Your ADHD Besties

Hellloooo gorgeous ADHD besties!

On today's show:

• Listener question: Tara and Grace share their ADHD late-diagnosis stories. They explain how they first learned about ADHD, why Tara got diagnosed twice almost a decade apart, stimulant meds and struggling with low self-esteem.

• Dilemma: A cute listener shares that she regrets not taking her ADHD diagnosis more seriously in her 20s. She asks how to move past self-shaming and be kinder to herself. 

• Ireggy Seggy with a Guestie: Grace's hubby Eric is here with a tongue-in-cheek quiz to determine once and for all "who is the most neurotypical"? The answer might (won't) surprise you!

RECS

• Tara recommends watching Alone while doing bed yoga. 
• Grace recommends an episode on The Imperfects podcast: Fern Brady - autistic in a non-autistic world.
• BOOKS: No Bad Parts, Different Not Less, ADHD 2.0 (see our IG for more!) @adhdbestiespodcast

Your ADHD Besties,
Grace & Tara xx

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Keywords: ADHD women’s podcast, ADHD for women, AuDHD in women, ADHD support for women, autistic ADHD, ADHD empowerment, ADHD tips for women, ADHD self-care, ADHD strategies for women, neurodivergent women’s experiences, ADHD mental health for women, ADHD personal stories, ADHD late diagnosis, ADHD focus tips, ADHD executive functioning, ADHD and RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), ADHD coping strategies, ADHD and motherhood, ADHD treatment for women, women’s ADHD podcast, ADHD medication for women, ADHD wellness for women, ADHD community for women, women with ADHD support, ADHD resources for women, ADHD and anxiety in women, ADHD podcast for neurodivergent women.

Hiii besties! ✨

On today's show:

• Divergent dilemma #1 - Lilian asks if she should find a new hairstylist because she's got ADHD-related RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria). Dw, we've got you covered bby!

• Divergent dilemm #2 - A newly-diagnosed ADHDer is asking about hyperactivity, stimming and rumination. BABEEE you're asking the right girls! We're stimming QUEENS 👑 and ruminate like it's a competitive sport. 🤾

We talk about the neuroscience of ADHD brains, emotion wheels and how getting specific about our stressors can help break rumination cycles. We also share why anxiety medication has been life-changing for us. 

• Ireggy Seggy: Tara quizzes Grace on bizarre celebrity hotel requests... Which celeb requested no pictures of horses anywhere in his room and more importantly, WHY?? 🐴🧐

REC LINKS (not sponsored!)

• Grace recommends The Law According to Lidia Poët on Netflix
• Tara recommends the Boody wireless t-shirt bra 
• Books we mention: ADHD 2.0 by Hallowell and Ratey and Emotional Agility by Susan David

❤️ Your ADHD besties,
Grace & Tara xx

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Hiiiii ADHD besties! ✨

On today's minisode:

We talk for way too many minutes about Weetbix (sorry!)

• Divergent dilemma - A cute listener asks 'my therapist suggested I do meditation while I wait for a diagnosis and access to ADHD medication but I find it impossible'. Grace (who is a qualified breathwork and nervous system educator) explains why meditation is hard for our brains and how to make it ADHD friendly.

We also talk about our favourite disco fish and how cute and special she is. 🪩🐠

We love you and your sexy brainsssss. 

Your ADHD besties,
Grace & Tara xx

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Cute supportive stuff: Thanks to our episode sponsor Future ADHD; finally a planner that doesn't hurt your ADHD brain. 😇

Music by Vocalista

You’ll love this podcast if you’re a woman, non-binary person or man with ADHD, AuDHD, or someone that you love is neurospicy. We are ADHD brains that LOVE ADHD brains. 

