will talk about FOMO…fear of missing out, what it means, whether you are doing it and what it would sound like if you are.

3. Then we will cover YOLO, you only live once, a common thought that you might use to rationalize saying yes to food you aren’t hungry for.

4. And finally, I want to introduce you to JOMO, a way of thinking that is the antidote to FOMO and YOLO that you, the smart woman who wants to stop overeating, can use to be able to say no to food your body doesn’t need and feel good while you do it.

Join me today as I help you shine the light on some of the most common thoughts that drive you to struggle saying no to food, even when you are not at all hungry.

If you can master the fear of missing out, and the rationalization that you only live once (so you better grab all the pleasure you can) you will be one step closer to being in charge of you.

And as a smart woman, isn’t that what you want?

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Do you ever set goals and then forget them? Life is so full and busy that it’s hard to stay focused even if it’s something you really want.

Today we are going to dive deep into keeping your important goals on the front burner of your mind. So, forgetting about them is just not an option.

Here’s the problem we’re going to work on and solve together today:

Think about things you’ve done before that were multifaceted projects, like planning a wedding, raising a child, building a house, or starting a business. You wouldn’t sit back and wait for things to happen.

Losing weight and stopping your overeating is just like any other big project.

We can’t lose weight until we stop overeating, right?

We are going to work on helping it all happen right here.

But one problem many of my FG members run into is this:

If this is you, you’ve come to the right place.

Download the worksheet here.

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Do you have a whole collection of excuses that you use to justify your overeating? If the answer is yes, welcome to the club. Today we’ll look at those excuses and talk about how to let them go.

So, what are we working on today? Here we go!

But even if you know the basics I’m guessing that you still overeat.

You know you should wait for hunger to eat.

And you think that these urges are commands

Let’s look at some of the reasons you might be doing this….and then we’re going to look at some of the most common excuses to see if you are using any of these. Let’s get rid of those ‘innocent’ lies you tell yourself to perpetuate your overeating.

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Do you think once you start eating that you cannot stop, until the food is gone? Or maybe until you are ready to explode? Today we are going to talk about why you might want to be able to interrupt your eating and how to do it.

Welcome to your coaching session for today.

You want to periodically stop for several reasons:

Have you ever been in a movie theater, eating popcorn? The movie ends, you look down at the empty container with surprise. Where did the popcorn go? Who ate that?

You were so distracted and on autopilot that you missed the pleasure of the popcorn.

You might rebel against doing this.

But I want you to pause and assess where you are.

Join me today and practice getting back in charge of your eating by learning how to pause and interrupt yourself to see where you are.

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Do you eat right before bed?

Let’s look at the reasons for wanting to eat before bed that come from physical hunger, from physical causes.

What if you ate your usual amount at dinner but less dense?

And maybe your habit is emotional…. you feel sad or frustrated with your day, and this is like your bedtime gift for yourself.

So, with all these possible causes, how do you decide whether to eat or not?

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