On this Seeking Integrity webinar, Scott Brassart discusses resilience and healthy coping mechanisms for both addicts and betrayed partners. He and Tami then answer participant questions about handling triggers, understanding big emotions, and addressing supercharged manifestations of shame.

TAKEAWAYS:

[1:10] Resilience and healthy coping mechanisms for everyone.

[3:16] 5 practices to build resilience, from happiness to obstacle immunity and staying present.

[11:20] Tools that can help with building resilience.

[15:30] The 3-second rule for sex addicts.

[19:30] The key difference between happy people and the rest of us.

[28:50] Handling triggers like kindergarteners handle fire drills.

[35:00] Understanding the emotions beneath the anger.

[44:01] Blaming others is the easiest form of denial.

[48:32] Manifestations of shame.

[54:00] Good things can happen if you're willing to do the work.

[55:39] How can I address my supercharged emotions?

[1:00:41] Stop problematic behavior, then address the underlying issues.

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: [email protected]

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

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Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss

Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss

Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.

QUOTES

● "Resilience is not a tool we are born with, it's a skill we can learn."

● "Of all the tools I've given you, gratitude is the most powerful."

● "Healthy coping skills and resiliency are inextricably linked."

● "Practice using these tools when you're safe, use them when you're not."

● "Big emotions rarely address the underlying emotion."