Keywords: Women with ADHD, ADHD podcast, mental health, late-diagnosis, neurodiversity, self-care, empowerment, ADHD support, ADHD tips, ADHD strategies, ADHD motherhood, ADHD personal stories

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Heyyyyy ADHD bestie babes! ✨

On today's show:

• Grace shares a drama from her week about how ADHD meds have led to appetite suppression/meal skipping, and how a perfect storm last Friday ended up with a little trip to the hospital. 🫠🏥 (A reminder for this segment, that we're not doctors and seek professional help if you need.)

• Divergent dilemma - Grace asks Tara for help with the executive functioning of feeding herself, because it is a STRUGG-LE. 😩 We discuss the ADHD tendency towards a dopamine-seeking relationship with food, how to deal with appetite suppression and how to change our inner-narratives that packaged food isn't nutritious and that we have to eat 'CLEAN' wholefoods all the time.

• Ireggy Seggy: This week we asked YOU to contribute to the podcast with our brand new segment called "Confession Session". 🙊 We asked our Instagram besties "What's your latest secret hyperfixation/recent impulse buy??" and we're reading out your answers. 💬🫠

• Let's get the verdict on 'barefoot shoes'. Tara hates them, Grace is agnostic. Vote in our POLL (on Spotify or IG @adhdbestiespodcast!)

REC LINKS:

• Tara recommended the Harry Potter fanfic book she's obsessing over - Manacled, by Sen Lin Yu
• Grace recommended Video Speed Controller Chrome extension, so you never have to sit through a mind-numbing YouTube ad again, and can skip the ads!

Aaaand, we'll be back with a MINISODE on Monday morning featuring the second divergent dilemm (we didn't have time for in this ep today). Keep an eye out! 👀

Your ADHD besties,
Grace & Tara xx

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Keywords: ADHD women’s podcast, ADHD for women, AuDHD in women, ADHD support for women, autistic ADHD, ADHD empowerment, ADHD tips for women, ADHD self-care, ADHD strategies for women, neurodivergent women’s experiences, ADHD mental health for women, ADHD personal stories, ADHD late diagnosis, ADHD focus tips, ADHD executive functioning, ADHD and RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), ADHD coping strategies, ADHD and motherhood, ADHD treatment for women, women’s ADHD podcast, ADHD medication for women, ADHD wellness for women, ADHD community for women, women with ADHD support, ADHD resources for women, ADHD and anxiety in women, ADHD podcast for neurodivergent women.

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Hiii ADHD besties!

On today's show, we have our very first ADHD GUESTIE 🥳 the wonderful Alice Gendron. Alice is a diagnosed ADHDer, author and founder of The Mini ADHD Coach @the_mini_adhd_coach (with an audience of over a million across her multiple platforms).

Alice has been such a huge supporter of the podcast since we launched 😍 and joins us all the way from France to help answer some dilemmas and play a round of our all-time-fave Ireggy Seggy: 'choose your torture'. You're going to fall in LOVE with Alice just as much as we did. ❤️‍🔥

• Dilemma #1 - "I ALWAYS overspend at the supermarket" - We talk about why grocery shopping is so stressful for ADHDers and what happens when the nervous system is overstimulated by the harsh lights, sounds and too much choice. We discuss shopping without a grocery list, how to avoid ending up with piles of unused/rotten food... and Tara gives us hacks around food planning, hyperfixation meals and how to reduce food fatigue - it involves thinking laterally about ingredients. PLUS - Link to Tara's visual shopping cart TikTok video

• Dilemma #2 - "How do I get my Mum to understand that I'm not lazy and I'm trying my best?" - In this commonly asked dilemma we discuss the traits of Inattentive ADHD, how the value of the mental/emotional energy we give others can often be overlooked and why parents may feel guilt about 'not picking up' on their child having ADHD earlier.

