What happens when you finally grow out of a version of yourself that no longer fits?

In this intimate conversation with poet Roberto “Bert” Pastori, we explore the messy, chaotic, beautiful journey from drinking as an identity to discovering a life defined by consciousness, creativity, and genuine connection.

Bert and I dig into why alcohol felt like freedom when we were young, how masculinity traps men into emotional silence, and what really happens when you outgrow your friend group but stay in the same body, the same culture, and the same expectations.

This one goes deep into identity, community, fear, creativity, and the Liquid Lie that tells us alcohol is necessary for art, love or belonging.

If you’ve ever wondered why it’s so hard to “leave things behind” — or why becoming AFAF forces you to confront the parts of your life you could previously drink away — this conversation will resonate.

Discussion Points

• How alcohol becomes part of your identity long before you notice it happening

• The romantic lie linking creativity with drinking

• Chaos, noise and blurriness — and why some of us found comfort in it

• Why men drink to express affection they’re too afraid to show sober

• How outgrowing your friend group creates guilt, shame and disconnection

• Authenticity vs. the “act” we play when others are drunk

• Neuroception, safety and why drunk behaviour activates old survival patterns

• Why giving up alcohol often reveals hidden fears around uncertainty and control

• The loneliness of becoming more conscious when others stay the same

• Why young people are rejecting drinking and seeking sober spaces

• How writing offers a gateway into your inner world

• Poetry as a record of being alive — and why so many ex-drinkers rediscover it

• The Liquid Lie’s influence on artists, musicians and the myth of needing substances

• Mortality, memory, blackouts and the terrifying fear of what you might have done

• Friendship, community, trust — and how to build relationships as an adult without alcohol

Connect with Bert

Buy Graveyards on Other Planets wherever you get your books.

Or order directly from Parthian: parthianbooks.com

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And please support Bert’s work by buying Graveyards on Other Planets. You’ll love it.

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When your faith tells you your identity is a sin—where do you turn? In this deeply human conversation, Sean Hemeon shares what it was like to grow up gay in the Mormon Church, find temporary relief in alcohol, and eventually reclaim his spirituality, creativity, and SELF.

We talk about:

• Growing up gay in the Mormon Church and the shame that shaped his early years

• How alcohol became both a mask and a form of relief

• Losing faith—and finding a deeper spirituality beyond religion

• Sobriety and self-acceptance as acts of radical love

• What it means to be a sober actor in Hollywood

• Why creativity without substances is the truest expression of the SELF

This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt “different,” hidden behind a mask, or searched for belonging in all the wrong places.

If Sean’s story resonates, please share this episode with someone who needs it—and if you need help becoming alcohol-free-as-f***, reach out to me at [email protected].

You can contact Sean Hemeon directly at [email protected].

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What if the “worst” years of your life were actually the beginning of your healing?

In this conversation with Lindsey Van Wagner, author of Spirit Vigilante, we explore how redefining addiction as sickness, not badness can open the door to grace, self-understanding, and freedom. Lindsey shares her raw story of living with bipolar II disorder, the lies she told to survive, and how she learned to turn self-hatred into self-compassion.

We dive into:

– The Lost Years — why reframing chaos as illness changed everything

– The Forever Question — how to stop obsessing about never again and win today instead

– Lies as a Second Job — the freedom that comes when you stop managing alibis

– Willingness and Surrender — how to put your ego down without putting yourself down

– Inside-Out Living — taking your power back from partners, parties, and promotions

If you’re struggling with alcohol-reliance and want freedom without shame, reach out to me at [email protected].

To grab Lindsey’s book Spirit Vigilante, you’ll find it on Amazon, and you can follow her journey on Instagram @spiritvigilante.

Much love & STRIVE on! – Lee

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What happens when the person you love the most becomes the one you hurt the most? In this powerful conversation, Bryan Power shares how his marriage went from a restraining order to reconciliation — all through the lens of Integrated Attachment Theory.

Bryan opens up about how childhood trauma shaped his behaviour, how emotional chaos tore his marriage apart, and how understanding attachment styles helped him rebuild trust, safety, and connection with his wife. Together, we explore the idea that healing our relationships begins with taking 100% responsibility for our own PARTS.

In this episode:

– The truth about how attachment wounds shape adult relationships

– Why taking responsibility doesn’t mean accepting blame

– How men can lead healing by working on themselves

– The difference between anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant attachment

– How curiosity and compassion can replace the need to be right

– The practical tools Bryan used to rebuild trust and intimacy

– The real reason children trigger our deepest wounds

If you’ve ever wondered whether a broken relationship can be repaired — or if you’re struggling to understand why the same patterns keep repeating — this episode is your blueprint for transformation.

To learn more about Bryan’s work or take the free attachment style quiz, visit www.myrelationshipfail.com.

And if you’re going through relationship struggles and want one-to-one coaching to help rebuild trust, safety, and connection, email me at [email protected] to find out how I can help you.

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When life gets loud, do you reach for connection—or for a coping mechanism?

In this vulnerable conversation, trauma-informed coach Nina Vasquez makes a bold case: most of us aren’t “addicted”… we’re avoiding ourselves.

We explore what it means to stop numbing and start feeling, and how shame, isolation, and disconnection from the body keep us stuck in the same loop.

In this episode, we dive into:

• The difference between isolation and solitude—and why one heals while the other hides.

• How shame keeps you small and disconnected from your truth.

• Why nervous-system safety is the foundation of all healing.

• Body-based tools to release stored emotion—breath, sound, shaking, and movement.

