In this episode, Dr. Rob and Tami share from their own experience about recovery not being an absolute but a constant effort of working through your struggle. Growing honesty and owning up to your recovery every day is very important in order for change to happen and make a positive difference.

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[0:25] How do you create a healthy sex plan? 

[2:40] Dr. Rob explains what sex and intimacy looks like within recovery. 

[5:00] Are there tips on how to regain trust and emotional sobriety so my wife can see me differently?

[6:05] Acting out is a symptom. Tami talks more on the importance of addressing the underlying issue. Polygraphs are not a reliable method of truth detection.

[7:25] Dr. Rob explains how growing honesty and giving someone a chance to fail is important.

[9:20] It’s on the betrayed spouse to set comfortable boundaries for the addict in recovery to follow.

[10:45] Addicts can change. Tami and Dr. Rob are living proof of that. The difference is taking action.

[13:10] Dr. Robs asks to reflect on how you treat others and the rules you live by which requires a constant reevaluation of your decisions.

[17:35] Recovery is not absolute. It’s a struggle for the rest of our lives and the key to regaining trust is honesty not perfection.

[18:25] My SA husband confessed that he had been aroused when he saw our nine-year-old granddaughter in her bathing suit. Does this mean he is a pedophile?   

[20:15] Dr. Rob advises to pay attention to the confession but not jump into conclusions. There are definitely issues and further evaluations can help to understand this better.

[21:05] Dr. Rob shares the difference between being an addict and a sex offender.  

[22:20] Dr. Rob talks about Ouija Mystifying Mints that his spouse bought for him from a Halloween store and what it means.

[24:00] My SA spouse moved out of the house on Friday. I still hope for a reconciliation, but I needed boundaries from his continued anger, blame shifting, and lying to me. He relapsed last week, and I can see that he’s trying to cover his tracks. Do I tell his CSAT?

[24:30] Your sanity is worth more than the sadness that you feel when you are not together.

[28:05] Do you have a suggestion on how to navigate dual addiction? I am a sex and meth addict.

[29:00] Dr. Rob explains what treatment programs exist for people with dual addicitons.

 

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: [email protected]

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

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