Dr. Rob and Tami bust a common lie addicts often tell themselves; that they can go through the recovery process “by themselves.” Think again! Addiction is a disease of disconnection. The only way out of it is learning how to connect, that is the essence of what recovery is. Addicts have to learn how to be vulnerable, learn empathy, and uncouple the narrative that they’re terrible people.

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[:25] My betrayed girlfriend of 10-plus years will not participate in the recovery process. Is there anything I can do?

[2:35] Not everyone wants to go to therapy. You can’t make them go.

[6:40] Everyone can make lemonade out of lemons!

[7:25] I’m terrified to leave my house because my SA said he’d act out anytime I was gone. How can I be strong in my boundaries?

[15:05] What is “Three Circle” and should we do it?

[19:10] I relapsed and my partner is going through trauma from it. How can I help?

[22:00] It all boils down to trust. Your partner found out before you disclosed it. Of course, she’s upset!

[29:00[ My husband wants to do all of this work “by himself.” What do I do?

[31:10] Addiction is a disease of disconnection and isolation. Nobody recovers alone. The cure is connection!

 

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: [email protected]

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

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Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss

Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss