Fan Favorite: This episode originally aired on: February 16, 2022. What up, homies! It's your girl Lisa Bilyeu, and welcome back to the Women of Impact podcast, where we dig deep, break down barriers, and build the life of our dreams! Today, I'm bringing you a mega-inspiring convo with a true force of nature, Payal Kadakia!

Guys, if you've ever felt tethered by expectations or like the world is pulling you away from your true passion—listen up. Payal Kadakia, the brains and the beating heart behind ClassPass, is here to drop some serious wisdom. She's navigated the complexities of cultural identity and societal pressures to create a billion-dollar company—all while staying true to her love for dance! It’s all about finding your freedom train and getting the hell off the one that doesn’t serve you.

We're diving into the expectations train, exploring how Payal hit the brakes on what she 'should' do and started carving her own unique path. Trust me; this episode is all about unlocking your identity, embracing your true calling, and being bold enough to pursue it.

So, whether you’re an entrepreneur at heart fighting against the tide or someone who’s ready to just own your unique self, Payal’s story is the blueprint you’ve been waiting for!

SHOWNOTES

00:00 Dance: A Path to Personal Fulfillment

05:13 Living Authentically Without Guilt

07:43 "From Corporate to Entrepreneur: A Journey"

09:56 Embracing Dual Identity Through Dance

13:48 Balancing Dual Communities

16:22 Dance Teacher Role Reversal

21:42 Overcoming Pressure to Prioritize Ambition

22:36 Setting Boundaries for Emotional Health

27:14 "Finding Your True North"

30:32 Embracing Risk with a Plan B

32:41 "Living by 'Must' Drives Success"

38:48 Embracing Emotions, Reviving Momentum

41:47 Cultural Passion Fuels Unicorn Success

44:39 "Facing Failure Head-On"

45:54 "Transform Fear into Action"

50:25 Overcoming Self-Doubt in Business

54:08 Balancing Professional and Personal Success

55:54 Quarterly Goal-Setting for Impact

59:02 "Check Out This Book!"

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Picking up where we left off, I’m diving into the vital question everyone keeps asking: “If it was that bad, why didn’t she just leave?” With my incredible co-host, criminal behavioral analyst Laura Richards by my side, we unpack the real mechanics behind coercive control, trauma bonding, and why leaving an abusive relationship is never as simple as it seems.

Laura breaks down expert testimony, practical warning signs, and how cultural myths keep victims trapped—while offering tangible ways for women to identify and reclaim their autonomy.

In this episode, we spotlight the power of knowledge, advocacy, and why changing the law is crucial for women’s safety. Whether you’re questioning your own relationship or looking to help a friend, this show delivers deeply personal insights and concrete tools for recognizing manipulation and abuse.

SHOWNOTES

Why victims of abuse can’t “just leave”: The truth behind manipulation and entrapment

[00:00:46] Dr. Dawn Hughes’s court testimony—explaining trauma bonding, cycles of abuse, and coping mechanisms

Grooming, love bombing, and why abusers alternate between charm and cruelty

[00:03:38] Violent resistance and why “fighting back” can be even more dangerous

The law’s failure to recognize coercive control—and its real-world impact on survivors

Laura’s checklist: Signs you’re in a coercively controlling relationship

The isolating power of charm, threats, and double standards in abusive dynamics

Economic and sexual abuse as tools to limit agency and sustain dependency

[00:25:02] The trauma bond: Why crisis can push victims closer to abusers, not further away

Where to get more information and support—including quizzes, resources, and direct expert help

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This is a Fan Fav episode. What up, my homies! It’s your girl Lisa Bilyeu, and welcome right back to the Women of Impact podcast, where we call out the BS, build our confidence, and go after the life we freaking deserve. If it’s your first time vibing with us, what up, my homie? If you’re a returning OG, I’m SO freaking grateful you’re here—let’s level up together!

Today I’m bringing you something raw, real, and probably the kick in the butt you need to drop the fake confidence act and step into your honest, badass self. We’re diving into another electrifying Instagram Live Q&A where I break down how to embrace your confidence without crossing over into cocky territory—and trust me, we get super real about what that means, how to draw the line, and why you never have to dull your shine for anyone.

This episode is jam-packed with:

Practical confidence-building strategies

Setting boundaries (especially when people comment on your body)

Navigating the difference between real confidence and bravado (and why sometimes you need to fake it till you make it, guilt-free)

Forgiving yourself, letting go of needing anyone else’s validation, and stepping into a whole new version of you—at ANY age.

