One of the several obstacles that get in the way of enjoying sex happens when life offers us struggles and when our relationships have breakdowns, moments of disconnect and suffering. You have good reasons for not wanting sex during struggles, and you also don’t have to stay in this cycle. You have permission to seek out anything that is good, even in the midst of pain. Here is a link to my online courses: https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/?_ga=2.91805786.1317859792.1652195534-2079670856.1643905528

Understanding your unique sexual desire will literally change every conversation you have with your spouse. When you understand your desire you will experience lots of body positivity, you can teach your spouse how you work, and if they don’t resist the process and are open to receiving your beautiful information, you will both enjoy a sexually successful marriage which means no more frustrating and annoying conversations about how you need to increase your desire. Plus you’ll feel really freakin happy. To great sex and beyond! Jamee xoxo and PS my online courses are available!!! Here is the link to the courses: https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/?_ga=2.91805786.1317859792.1652195534-2079670856.1643905528

If we are tired of sex being an issue in our marriages then as women there are definitely some things we can do to get ourselves out of this challenge! There are 8 steps from going from sex being an issue to sex being a non issue and then, when you’re ready, sex being something you look forward to and enjoy. The first step is Embracing Your Sexuality. And there are 5 stages to understanding what embracing your sexuality means. In this episode we go over the last 4 stages of embracing your sexuality, what makes them hard, and what skills you’ll need to move through the stages and make sex a non issue. Link to courses: https://sso.teachable.com/secure/1209779/checkout/3938850/intro-to-turned-on-desire-bundle

Just like everything in life, if you want to move out of your sex challenges in your marriage and into your happily ever after of sex being a non issue in your life, then there are steps you will need take along the path. And while you take each step, you’ll need to practice the skills that will get you through to the next step. In this episode I will tell you what the steps are to sex being a non issue in your marriage, and we will focus in on step one- which is embracing your sexuality. Lucky you!! My online school is now LIVE: https://sso.teachable.com/secure/1209779/checkout/3938850/intro-to-turned-on-desire-bundle

Sex is an enjoyable activity you do with your spouse. If you and your spouse are not fully enjoying your sexual relationship there is no one to blame. You’re just trying to follow the wrong sex rules. All you need is to take the energy you used to use on blaming and trying to get your spouse to change and simply use that energy to practice the correct relationship skill set that will create an enjoyable sexual relationship.

In this episode we discuss the importance of Education, Compassion, and Partnership in creating a successful sex life in our marriages. I give a few examples on how to do this, focusing mostly on how to be more of a sexual partner. I also give a brief intro on how important the hormone oxytocin is for women when it comes to desiring touch, sex, and orgasms. And lastly, I explain 2 rules that need to be dropped in order for women to enjoy more pleasurable sex with their husbands.

Women in thriving marriages where sex is a non issue believe that sex is not more important than anything else. They don’t believe sex is less important than any other part of their relationship or life. They believe that sex is an equal slice of the pie to every other slice. If you find yourself thinking that your spouse thinks about sex too much or you worry that if you don’t bring up sex that your spouse might forget about sex but you both want a stronger sexual connection, then this episode is for you. We talk about making sex equal and what happens when we don’t. Also what some of the obstacles are that get in the way of making sex equal- especially for women with responsive sexual desire (which is sometimes referred to as low sexual desire). Seeking this balance and equality with sex makes everyone relax and enjoy more good sex instead if sex looming so large in the marriage or being something that is dreaded. To contact me for anything (including a spot in my coaching group that is starting January 21st) email me at [email protected]

This is a continuation of what to do instead of THE TALK THAT DOESN’T WORK. We focus on a skill that women need to desire more sex and 3 obstacles that get in the way. And we also discuss a mistake that men make when it comes to supporting their wives sexual desire and the skill he needs to increase sexual desire and to just feel more confident as a man and husband.

As I mentioned in episode 3, the “we aren’t having enough sex talk” isn’t helping couples have & enjoy more sex. It’s creating obligation sex or pity sex instead. Communication doesn’t always mean talking. Communication can happen through the vibe and energy we carry around with us and it can also happen through our behaviors, lifestyle choices and our inactions. There’s a certain set of skills and lifestyle choices that a husband and wife can learn that will turn on and up a woman’s sexual desire. I introduce some of them here in this episode. Its more productive to spend your time and energy in these skills and behaviors then to have another talk about needing more sex.

Everyone in the world says that communication is the most important part of a long lasting delightful marriage where sex is a non issue. And this may be true, but communication doesn’t always mean TALKING. There are many other forms of communication that work better than talking sometimes. And there’s one conversation that isn’t working if you are a woman struggling with a low sexual desire and a man wanting more sex.