The Sensitive & Soulful Show

196. How To Stop Letting GUILT Get In The Way of Being Yourself, Setting Boundaries, & Speaking Up


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You are a good person—and you’re still allowed to say no. In this soul-nourishing episode, in today's episode, Alissa dives into one of the biggest emotional blocks for highly sensitive people: guilt. Whether it's over setting a boundary, saying no to a social invite, or not stepping in to solve someone else's problem, guilt can feel like too much to bear. But what if the work isn't to avoid guilt, but to learn how to hold it with compassion? This episode is here to help you build that emotional resilience—and remember that you can be kind and have boundaries.

What You'll Learn:

  • Why HSPs often feel guilty for setting boundaries or saying no
  • How to identify where your guilt is really coming from
  • The difference between avoiding guilt and expanding your capacity for it
  • Why you don’t have to fix other people’s problems to be loving
  • The identity traps HSPs fall into (helper, peacemaker, overgiver)
  • How your upbringing and past wounds shape your emotional reactions
  • Ways to build a new self-image rooted in authenticity—not approval
  • How to choose between two types of discomfort: people-pleasing or self-honoring
  • How guilt doesn’t mean you did something wrong—it’s just a feeling
  • A new, empowering way to define kindness and care as a sensitive soul


Questions Answered in This Episode:

  • Why do I feel so guilty when I say no—even for small things?
  • What if I hurt someone's feelings when I set a boundary?
  • How do I stop feeling responsible for everyone else's emotions?
  • Can I still be a good person if I need space?
  • How can I stop tying my self-worth to being “the helpful one”?
  • What does it look like to expand my emotional tolerance as an HSP?
  • How do I hold compassion for myself when guilt comes up?
  • Is there a healthier way to handle guilt without ignoring it?
  • How do I create space for rest and authenticity without self-judgment?
  • What are practical steps to reclaim my energy in friendships and relationships?


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