SHOWNOTES

00:00 Intro—Welcome and Why Confidence Matters

00:53 Free 4-Step Confidence Workshop Announcement

01:42 Why Ratings/Reviews Mean Everything for the Podcast

03:04 Q&A Starts: How to Exude Confidence without Looking Cocky

06:06 Setting Boundaries When Others Comment on Your Body

12:47 The Power of Writing Your Boundary Scripts

13:10 Confidence vs. Competence—How to Tell & the “Fake It” Debate

14:58 When Confidence Looks Like Narcissism

15:20 Loving Yourself Unconditionally & Building Internal Validation

20:18 Validation Through Achievements vs. Internal Worth

21:26 "Be So Good, They Can’t Ignore You"—Best Advice Ever (And Handling Rejection)

26:40 Relationship Qs—“Should I Go Back After a Great Date?”

28:39 How to Know If Ending a Relationship Was Right

31:25 Rebuilding Confidence After Lifelong Self-Loathing

33:46 Habits & Boundaries as Stepping Stones to Self-Worth

37:14 Wrap Up—Stay Tuned, Submit Your Qs, and Build Your Confidence!

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When a man’s words and actions just don’t add up, your gut kicks in—but is it intuition, or paranoia? I’m Lisa Bilyeu, and in this episode, I sit down with world-renowned interrogator and body language expert Scott Rouse, who’s trained with the FBI, to break down the subtle cues that reveal if someone’s being honest, hiding something, or even manipulating you. From decoding mixed signals and love bombing to learning the red flags of a true psychopath, Scott gives us a toolkit for self-protection and radical self-trust. This is essential wisdom for every woman who wants to feel safe, seen, and strong—whether you’re dating, doing business, or just tuning up your radar for the people in your life.

SHOWNOTES

Is he being faithful or just hiding it? How details and “qualifiers” in answers give away dishonesty [00:00:29]

Why psychopaths don’t show fear—and how to spot them through body language and the “psychopathic stare” [00:01:16, 00:11:19]

The dangers of love bombing: How predators mirror your voice & mannerisms to build false connections fast [00:03:09]

Matching and mirroring: When is it bonding, when is it manipulative? [00:05:12]

Nonverbal red flags in relationships: Closed posture, lingering eye contact, asymmetrical smiles, and self-soothing moves [00:06:52–00:13:30]

What your intuition is telling you when someone is “too nice”—and why you must trust it [00:24:20]

Does alcohol make people worse liars? Quick-fire myth-busting on deception [00:26:59]

How Scott’s FBI interrogation tactics—like “us against them”—can reveal truths in any relationship [00:18:09–00:21:54]

Watch for sudden tension, withdrawal, or “stepping back” during key questions—they’re distancing from the lie [00:14:07–00:15:52]

Building your confidence: Never let anyone make you doubt what you’re sensing or seeing in your own life [00:27:40]

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This is a Fan Fav episode. Strap in, my friends—because today is a masterclass on navigating conversations with the narcissists in our lives. Whether it’s a parent, a partner, a boss, or a long-time friend, licensed clinical psychologist and viral expert Dr. Ramani is back in the Women of Impact hot seat. She’s breaking down exactly what NOT to do when faced with manipulation—and giving us the practical tools to protect ourselves, set unbreakable boundaries, and finally take back our power.

We’re diving deep into the emotional landmines of narcissistic communication, how to break the cycle of defending and explaining, why your psychological “passwords” must be guarded, and how to find support and healing—even if you’re not ready or able to walk away. Get ready for real talk, revolutionary strategies, and the reminder that you never have to serve up your pain to someone who will weaponize it against you.

SHOWNOTES

The real impact of words: Why “sticks and stones” is a harmful myth

00:06:25 – How to recognize and respond when someone tries to invalidate your reality

Dr. Ramani’s DEEP technique: Don’t Defend, Engage, Explain, or Personalize

The dangers of sharing your deepest vulnerabilities with a narcissist

00:13:44 – Weaponized vulnerability: When your wounds become someone else’s ammunition

Narcissistic parents and partners: Why history repeats itself and how to break free

Can you ever be happy in a narcissistic relationship? What joy looks like with limits

00:32:09 – “Hang time” and why breaking away gets harder the longer you stay

Top mistakes to avoid: Never call out a narcissist, and always have an exit strategy

Practical steps, resources, and daily support from Dr. Ramani’s powerful online community

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Everything changed when women dared to speak up. This week, with my co-host, criminal behavioral analyst Laura Richards, and special guest ex-CIA spy Andrew Bustamante by my side, we’re dissecting the walls of power, money, intimidation, and silence surrounding Diddy’s alleged abuse. We break down Cassie’s mother’s pivotal testimony, explore the mechanics of coercion, sex trafficking and racketeering charges, and lay out practical strategies for any woman feeling trapped by threats and shame. We ask the uncomfortable questions: When the world won’t protect women, what does justice really look like? And—how do we take back our stories, our safety, and our agency, even when going up against the untouchable?

