Why does healing sometimes feel worse than staying in emotional chaos? In this episode, we explore borderline attachment from a psychodynamic perspective, focusing on why calm, stability, and “getting better” can feel empty, painful, or even deadening. When chaos has functioned as attachment, letting go of it isn’t relief — it’s loss. This is a deep dive into the hidden grief, resistance, and fear that emerge when emotional turbulence begins to loosen.

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Dr. Anthony Mazzella is a psychoanalyst and psychodynamic psychotherapist specializing in narcissism, personality disorders, and relational dynamics.