Guest: 

Melissa Vogel
Melissa is a fitness expert and podcast host who turned her traumatic childhood experiences into a powerful force for healing, personal growth, and helping others. 

Overview: 

In this episode, we sit down with Melissa Vogel to explore the impact of growing up in an environment of betrayal and how these early experiences shape us. We dive into the emotional journey of overcoming trauma and the steps Melissa took to reclaim her self-worth, break cycles, and build a life of strength—both mentally and physically. 

Key Discussion Points: 

• Melissa’s Childhood Betrayal:
Melissa shares her experiences growing up with parents who stayed together despite infidelity. She talks about the anxious and unstable environment this created, leading to feelings of unworthiness and "not being enough." 

• The Role of Anxiety & ADHD:
Melissa reflects on how anxiety and ADHD played a part in her childhood, questioning whether one condition may have triggered the other. 

• Awareness and Childhood Coping:
Melissa recounts how, as a child, she became aware of her father’s cheating and the emotional impact it had on her family. Her role as the caretaker for her siblings and her mother left her feeling unseen and neglected. 

• Anger and Realization:
As a teenager, Melissa began to piece together the betrayal. This led to anger, particularly toward her father, and a deep sense of loss, as she realized how much the infidelity had affected her own self-worth. 

• Sibling Responses:
Melissa discusses how her siblings dealt with the trauma differently—some turned to rebellion, while others sought attention in superficial ways. Melissa became a people-pleaser, but she eventually found her way to therapy, which helped her process her emotions and experiences. 

• Her Mom’s Role:
Melissa also shares her frustration with her mother, who she viewed as weak for staying in the marriage and not protecting her children from the emotional fallout. 

• Breaking the Cycle:
Melissa married a man who shared many of the emotional traits of her father, but she eventually recognized the patterns and sought therapy. Through this journey, she found her worth, focused on self-love, and broke the cycle of dysfunction for her own children. 

• The Link Between Physical and Emotional Strength:
Melissa discusses how fitness became a crucial part of her healing process. She emphasizes the connection between physical health and emotional resilience, explaining that moving her body helped her mentally navigate the challenges of divorce and personal transformation. 

• Self-Worth and Boundaries:
One of Melissa's key takeaways is the importance of self-worth. She encourages listeners to prioritize themselves, set boundaries, and never settle for bare minimums in relationships or life. 

Key Quotes: 

• “You didn’t just cheat on mom; you cheated on me too.” 

• "Move your body. It doesn’t have to be about losing weight—it’s about getting your mind clear." 

• “We have this inner beast and goddess that deserves to be loved and nurtured. Keep working on yourself, even if it’s just a walk a day.” 

Actionable Steps: 

1. Start Moving:
Melissa encourages listeners to start with something simple—like taking a walk. Moving your body helps shift your mental state and begins the process of healing. 

1. Embrace Therapy:
Therapy was pivotal for Melissa in understanding her experiences and developing healthier patterns. She encourages others to seek professional help if they're struggling to process trauma. 

1. Prioritize Yourself:
Learn to set boundaries and prioritize your own needs and self-worth. Self-love is key to breaking toxic cycles and building stronger relationships. 

Where to Find Melissa Vogel: 

• Website: https://www.itsmelissavogel.com/ 

• Social Media: 

• Instagram: @itsmelissavogel   

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The PBT Institute: Break free from the pain of betrayal and find safety, love, and trust again. 

• For the betrayed – Reclaim: Heal from your betrayal and take your life back. 

• For the betrayer – Rebuild: Heal yourself and help heal the heart you broke. 

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