Have you ever been blindsided by something so painful it split your life into a “before” and “after”? Loss, betrayal, trauma, uncertainty—whatever the moment—you’re not broken, you’re human.

In this powerful episode of the Building Resilience Podcast, Leah Davidson unpacks the core habits of resilient people—through the lens of nervous system science. Inspired by Lucy Hone’s TED Talk on grief and resilience, Leah shares how real healing happens: not by pushing through, but by tuning in to your body, building capacity, and connecting with others.

This episode will help you:

✔ Understand what your nervous system is really doing when you feel stuck

✔ Shift from survival mode into regulation

✔ Use simple tools to hold both grief and growth

✔ Learn why co-regulation and community are essential to healing

✔ Stop thinking your way out—and start healing from the inside out

Featuring practical tools like “The Safety Sequence,” you’ll walk away with insights you can apply in real time to come back to safety, connection, and wholeness.

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Timestamps:

00:00 – If You’ve Ever Been Blindsided by Pain…

00:26 – Welcome to Episode 230: What Resilient People Do

01:29 – Inspired by Lucy Hone’s TED Talk on Resilience

02:17 – Why Resilience Lives in Your Body (Not Just Your Mind)

02:40 – Lesson 1: Resilient People Know Crap Happens

03:07 – What is Neuroception? How Your Body Scans for Danger

04:21 – Fight, Flight, Freeze & Fawn: Understanding Survival States

05:33 – These Responses Aren’t Flaws—They’re Intelligent

05:59 – Lesson 2: Resilient People Choose Where to Focus

06:49 – Equal Airtime: Holding Grief & Gratitude Together

07:45 – Bottom-Up Tools: Breath, Grounding, Journaling, Doodling

09:37 – Lesson 3: Ask “Is This Helping or Harming Me?”

10:26 – Re-Engaging the Brain: Why This Simple Question Works

11:22 – Befriending Your Nervous System: The Foundation of Healing

12:08 – What Is the Safety Sequence & How to Use It

13:02 – What Regulation Actually Looks Like in Real Life

13:25 – Lesson 5: You Don’t Have to Do It Alone

13:55 – Why Co-Regulation Is Essential for Healing

14:47 – You Can Grieve and Grow at the Same Time

15:07 – Nervous System Work Is the Path Home

Nervous System Journaling Club:

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