Wonder Why People-Pleasers Attract Emotional Abusers?

Growing up in an emotionally abusive home, or an overly compassionate home, or even and emotionally neglectful home can set you up to accept emotional abuse. It's not your fault!

Maybe, you had a perfectly lovely home, but you were encouraged to put other people's needs, wants, expectations, and desires ahead of your own. That can happen, and you being so giving gets sadly and badly taken advantage of by a #Hijackal.

People pleasers make great targets--and easy pickings--for a Hijackal, an emotional abuser. And, yes, of course, there may well be verbal abuse, financial abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, or spiritual abuse, as well. Nasty!

Some people are surprised when I say that they are not here to make other people happy. It sounds like a really good thing to do. And, doing things that please others in an equal, reciprocal, and mutual relationship is a very good idea. (That's the mutuality part!) However, in an inequal, non-reciprocal, and non-mutual relationship, it all goes terribly sideways, and you can be very hurt by it.

This episode gives you twenty-five ways that you may have been setup to appeal to an emotionally abusive person, a #Hijackal. I invite you to think about each one because each one you change will improve the quality of your life. It is unlikely to improve the quality of your relationship with a Hijackal, though. They want you to remain as you were, taking what they dish out.

But, no! Time for a change. When you see these 25 things, you can change them, and that is a very good thing.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Insights into the effects of your childhood on your current relationshipsWhy being overly compassionate plays into a Hijackal's hands25 ways that people pleasing ways set you up to accept emotional abuseWhy it's important to see these 25 ways so that you can change them nowHow to undertake Escaping the Hijackal Trap

When you're ready to reclaim your personal power and rebuild your life in a healthier way, I'm here to help. I wish you well.

Big hugs! Rhoberta

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