SHOWNOTES
00:46 – Cassie’s mother’s “prima facie” email: timelines, threats, and intimidation
02:33 – Calculated power: How premeditated violence and possession shape an abuser’s profile
04:16 – Proving a criminal enterprise: Money wires, business involvement, and racketeering law
07:45 – Taking back the narrative: Laura’s & Andrew’s advice for women fearing blackmail or shame
10:48 – The double standard: Possession, jealousy, and the “kingdom” of coercive control
13:32 – Building a criminal case: Why the prosecution is laying groundwork with subtle, corroborating testimony
18:43 – “The Punisher” testimony: Consent, coercion, and the nuance of sexual trafficking charges
22:25 – Why RICO/racketeering needs “two acts, two people”—and the legal importance of patterns
27:42 – David James’s inside view: Leverage, blackmail, hotel cash bags, and organizational conspiracy
32:53 – The bystander effect: Why even celebrities don’t intervene, and what contracts & NDAs protect
40:20 – Friendships, fear, and trauma bonds: How isolation fuels repeated abuse

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This is a Fan Favorite episode. What up, homies! It's your girl Lisa Bilyeu, and welcome back to another fire episode of Women of Impact! Today I am beyond pumped to bring you a conversation with someone I have been dying to sit down with—spiritual mentor, artist, entrepreneur, the incredible founder of Shrimu, AND the phenomenal partner to Rich Roll, the one and only Julie Piatt!

Girl, if you've ever wondered how to find your soul’s purpose in love, business, and life, or if you’ve struggled to balance being a freaking badass independent woman while in a relationship with another powerhouse, this episode is for you! Julie and I get REAL on what it means to grow through relationships (even the hard, failed ones!), how to truly own your path, and the deep spiritual work that actually creates transformation—not just in your marriage, but inside of YOU.

Julie doesn’t hold back, sharing her journey through three marriages, including one that was abusive, and exactly how she turned those painful chapters into the raw fuel for her mastery and spiritual growth. We talk self-love, boundaries, deep partnership, how to communicate when things are messy, AND how the feminine can finally step INTO her sacred, powerful role. Plus, we geek out on how to build a mission-driven company like Shrimu without losing yourself.

You do not want to miss these wisdom bombs. So get comfy, grab your journal (and maybe some vegan cheese, just sayin’!), and get ready for some truth that will absolutely shake up your perspective!

SHOWNOTES

00:00 Introduction: Owning your power in life & relationships

02:02 Julie’s marriages: Learning from “failures” and evolution

06:35 Navigating abuse and reclaiming responsibility

09:46 How to stop being a victim and become a creator in your life

13:11 The myth of martyrdom & why self-love comes first

14:41 Moving from pain: Entering a new, fairy tale relationship

18:34 Why authentic communication is the secret to powerful relationships

20:42 Building trust, safety, and depth in marriage with Rich Roll

24:33 Sharing values vs. sharing lifestyles—what matters most

27:02 Turning points: When friction means growth, and when to walk away

29:07 Letting go, forgiveness, and choosing your marriage every day

34:26 Surviving financial collapse together and the power of perspective

36:31 Being seen: How Julie stays in her creative power as Rich’s partner

41:02 The feminine rising: Stepping into your equal, divine place

45:10 Harmony vs. balance: Evolving alongside your partner

49:10 The big questions: “How do you want to evolve? What are you hiding?”

50:02 Sacred sexuality & creative energy in long-term love

54:18 Open-eye mirror meditation: Building self-connection and love

58:32 The birth of Shrimu: From healing to purposeful business

1:03:13 Breaking free of expectation & building a mission-driven brand

1:06:09 The role of spiritual devotion in everything you do

1:08:19 Where to find Shrimu & why it’s changing lives

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This is a Fan Favorite episode. It’s your girl Lisa Bilyeu, and welcome back to another killer episode of Women of Impact—the podcast where we don’t just talk about change, we freaking LIVE IT. And today, I’m bringing you something extra special: a Not-So-Solo Q&A, where I get to bring someone SUPER close to my heart onto the show—my very own mum, Diana!

We’re sitting down, raw and real, right in the thick of quarantine, and breaking down some of the juiciest questions you guys have thrown my way:

How do you help a loved one create real transformation in their life?

What actually works to shift your OWN mindset and habits—especially when it feels impossible?