• Ireggy Seggy: "ADHD Choose Your Torture: Pt. 2" - We play choose your torture with Alice, making her choose between eating with an ugly fork, wearing lip gloss on a windy day and watching a long lecture on moss. 🫠

LINKS:

• Alice recommends: the Endel app for focus music/binaural beats designed for ADHD brains

• Grace recommends the 'butt-face cream': Avène Cicalfate+ Restorative Protective Cream which is her #1 rescue moisturiser for repairing the skin barrier 

• Tara recommends: At home IPL hair removal machine that she loves because it doubles as an ADHD stim 🏆

Alice's Instagram: @the_mini_adhd_coach
Alice's website: theminiadhdcoach.com
Alice's book: The Mini ADHD Coach
The TMAC Future ADHD Planner

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Keywords: ADHD women’s podcast, ADHD for women, AuDHD in women, ADHD support for women, autistic ADHD, ADHD empowerment, ADHD tips for women, ADHD self-care, ADHD strategies for women, neurodivergent women’s experiences, ADHD mental health for women, ADHD personal stories, ADHD late diagnosis, ADHD focus tips, ADHD executive functioning, ADHD and RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), ADHD coping strategies, ADHD and motherhood, ADHD treatment for women, women’s ADHD podcast, ADHD medication for women, ADHD wellness for women, ADHD community for women, women with ADHD support, ADHD resources for women, ADHD and anxiety in women, ADHD podcast for neurodivergent women.

Hey ADHD best frandzz ✨

On today's show:
• We talk about how auditory stimulation can help keep us regulated - Grace made a 'brain massage" 💆🏻‍♀️🎶 playlist that we can all use to calm our overloaded-but-cute nerves: https://spoti.fi/3Uv0wrb

• Tara recommends the 'Women and ADHD' podcast with Katy Weber. Here's the link to her ADHD and food episode: https://bit.ly/44xYefo

• Grace recommends a surprising dishwasher hack (??) and the book 'No Bad Parts' by Richard Schwartz and talks about how it helped her understand herself better as a woman with ADHD: No Bad Parts book

• Dilemma #1 - "Am I a fraud if I don't get diagnosed?" - We answer this complicated listener question and discuss whether we feel a diagnosis is worth it and why, self-identifying vs. self-diagnosis in ADHD and the privilege in the diagnosis process and attaining government support for ADHD in Australia with the NDIS.

• Dilemma #2 - "I have ADHD and motherhood is nothing like I expected" in this very relatable dilemma we discuss ADHD and parenthood, the overstimulation/sensory overwhelm of being a mother and the increased executive functioning load that can lead to ADHD burnout as well as looking at anxiety in women with ADHD

• Ireggy Seggy: "Unnecessary ADHD Deep Dive" we play guess the celebrity favourite foods, Grace gets way too competitive (as always) and we utter the unfortunate phrase "Beiby loves a bog".

Tom Holland Lip Sync Battle: https://bit.ly/4bcbdWE

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Keywords: ADHD women’s podcast, ADHD for women, AuDHD in women, ADHD support for women, autistic ADHD, ADHD empowerment, ADHD tips for women, ADHD self-care, ADHD strategies for women, neurodivergent women’s experiences, ADHD mental health for women, ADHD personal stories, ADHD late diagnosis, ADHD focus tips, ADHD executive functioning, ADHD and RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), ADHD coping strategies, ADHD and motherhood, ADHD treatment for women, women’s ADHD podcast, ADHD medication for women, ADHD wellness for women, ADHD community for women, women with ADHD support, ADHD resources for women, ADHD and anxiety in women, ADHD podcast for neurodivergent women.

Hey hey ADHD besties! ✨

On today's show:

• We discuss alexithymia in ADHD and how difficult it can be to recognise our emotions 🤷‍♀️ as well as Grace’s experience with starting ADHD medication in the last few weeks.

• We recommend a brow tint that lasts three days 💁‍♀️ and ASMR music that will soothe that lil’ dopamine deficient noggin. 🧠

• Dilemma #1 - A spicy question to start us off this week, an anonymous cutie asks us why we think ADHDers might be more likely to be in toxic relationships/attract walking red flags 🚩 and how dopamine plays a role.

