Dr. Rob and Tami talk about why affair partners don’t ever feel the same as ‘normal’ and ‘stable’ partners. You’re living in a fantasy world with your affair partner, and it can only end badly because you’re simply not living in the present. Dr. Rob and Tami also talk about the reason why addicts chase a high; they’re constantly chasing the illusion of fun and the price they pay is often in shame and guilt, which then continues their cycle. Find out more in this week’s episode.

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[0:30] I found out my husband has been acting out for 40 years. What do I even do now?

[7:00] My husband is bi-polar. Is he a sex addict or is it because he has this condition?

[11:00] I recently ended an affair and I’m struggling to reconnect with my spouse again. Do I even want to be with this person?

[15:20] Dr. Rob asks a personal question. His husband just gave him some water in a sippy cup. What does this mean?

[19:15] My husband seems to be compartmentalizing his recovery. Is he taking this seriously?

[22:55] If sex addicts are looking for pleasure to avoid intimacy, then how is it not about sex?

[26:55] As an addict, you’re always chasing the illusion of what it could be.

 

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: [email protected]

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

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Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss

Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss