From Betrayal To Breakthrough

451: Helping Clients Through Betrayal During the Holidays


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The holiday season can be especially challenging for those who've experienced betrayal. This episode explores how coaches and practitioners can help clients navigate the pain that surfaces during this time and introduces the strategic framework of the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough.

Key Topics Covered

The Holiday Challenge

The holidays bring up complex emotions for those who've been betrayed:

  • Memories of past celebrations become painful

  • Questions arise about what the betrayer was thinking during previous happy moments

  • The season amplifies unresolved trauma

How Unhealed Betrayal Shows Up

Betrayal affects clients across all coaching specialties:

Health Coaches: Clients may struggle with emotional eating, binging, or sabotaging healthy protocols due to underlying betrayal trauma.

Digestive Health Practitioners: 45% of betrayed individuals develop gut issues (Crohn's, IBS, diverticulitis, constipation, diarrhea). Even excellent protocols may fail without addressing the root betrayal.

Business Coaches: Clients may sabotage success, struggle with confidence, avoid promoting themselves, or have difficulty delegating due to shattered trust.

Life Coaches: Clients appear stuck, unable to find clarity or purpose because they're trapped in betrayal trauma.

The Five Stages Framework

Understanding where clients are stuck is crucial:

Stage 2: Nervous system dysregulation prevents clients from hearing suggestions

Stage 3: The most common stuck point where clients settle for "solid ground" rather than pursuing growth

Stages 4 & 5: Where transformation happens—new health levels, passion projects, businesses, and relationships become possible

Signs Your Protocols Aren't Working

  • Client demonstrates patterns of self-sabotage

  • Excellent strategies fail to produce results

  • Client seems unable to move forward despite wanting to

  • Symptoms persist despite proper treatment

The Transformation Process

When betrayal is addressed:

  • Health protocols begin working effectively

  • Confidence returns for business pursuits

  • Trust rebuilds systematically

  • Physical symptoms of Post Betrayal Syndrome disappear

  • Clients look years younger as chronic stress reduces

Common Pitfalls to Avoid

Therapy Without Betrayal Expertise: Well-meaning therapists may keep clients feeling heard but stuck in Stage 3

Couples Counseling Issues: Often minimizes betrayal, lacks accountability, and frustrates the betrayed partner

Support Groups: Can inadvertently encourage people to sabotage healing to maintain their community

Numbing Behaviors: Medication, substances, work, or scrolling prevent actual healing

Why People Stay Stuck

  • Fear of outgrowing their support system

  • Fear of outgrowing their betrayer

  • Settling seems safer than risking more pain

  • Not knowing there's a roadmap forward

The Power of PBT Coaching

Certified coaches use the five-stage roadmap while bringing their unique strengths:

  • Some work with couples, others with individuals

  • Specializations include military families, faith-based approaches, empaths, men, women

  • All share the strategic framework while applying personal gifts

Results of Moving Through the Stages

  • New levels of physical health and vitality

  • Transformed or new relationships

  • Passion projects and new businesses

  • Access to opportunities not visible while stuck

  • Deep sense of fulfillment and purpose

Upcoming Opportunity

Free Masterclass: Becoming a Certified PBT Coach or Practitioner

Date: December 11 at 11am Pacific

For: Coaches, practitioners, HR professionals, therapists, doctors, counselors

Special Offer: Holiday bonus gifts available (details revealed in masterclass)

Register: ThePBTinstitute.com/certification-masterclass

Note: Replay available to all registrants

Key Takeaway

Whether you're struggling with betrayal during the holidays or you're a professional who wants to help others heal, there's a proven roadmap that shortens years of pain. The goal isn't just to return to the old life—it's to create something richer, healthier, and more fulfilling.

"The more coaches certified with their own spin, talents, and strengths, the more people get the help they need to move through something they never saw coming."

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