• How mirror work and eye contact rebuild self-trust and compassion.

• The shame–numb–shame spiral behind alcohol, food, and scrolling.

• Simple ways to start living a SELF-led life, AFAF.

Grab Nina’s free nervous system guide: ninavasquezcoaching.com/gifts

If you want personal help to become AFAF, email [email protected] to learn more about Lee’s 1:1 and group coaching options.

Much Love & STRIVE On!

Lee

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What if joy isn’t something you wait to feel—but a skill you can practice, share, and scale? In this conversation with The Party Scientist, Jacques Martiquet, we explore how music regulates the nervous system, why psychological safety makes joy contagious, and how connection—not chemistry—creates the moments you remember. We swap stories from festivals, Burning Man, and everyday life to show you simple social risks that turn awkward rooms into communities—without a drop of booze.

Inside:

— Why music + voice prosody can calm your body and open you to connection

— The difference between high-energy hype and the quieter flavours of joy (gratitude, presence, attunement)

— Phones, alcohol, and safety: how “full frontal-lobe” gatherings change everything

— Joy as leadership: lighting up individuals, then groups (communal joy)

— Practical ways to play more—with people—so joy becomes repeatable

A quick invite for STRIVERS: if evenings feel edgy or you’re stuck using alcohol for reward or belonging, STRIVE Foundations gives you 20 bite-size workshops to break the Liquid Lie and build real safety, tribe, and reward—fast. Start today: thestrivemethod.com/foundations

If this episode helps, follow, rate the show, and share it with one person who needs a nudge to find joy without drinking. Much love, and STRIVE on!

Follow @leedavycoaching on Instagram to receive the most unique alcohol-free content on the planet.

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Ever notice how comforting it feels to run to your “safe people” when life gets rough—the ones who nod, agree, and reassure you? For a moment, you feel calmer. But here’s the catch: nothing really changes.

In this episode, I unpack why alcohol is the ultimate echo chamber—always agreeing, never challenging—and how “safe conversations” can quietly keep you stuck. I share personal stories, explore the drama triangle, and reveal why choosing discomfort is the real path to growth.

We’ll talk about echo chambers versus idea labs, how to regulate your nervous system when you feel attacked, and three practical moves to break free from victim mode.

If you’ve ever wondered why the same struggles keep looping, this one’s for you.

If your nervous system feels on edge by 5 pm, chances are you’re running to your own echo chamber—whether that’s a wine glass, a WhatsApp group, or a pub stool. STRIVE Foundations helps you flip that script. Twenty bite-size workshops, one simple truth: alcohol is the Liquid Lie. 

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The baby wouldn’t stop crying. We were 26, knackered, and suddenly drowning in wine we never meant to drink.

When parenthood hit, so did the isolation. Nights out turned into nights in, and without even realising it, we brought the pub into the house. One glass became a bottle. Tuesdays felt like Fridays. And before long, drinking wasn’t a choice—it was a ritual.

In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, I share how being homebound in my twenties made my drinking worse, the subtle shift that happens when alcohol moves from social to medicinal, and the steps you can take to break that cycle before it wrecks more than your evenings.

We’ll cover:

– How “just one glass” at home turns into a hidden pattern.

– Why your PARTS convince you alcohol = connection.

– The truth about what your kids learn when they see you drink.

– Five practical tips to stop drinking at home as a parent.

👉 If you’re starting to notice alcohol creeping into your evenings, especially since becoming a parent, you’re not broken—you’ve been sold the Liquid Lie. STRIVE Foundations is your first step to breaking free. It’s where you’ll learn how to take back control and begin living alcohol-free-as-f***. Join us today—thestrivemethod/foundations

Much love, and STRIVE on!

Lee

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Norm MacDonald was one of comedy’s sharpest minds—and in this rare conversation, he opens up about his relationship with alcohol, how quitting changed his creativity, and why living alcohol-free gave him an edge in life.

You’ll hear Norm’s stories about drinking on stage, what happens when alcohol becomes part of your persona, and why he believed alcohol is “the worst drug of all.” We also explore the myth that booze fuels creativity—and what really happens when you perform with a clear mind.

This is Norm at his most honest and reflective. If you’ve ever wondered what life might look like without alcohol, this episode will give you a glimpse.

🎧 Listen now and share it with someone who needs to hear Norm’s wisdom.

✨ STRIVE Foundations Invitation

If Norm’s words spark something in you, take the next step. STRIVE Foundations is a 20-workshop journey designed to help you question alcohol’s role in your life and start living alcohol-free-as-f***. Begin today at www.thestrivemethod.com/foundations.

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Nothing prepares you for quitting alcohol. Not the books, not the blogs, not the horror stories — nothing.

Most people think 30 days without alcohol will be a nightmare: no fun, no relaxation, no connection. But what if those fears are exaggerated? What if those 30 days aren’t the end of joy, but the beginning of calmness, clarity, courage, and connection?

In this episode, I share what really happened when I quit drinking for 30 days. From blackouts and shame spirals to the eight Cs of SELF, you’ll hear how one decision reshaped my marriage, career, and sense of identity.

💡 If you’re ready to test your own 30 days without alcohol, STRIVE Foundations is the perfect place to start. It’s a guided 30-day container filled with tools, coaching, and community support to help you discover what’s truly possible when alcohol is no longer in the way. Learn more here: https://www.thestrivemethod.com/foundations

This isn’t just my story. It’s an invitation for you to start your 30 days now — and see what’s waiting for you on the other side.

Much love, and STRIVE on!

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