What if “calm” isn’t emotional regulation — but a trauma response? In this compassionate teaching episode, Amie Woolsey clarifies what emotional regulation really is (and isn’t). Discover how to recognize suppression, spiritual bypassing, and fawning patterns — and learn how to come back to safety in your body without pretending to be “okay.”

Perfect for anyone healing from betrayal trauma, addiction dynamics, or relational wounds.

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Referenced in this episode:

• Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents - by Lindsay C. Gibson

• Feelings Wheel

Chapters

• 00:53 Clarifying Misconceptions About Emotional Regulation

• 02:15 What Emotional Regulation Is Not

• 05:34 Understanding True Emotional Regulation

• 16:28 Challenges in Practicing Emotional Regulation

• 27:10 Tools for Emotional Regulation

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