It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People

Why Connection Is So Important in High Conflict Interactions


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One of the cornerstones of successful management of high conflict interactions is connection. In fact, it is the “C” in the CARS Method®—a set of principles for managing high conflict disputes and interactions.

In today’s episode, Megan and Bill talk about this exceedingly important principle of connection, including:

  • why connection is foundational to successful interactions with high conflict people
  • the brain’s request for connection
  • why it is so difficult to remember to connect before problem-solving
  • the impact of connecting—using EAR Statements
  • whether connection and EAR Statements can be over-used

LINKS

  • BOOKS
    • Calming Upset People with EAR
  • ARTICLES
    • Calming Upset People Fast with EAR
    • The CARS Method®
  • Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
  • Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
  • All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
  • You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

  • (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
  • (02:21) - Intro to Connection
  • (03:22) - Foundational to Successful Interactions
  • (05:14) - Connection vs. Isolation
  • (06:17) - Connecting with an HCP
  • (09:17) - How the Brain's Involved
  • (14:43) - Hostility Bias
  • (16:00) - Misreading Cues
  • (18:56) - Difference in Cultures
  • (20:36) - Remember to Connect First
  • (25:36) - EAR Statements
  • (27:44) - Can You Overdo It?
  • (30:52) - Wrap Up
  • (31:24) - Reminders

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