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Why We Self-Sabotage After Betrayal: The Hidden Fear Blocking Your Healing


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Why We Self-Sabotage After Betrayal: The Hidden Fear Blocking Your Healing


"The only way to show someone your emotional wound is to act wounded."

Why do we sabotage our own healing after betrayal? In this episode, Lora Cheadle unpacks the deep fears that keep us stuck in suffering, even when we desperately want to move on. From punishing our partners to protecting ourselves from hope, success, or vulnerability, Lora walks listeners through the unconscious ways we stay small—and how to stop. With raw honesty, personal stories, and expert insight, this episode is your invitation to finally show your healing instead of your pain.

 

TOP 3 TAKEAWAYS:

  1. Self-sabotage after betrayal is a subconscious attempt to stay safe, avoid disappointment, and keep the emotional spotlight off ourselves.
  2. Many betrayed partners resist healing to "prove a point" or to punish their partner—unconsciously hurting themselves in the process.
  3. Healing becomes possible when you commit to feeling good, receiving love, and breaking your own patterns of isolation and protection.
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    About Lora:

    Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It’s Not Burnout, It’s Betrayal.

    After uncovering her husband’s 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy.

    A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery.

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