• Dilemma #2 - In our second dilemm we discuss how to keep your home/office organised and the many hacks our silly brains have accumulated that help us - and we promise the answer isn’t - "just make sure to always keep your space tidy so it doesn't get out of control" because that’s not even advice.

• Dilemma #3 - Tara answers a question about binge eating, ADHD and weight gain/weight loss and the answer will probably surprise you.

• Ireggy Seggy: “Things people say that make ADHDers stressed” - A snappy title for a silly little game - but don't even try to find us a more annoying saying than “the early bird gets the worm” 🙄

🕺🏻🪩 We made you an ADHD brain massage playlist on Spotify with all the ASMR and other nice for our brains stuff! Get it here ⤵️
https://adhdbesties.com/free-stuff/

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Keywords: ADHD women’s podcast, ADHD for women, AuDHD in women, ADHD support for women, autistic ADHD, ADHD empowerment, ADHD tips for women, ADHD self-care, ADHD strategies for women, neurodivergent women’s experiences, ADHD mental health for women, ADHD personal stories, ADHD late diagnosis, ADHD focus tips, ADHD executive functioning, ADHD and RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), ADHD coping strategies, ADHD and motherhood, ADHD treatment for women, women’s ADHD podcast, ADHD medication for women, ADHD wellness for women, ADHD community for women, women with ADHD support, ADHD resources for women, ADHD and anxiety in women, ADHD podcast for neurodivergent women.

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Keywords: ADHD women’s podcast, ADHD for women, AuDHD in women, ADHD support for women, autistic ADHD, ADHD empowerment, ADHD tips for women, ADHD self-care, ADHD strategies for women, neurodivergent women’s experiences, ADHD mental health for women, ADHD personal stories, ADHD late diagnosis, ADHD focus tips, ADHD executive functioning, ADHD and RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), ADHD coping strategies, ADHD and motherhood, ADHD treatment for women, women’s ADHD podcast, ADHD medication for women, ADHD wellness for women, ADHD community for women, women with ADHD support, ADHD resources for women, ADHD and anxiety in women, ADHD podcast for neurodivergent women.

Heyyy ADHD besties! 🫠👯

On today's show;

• We discuss our obsession with god-tier frozen Indian food and why Depop is lifeee.

• Answer a dilemma that navigates the minefield of RSD and what to do when friends don't respond to texts 

• Our second dilemm is super serious in nature... we look at why clicking pens is akin to torture and ask the all-important question: should she steal the pen? (vote in our Insta poll!)

• Dilemma no. 3 - "my boyfriend doesn't believe I have ADHD" 🥸 *cue boo from the crowd* - we discuss how ADHD traits aren't always consistent and that's actually exactly what ADHD looks like.

• Ireggy Seggy: In this ireggy seggy we shudder over sensory icks... or are they dicks? and Grace outs herself as the only existing millennial top sheet enthusiast 😱

We love you and your superior brains that don't work very well
- 👩🏻‍🦱 Tara &  👱🏻‍♀️ Grace x
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Keywords: Women with ADHD, ADHD podcast, mental health, neurodiversity, self-care, empowerment, ADHD support, ADHD tips, ADHD strategies, ADHD personal stories 

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Keywords: ADHD women’s podcast, ADHD for women, AuDHD in women, ADHD support for women, autistic ADHD, ADHD empowerment, ADHD tips for women, ADHD self-care, ADHD strategies for women, neurodivergent women’s experiences, ADHD mental health for women, ADHD personal stories, ADHD late diagnosis, ADHD focus tips, ADHD executive functioning, ADHD and RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), ADHD coping strategies, ADHD and motherhood, ADHD treatment for women, women’s ADHD podcast, ADHD medication for women, ADHD wellness for women, ADHD community for women, women with ADHD support, ADHD resources for women, ADHD and anxiety in women, ADHD podcast for neurodivergent women.