This is a rant. The rules of the game are not the same. The abuse is real. This page is called Emotional Abuse Coach so if this content is not for you, please go elsewhere, like Not Emotional Abuse Coach, and comment there. You are showing how un-empathetic you are to those who are going through Narcissistic Abuse. This has been happening since I created the page and I do not wish to argue, or even reply, to the comments, but I will not act like they aren't part of the problem because they are. This is how people react to victims of abuse and it PERPETUATES THE PROBLEM OF ABUSE.

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{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

A listener asked me this question: how do I leave an abusive relationship? It is different for everyone. This is an introductory episode on how to leave and what you should  think about. I named it Part 1 because there could be endless episodes on this topic. I would love if you send any follow-up questions to me at [email protected] or DM me on Instagram @emotionalabusecoach

If you are wondering if you are in an abusive relationship, I highly recommend signing up for my Relationship Recovery program (link in bio, or on emotionalabusecoach.com). It will guide you through identifying abuse, understanding the cycle of abuse, understanding the bare bones of a trauma bond, and learning how to set boundaries and the first steps of healing, so you can feel like yourself again.

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{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

A lot of my clients will ask, what is a healthy relationship? What is a safe relationship? It can feel impossible to know after you've suffered from Narcissistic or Emotional abuse. This podcast covers 5 qualities of a safe relationship. 

If this podcast is triggering to you, I invite you to unpack it further by joining my Relationship Recovery program. https://emotionalabusecoach.com/relationship-recovery-course/

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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

The phrase "don't rock the boat," is toxic. People say it all the time, and you think they're being supportive, but it actually can be another way abuse is enabled.

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{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

You have more control over your thoughts than you think. Even though it's hard, it is important for us to take responsibility for our thoughts. This episode unpacks why that is important and how you can start having more control.

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{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

It can be very hard to connect to your wants, needs and feelings when you are in an Emotionally Abusive or Narcissistic Relationship. This 8 minute meditation is intended to help you begin connect to you again.

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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

"When reminding my partner that he needs to take responsibility for his emotions, and that I can't be blamed for his anger, he responded that it should be the same for me and that he shouldn't be held responsible for my feeling abused, and that I should be responsible for those feelings."

This was a question that came in through my Instagram. I answer this question in the episode.

Here are the resources I mention in the episode:
Free PDF - Lundy Bancroft, "Why Does He Do That" - https://emotionalabusecoach.com/why-does-he-do-that/

Link to Book - Lundy Bancroft, "Why Does He Do That" - https://amzn.to/3EhCurh


Website: www.EmotionalAbuseCoach.com
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{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Heal: https://emotionalabusecoach.com/relationship-recovery-course/
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner: https://emotionalabusecoach.com/communication/

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{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

When you're in a Trauma Bond it feels impossible to break. It feels like love. When we are in it, we don't really know that we want to break a trauma bond. We just know that we want to stop feeling the way we're feeling, but we can't leave.

Lisa Sonni is an expert on Trauma Bonds. We explore trauma bonds and why they’re so hard to break, how you feel when you are trauma bonded, and what impedes healing. 

As a survivor of domestic assault and narcissistic abuse, Lisa's experience led her to become a certified Life & Relationship Coach who helps clients of all genders and walks of life overcome challenges stemming from traumatic partnerships. 

You can learn more about Lisa here: https://strongerthanbefore.ca/

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{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Matt's behavior on Love is Blind is the text book definition emotional abuse. Their interactions triggered me all season long, and after seeing Colleen visibly scared on the reunion, I wanted to record a podcast breaking down the behavior and looking at their interactions through the lens of Emotional Abuse.

Netflix should add a trigger warning to the episodes and provide resources for victims of abuse.

Cycle of Abuse: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1916632/10300770

Netflix "Love is a Rollercoaster": https://www.instagram.com/p/CkyVAlnOdMm/?hl=en

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{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Tina Swithin, the founder of One Moms Battle and Advocate in the Family Court System, discusses her story, post-separation abuse, strategies a safe parent can employ to cope, and some of the current issues in the Family Court System.

Tina survived a “Category Five Divorce Hurricane” while acting as her own attorney in a high-conflict custody battle that turned her family’s life upside down for over a decade. While divorces are never easy, Tina quickly learned that divorcing a narcissist or another high-conflict individual escalates family law cases to levels few can comprehend.

This episode is beneficial to anyone navigating the Family Court System. It will help you feel seen, heard and validated.

Tina's website: https://www.onemomsbattle.com/

Additional Resources: https://www.onemomsbattle.com/resources

National Safe Parents Organization: https://www.nationalsafeparents.org/

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{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner