A lot of men and women are afraid to say or do anything that might make their spouses uncomfortable. They are also afraid of taking 10 steps backwards when they are trying to move towards a great sex life- so a lot of us are unsure what To Do when we notice we want better for ourselves and our marriages in our sex lives. In this episode we discuss what to do so that we can evolve and mature in our sex lives together.

This is a repost of an old podcast episode. *Irene Vivanco is our guest today. She is sharing about her experience with being one of my private clients for 6 months and all the benefits that came from our time together. Irene has also become a friend and I hired her to work with me on creating my ecourses for my online school, Your Turned on Desire. What’s in this episode for you: •Turning on your desire for sex is so much more than having more sex. •Learning how to prioritize what you want as a woman, wife and/or mother is beneficial for everyone. •When your sex life is fulfilling, and not a source of contention or frustration anymore, it’s amazing what doors open for you in your personal life. •In a sexually successful marriage, everyone gets what they want in life and this manifests itself in the bedroom. •What both people in the marriage want is a satisfied woman! •When she knows what she wants and isn’t apologetic, guilty or confused about herself- then everyone thrives. Links:

Your Turned on Desire eschool and courses are avialable here: www.coachingwithjamee.com

Follow Irene on IG: https://www.instagram.com/vivanco_irene/ @vivanco_irene

Irene’s website: vivayourvision.com

I get many messages from women about their husbands looking at porn or using porn and I thought it was time to to start a conversation about porn and give you some useful things to think about and do. There will be other episodes and conversations to have but I think this is a good start to a topic that is hurtful and confusing to many people. My goal here is to help and to be useful to you whether you look at porn or not.

Are children understandably good reasons to not have a magnificent sex life or are they the inspiration we need to prioritize good pleasurable refueling sex? I have to be very careful how I think about my children. I don’t want to send them messages that they are the reason for why I don’t have the life and marriage I want.

Why do we feel pressure to improve our sex lives? Because we want something. Our desires (what we really really want) come from inside of us. This internal pressure is nagging at us to take action towards what we want. Women who feel the pressure want an amazing sex life. Women who don’t feel the pressure aren’t listening to this podcast and aren’t bothered by the sex struggles in their marriages. Being bothered and annoyed and wanting the sex struggles to go away is a message from your internal desires. Are we going to listen to them or are we going to avoid them and push them away? Ignoring them doesn’t make them stop nagging at us. Enroll in New Year, New Sex Life here: www.coachingwithjamee.com click on “PROGRAM” for the details.

Are you open to just one shift changing everything for you? Are you open to just one thought or perspective being the one shift that created an amazingly fun and easy sex life for you? In this episode I share some of my shifts that have happened over time and some of my clients shifts that have happened. These shifts were the catalyst that changed everything for us. If you would like to invest a little bit more of your time, money and energy into dealing and healing your relationship with your sexuality and then ditching all the struggles that come with low desire, come join my online program. What you desire your sex life to be like is worth investing in. You’re worth investing in. I love you. Check out program details here: www.coachingwithjamee.com

Talking talking talking about why you don’t want more sex and how your husband needs more sex, doesn’t work. Because this isn’t addressing the actual problem of you, as the woman, not being turned on. You’re just not turned on. That’s simply put. The talk doesn’t turn you on either. If it did, you wouldn’t be having the talk. The not enough sex problem can only be solved when you learn the art of increasing your desire and how to be turned on. Waiting for your husband to turn you on isn’t going to work either because then you still don’t know how your sexual desire works. Sexual desire is an inside job and waiting for someone to figure out your own insides is low investment and will always create more low desire. Enroll in my new program here: www.coachingwithjamee.com enrollment ends Feb 1, 2023.

I didn’t realize that before I could enjoy my sex life with my husband there were some things that needed to be healed. We were trying all kinds of different things like herbs, position books, vacations, lingerie, weekly date nights etc…. And none of these were working because I wasn’t healing and learning about the art of desire. Sexual desire is an art form, an energy, a way of being…and without this awareness & knowledge- nothing else was going to work. Listen to this episode to ignite your curiosity about desire, healing & wanting. Enroll in my newest online program until February 1, 2023 here: www.coachingwithjamee.com

If we don’t deal with our sexuality, it will deal with us later. What does it look and feel like if we don’t deal with our sexuality? What does this mean? I talk about this in this podcast. I also share with you a snippet from a video in my new program called New Year, New Sex Life. I’m enrolling in this program all of January. Enrollment ends Feb, so if you are ready to make your sex life a source of joy in your marriage then I wouldn’t wait to enroll. The time time it will be available to enroll is next year at this time. Read about the details of this program and enroll here: https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/new-year-new-sex-life

There are several things happening in a low sexual desire marriage. And unfortunately the person who gets labeled as the low desire partner is usually dismissing several things that are under the surface for them. One way we create low desire is by self betrayal in many areas of our lives. Check out the details and/or enroll in my newest course/program here:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/newsexlife

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coachingwithjamee.com