How to Save Your Marriage with Nate & Kaley Klemp | The 80/80 Marriage
In this episode of The 1000 Days Sober Podcast, I’m joined by Nate and Kaley Klemp, co-authors of the groundbreaking book The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage. Nate and Kaley dive deep into their revolutionary approach to marriage that shifts the outdated 80/20 and 50/50 relationship models, which often lead to resentment and power struggles, to an 80/80 model focused on radical generosity, mutual support, and shared success.
We explore everything from societal conditioning and power dynamics to daily habits that can transform even the most challenging relationships. If you're struggling with power imbalances, fairness, or communication in your relationship, this episode will guide you toward a more conscious, connected, and thriving partnership.
- 06:03 – Nate breaks down the flaws in the 80/20 model that often leads to over- and under-contributors.
- 06:56 – Kaley explains why the 50/50 model doesn’t foster true partnership.
- 08:22 – Nate introduces the 80/80 model and its power to reshape marriage dynamics.
- 10:32 – Kaley discusses societal conditioning and how it influences our approach to relationships.
- 12:48 – The importance of focusing on “micro moments” to create lasting positive change.
- 15:49 – Discover the three essential ingredients for a successful 80/80 relationship.
- 18:04 – We unpack the root causes of resentment and how to overcome them.
- 21:32 – Power struggles in marriage: why they happen and how to handle them.
- 24:42 – Nate shares insights on 'relationship jujitsu,' the art of diffusing conflict without giving up your voice.
- 29:40 – Radical generosity: the heart of the 80/80 marriage.
- 40:22 – The daily check-in: a simple but powerful practice to reconnect with your partner.
- 54:59 – We discuss alcoholism, fairness, and how external factors can impact marriage dynamics.
- 1:00:33 – Working on your relationship: establishing non-negotiables and creating a marriage that thrives.
Nate & Kaley Klemp’s Bios:
Nate and Kaley Klemp are the co-authors of *The 80/80 Marriage*, a New York Times Editors’ Choice book that is transforming how couples approach their relationships. Nate holds a PhD from Princeton and is also the coauthor of the New York Times bestseller *Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing*. Kaley is a leading expert in leadership development, small-group dynamics, and coauthor of the Amazon bestseller *The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership*. Together, they bring years of experience in human behavior, philosophy, and leadership to reshape the modern marriage.
Learn more about Nate and Kaley and their work on the 80/80 Marriage.
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