Why Can't I Just Accept Myself?

Have you struggled to "just accept yourself?"

Do you feel a resistance, a judgment, or sense of "but I'm not acceptable!"?

This is common for people who have suffered through frequent criticism, critiquing of themselves, and rejection from family, peers, or community.

These patterns of rejection taught that person see themselves as unacceptable or unwanted.

This becomes encoded in the body as sensations of shame, loathing, and resistance towards themselves.

In the mental realm, habits of comparing yourself to others, magnifying the undesirable differences, and then telling yourself you should be "xyz" develop.  This compounds the felt-sense of being "wrong" in some way.  

No wonder it is so darn difficult to accept yourself.

So, how does one get to real acceptance?

I start students off with acknowledging the PAIN they've experienced in being rejected, criticized and critiqued.

Often that pain is laced with shame, fear, anxiety, and confusion. These are valid, natural reactions to repetitive rejection and criticism.  

This view of legitimacy can help you begin to shift your narrative about yourself from "I'm unacceptable because..." to "I felt unaccepted and it hurt. I felt shame about myself in response to their criticism and felt like hiding myself away."

This is acceptance in action, as you're embracing your lived reality with warmth, care, and curiosity.  

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[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]

This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts and are ready for indepth healing, peace, and freedom.  

I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.

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1) The real cause of codependency and how that is crucial to your lasting freedom and healing

2) The three hidden needs codependency is trying to satisfy and how these play a central role in lasting healing

3) The 8 factors you must have in your healing work to successfully end your dependence on codependent behaviors to survive and thrive

4) My strategy that implements the 8 Factors with gentleness, warmth, and care

You will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week Live training, The Healing Codependency Essential Trainings, which help you begin to implement the 8 Factors in your daily life.

Here are the workshop details:

Date: Saturday, July 29, 2023

Class Time: 12pm Mountain Time

Investment: Free

Replay Availability:  The replay will be available the evening of July 29, 2023

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