Your Turned on Desire

This is a continuation of what to do instead of THE TALK THAT DOESN’T WORK. We focus on a skill that women need to desire more sex and 3 obstacles that get in the way. And we also discuss a mistake that men make when it comes to supporting their wives sexual desire and the skill he needs to increase sexual desire and to just feel more confident as a man and husband.

As I mentioned in episode 3, the “we aren’t having enough sex talk” isn’t helping couples have & enjoy more sex. It’s creating obligation sex or pity sex instead. Communication doesn’t always mean talking. Communication can happen through the vibe and energy we carry around with us and it can also happen through our behaviors, lifestyle choices and our inactions. There’s a certain set of skills and lifestyle choices that a husband and wife can learn that will turn on and up a woman’s sexual desire. I introduce some of them here in this episode. Its more productive to spend your time and energy in these skills and behaviors then to have another talk about needing more sex.

Everyone in the world says that communication is the most important part of a long lasting delightful marriage where sex is a non issue. And this may be true, but communication doesn’t always mean TALKING. There are many other forms of communication that work better than talking sometimes. And there’s one conversation that isn’t working if you are a woman struggling with a low sexual desire and a man wanting more sex.

In order for women to enjoy more sex they need to close their stress cycle BEFORE they will desire to turn to their spouses sexually. Men are different in that typically sex relieves stress. When women understand how their sexual desire works on a biological level and HONOR their own bodies and in turn communicate this to their husbands, then sex becomes a nonissue in marriage. They initiate sex equally as often as their spouse and they desire sex more often because they enjoy sex.

Women in thriving marriages understand that focusing on having more sex is not going to strengthen your sexual connection to your spouse. What should the focus be instead?

Instantaneous gratification vs big picture thinking. Women in thriving marriages understand that instant gratification doesn’t lead them to the thriving marriage they truly desire. Recognizing how you give into instantaneous gratification with yourself and your family and spouse on a daily basis and how this effects your relationship is the key to a thriving marriage with a strong sexual connection.

We are all sexual beings. And having a healthy sexual relationship between spouses is so important to a thriving marriage. There are a few obstacles that get in the way of a woman’s sexuality. I will address some of those here and what you can do about it so you can stop neglecting yourself and start thriving in your marriage and family.

Transactions aren’t inherently bad in a marriage. They can be good or bad and it depends on what your goals are and what you’re trying to create. Believing that transactions are just unhealthy in general stops the creative process that it requires for you to create a thriving marriage. Open up your mind and heart and start creating a more intimate and playful relationship…

*Coaching With Jamee Favorite series* When you realize a whole village used to do what you alone are expected to do now.

And this explains your low s*xual desire.

Emotions are just energy. They are a part of you but they are not you. Even though we are just learning how to properly support our bodies as they do their jobs, we don’t have to be afraid of any emotion. The more you understand, the more clarity and peace you experience in your life. The more clarity and peace you have, the easier your life becomes. The easier your life is, then you enjoy your relationships more. The more you enjoy your relationships, the deeper your connections get.