Episode Highlights: 

• Welcome back to the podcast after a short hiatus! This first episode of the new year is packed with insights, inspiration, and actionable tips to help you heal, grow, and thrive. 

• The focus of this episode: Letting go of what no longer serves you to create space for new possibilities in your life. 

Key Takeaways: 

1. A Fresh Start for the New Year: 

• January often brings "New Year, New You" messages, but real transformation starts with releasing what holds you back. 

• Instead of adding more to your plate, reflect on what you can let go of—old beliefs, habits, or even physical clutter.  

1. Forgive Yourself: 

• If betrayal has left you blaming yourself ("How did I not see this?"), it’s time to give yourself grace. 

• Betrayal isn’t your fault; you didn’t know how to think like someone deceptive. Let go of the guilt and self-criticism.  

1. Reframing "Lost Time": 

• Feeling stuck in Stage 3 (out of the 5 Stages from betrayal to breakthrough)? Don’t beat yourself up for what you didn’t know before. Celebrate the fact that you now have a proven roadmap to healing.  

1. Letting Go of the Old: 

• Start small and tangible: 

• Clean out expired products, mismatched socks, or items you’ve outgrown. 

• Physical decluttering creates mental and emotional space for something new. 

• Let go of outdated beliefs like “I’ll never heal” or “I can’t trust again.” Replace them with believable "bridges" that move you toward new, empowering beliefs.  

1. Rebuilding Trust: 

• After betrayal, trust in yourself and others may feel shattered. 

• Begin by trusting small, safe things: a beloved pet, nature, or someone close to you. 

• Borrow belief from others if needed—trust in their vision of your healing until you can trust in yourself.  

1. Create New Habits: 

• Start with small, manageable steps: 

• Drink more water by keeping a glass nearby. 

• Walk a few times a week if exercise feels overwhelming. 

• Call or text a friend daily to strengthen relationships. 

• Small wins build confidence and momentum, inspiring you to take on more over time.  

1. Embracing Change: 

• Growth happens outside your comfort zone. Whether it’s small, incremental changes or bold moves like starting fresh in a new environment, embracing discomfort leads to transformation. 

• Example: The host shares personal changes, like decluttering her closet, committing to staying in touch with friends, and implementing new business initiatives.  

1. The Power of Incremental Transformation: 

• Change doesn’t happen all at once. Slowly letting go of old patterns and integrating new habits leads to a complete transformation over time. 

• Celebrate every step forward—each small victory is proof of your resilience.  

1. You Are Capable of Healing: 

• You may feel weighed down by trauma, but the person you’re meant to become is already within you. 

• The host envisions you as the best version of yourself (Stage 4 or 5)—free from the pain, thriving, and fully healed. Use this vision as inspiration to keep moving forward. 

Final Thoughts: 

• The journey from betrayal to breakthrough requires letting go of what no longer serves you—tangible items, outdated beliefs, or limiting habits—to create space for the new. 

• Start small, build momentum, and trust in your ability to transform. 

• Remember: Healing is possible, and you’re stronger than you know. 

Resources & Connect with Dr. Debi 

• The PBT Institute: Break free from the pain of betrayal and find safety, love, and trust again. 

• For the betrayed – Reclaim: Heal from your betrayal and take your life back. 

• For the betrayer – Rebuild: Heal yourself and help heal the heart you broke. 

• Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz – Post-Betrayal Syndrome Quiz 

• Want to become a Certified PBT Coach/Practitioner? Check out our FREE masterclass here.