Do you feel like there are "people" in your head that tell you what you should be doing, must be doing, or else?

Do you feel like others are watching or scrutinizing you?

When you go to make a decision or do a thing, do you find yourself evaluating if it is the "right" thing to do or find yourself fixated on what others may think or feel about it?

Do you feel like you don't have a right to make choices for yourself, but instead should be following a rule?

These are expressions of internalize oppression of your personal authority.  This is typically injected into your mind and body through "being obedient".

You see, obedience is the idea that we must conform our behaviors to a set of regulations and rules set by a supposed authority outside ourselves.  

This is often how schools, family, and social systems work.  Obedience is paired with fear and threats.  That is where obedience gets its "power".

IN codependency, obedience becomes the avenue for gaining a sense of acceptance, inclusion, approval, and safety.  This comes at the cost of our personal power, autonomy, and really knowing ourselves.

Obedience becomes a power trap, keeping you conforming to others in exchange for your vital needs of inclusion and love.

Learn how to break yourself from this trap in today's episode.

Breaking Obedience Practice v1:

Step One:  Build awareness of the obedience impulse. Use the PAO tool here: https://pao.freetheself.com

Step Two:  When you're aware of the obedience impulse, acknowledge it. "Ah, I see.  I feel like I have to obey.  What would I do if I trusted, just a bit, in my own authority to direct my actions?"

Step Three:  Acknowledge the answer to that and do it.  Observe and record the results.

Sometimes anxiety, fright, panic can emerge in this. I recommend regulation.  Get the Daily Regulation Practice here: https://drp.freetheself.com

Sometimes shame or guilt emerges.  Clear on those emotions using the clearing tools here:

Shame: https://youtu.be/3Uij0WNG0_8

Guilt: https://youtu.be/WoU3HTFAJUs


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[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]

This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts.  

I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.

Specifically, you will learn:

1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing

2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness

3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoy

You will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings.  These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.

Here are the workshop details:

Date: April 26, 2023

Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)

Cost: Free

Replay Availability:  The replay will be available April 27, 2023

Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com