And, let’s get honest, how do you spark change when you feel like you’ve tried everything and nothing’s working? (Spoiler: It’s not about nagging!)

You’ll get actionable advice on separating emotion from logic, building new habits from a place of self-love INSTEAD of self-hate, and helping those you love…even when it feels freaking impossible. Plus, you’ll hear the mind-blowing story of how my mum, at almost 70, lost over 115 pounds and transformed her health—not because anyone forced her, but because she found her WHY.

SHOWNOTES

00:00 Lisa kicks off with a solo Q&A and hints at a special surprise guest

00:47 Debunking assumptions—nope, it’s not Tom!

01:12 Lisa shares call-in/live Q&A logistics and invites

03:14 How to separate emotion from logic when making decisions

04:36 Setting boundaries for emotional recovery and habit-building

06:42 Motivation for working out—switching from guilt and punishment to emotional connection and self-challenge

10:18 Special guest reveal: Lisa’s mum, Diana, joins the show

10:54 Diana’s health transformation: losing 115+ pounds at almost 70

13:25 What finally made Diana want to change—her internal shift and finding the right WHY

15:04 Overcoming old patterns, habits, and excuses

17:36 The surprising power of removing pressure and setting small, realistic time frames

18:33 Diana answers: Did she try weight loss surgery? What really worked?

19:53 Navigating family support without crossing into judgment

20:42 Should you share inspiring content with loved ones? (Why ultimately, change has to come from within)

22:21 How to talk to people you love without making them feel “not enough”

23:10 Lisa’s journey balancing caring for her mum’s health while keeping unconditional love front and center

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Picking up where they left off, Lisa and Toure go even deeper into the building blocks of emotional safety, honesty, and sexual wholeness in modern relationships. Toure shares hard-won wisdom from his own evolution—from being the “red flag man” in his twenties to the deeply self-aware, supportive partner he is today.

With practical tips, deeply personal anecdotes, and no-holds-barred honesty about his own missteps and transformation, Toure lays out a roadmap for women who want not just romantic partnership, but genuine intimacy, healing, and growth inside and out.

SHOWNOTES

35:06 – Strategies for pressing without pressuring: Building real emotional safety

42:19 – Affirmation over criticism: Why men need to know you see them as enough

54:42 – Phrases to avoid: Common communication mistakes that deeply wound men

1:13:15 – The possibility of change: Toure’s journey from unfaithful partner to supportive husband

1:36:43 – The contrast between toxic relationships and partnerships where both partners soar

2:03:58 – Final reflections: How to champion each other’s dreams and create wings, not weight

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Lisa Bilyeu welcomes author, relationship counselor, and pastor Toure Roberts for an unfiltered conversation about what it truly means to be a high-value man—and how women can spot genuine green flags instead of falling for toxic cycles. With years of experience counseling couples through the ups and downs of partnership, Toure brings powerful insights into the emotional complexity of men, exploring how childhood, cultural expectations, and a lack of affirmation shape the inner worlds and needs of men in intimate relationships.

In part one, Lisa and Toure dismantle popular narratives about neediness, strength, and gender roles, offering both personal stories and practical wisdom. From the long-term pitfalls of viral, drama-driven content to the realities of male vulnerability, they explore what women really need to know about men—and how both partners can participate in building safe, affirming, and deeply connected relationships. If you’ve ever wondered why men seem to have it all together on the outside, but struggle to open up on the inside, this episode delivers answers that might just shift your whole approach to love.

SHOWNOTES

00:00 – Why focusing on green flags matters more than toxic red flags

00:31 – The trap of viral drama and the “Jerry Springer Effect” in modern content

01:16 – Oprah’s approach to long-term impact vs. chasing views

02:32 – The real responsibility of content creators: affecting culture meaningfully

07:17 – Toure’s experience counseling couples: What women misunderstand about men’s needs

08:03 – The myth of the simple man: Why men are secretly complicated and needy

09:37 – Internal battles men face with responsibility, identity, and the question: Am I enough?

12:01 – Toure’s personal story: The lifelong weight of being a strong provider

14:09 – The seeds of insecurity sown by critical father figures and lack of affirmation

17:49 – How childhood lessons shape adult relationships and unhealthy dynamics

19:48 – The difference between being a “mama’s boy” and toughening up—and why both energies matter

22:08 – Breaking down the damaging lessons young men absorb about emotions and love

24:16 – How being denied vulnerability leads to emotional suppression in men

25:16 – Early breakups and heartbreak: Toure’s inside view of trust and male friendships

27:26 – “I need you”: What happens when both partners acknowledge their need for one another

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