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Trauma-informed is a phrase any practitioner can put on their website. But some of the people using it have never sat in a client chair themselves.

Amber Trejo and Megan Walsh are licensed trauma therapists from the Midwest who are both survivors of complex trauma and on their own healing journeys. They are the co-hosts of the new podcast We Should Talk, where they get into relationships, motherhood, pop culture, and mental health without the expert hats on. This is an honest conversation about how much damage a bad practitioner can do, and what to actually ask before you hand someone your history.

✨ What this episode explores

▪️ Red Flags in a Practitioner — The specific things that should give you pause, from skewed boundaries to a therapist who has never been in therapy themselves.

▪️ Questions to Ask — What to ask in a consultation before you ever book a first session, and why the direct version of the question gets you the more useful answer.

▪️ When is Self-Disclosure Appropriate — Why a therapist sharing their own story can be the thing that lands, and the question they should be asking themselves before they open their mouth.

▪️ The Importance of Attunement — How a good practitioner tracks your breath, your face, and what you're not saying, and what it costs you when they only track your words.

▪️ When No One Talks About It —What it does to a kid when something is clearly off but your parents ignore it, and how that impacts your ability to community as an adult.

▪️ Titration in Trauma Work — Why going into your worst material every single week isn't depth, and how the touch-in-and-return rhythm keeps you from being retraumatized.

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🎧 If this episode resonated, you might also love:

▪️ Ep 208 | When Each Parent Leaves a Different Scar - From Attachment Wounds to Parenting Triggers, Rage & Repair w/ Amber Trejo

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You've spent your whole life waiting for the other shoe to drop. Nobody tells you what happens when it finally stops dropping.

Bethany Webster is an expert on healing the mother wound, coach, and the author of "Discovering the Inner Mother." She recently launched a new Substack, Living Undaunted, where she writes about self-trust and what life looks like after the deep excavation work. Bethany returns to the pod to talk about what life actually looks like on the other side of the wound. This is a conversation about what nobody prepares you for: joy that feels suspicious, and ease you have to learn to tolerate.

✨ What this episode explores

▪️ When Your Mind Becomes Your Mother — Why overthinking isn't a bad habit but a caretaking system you built, and why the hypervigilance felt like the only thing keeping you safe.

▪️ When Glimmers Become Your Baseline — How you know the work is landing, and what changes when the present moment stops carrying an archive of the past inside it.

▪️ Why Ambition Drops as You Heal — What happens to drive and output when your nervous system stops needing to produce, and why creativity can survive that without the pressure.

▪️ Traumatic Fear vs. Regular Human Fear — How to tell the difference between a trauma response and the ordinary fear that comes with being alive, and why separating them clears your perception.

▪️ Life Without a Single Family Member — What no contact actually costs, the particular loneliness of having nobody to call, and what can only open up once those attachments are gon

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🎧 If this episode resonated, you might also love:

▪️ Ep 184 - Peeling Back Layers Of The CPTSD Onion w/ Mother Wound Expert Bethany Webster

▪️ Ep 136 | Healing the Mother Wound: Why It Hurts and How We Begin to Heal with Bethany Webster

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Whatever you refuse to look at inside yourself comes back at you disguised as your life.

Hannah Fraser Moore is a Jungian-oriented psychotherapist and writer based in the UK. She works with complex trauma, addiction, and eating disorders, and she's currently writing a book called Holy Hunger about women, instinct, and the shadow. She spent years in therapy insisting her childhood had nothing to do with the problems in her adult life. What finally got through to her was a breakup with a guy she barely knew that hit her like a death.

✨ What this episode explores

▪️ The Shadow vs. The Exile — Why the shadow holds capacities you got rid of, not just wounds you're carrying, and why that changes what retrieving them actually requires of you.

▪️ Thinking as an Attachment Figure — Why overthinking isn't a habit, it's who you got attached to when nobody else was safe, and why that makes it so terrifying to stop.

▪️ Dating Your Own Shadow — Why the person who repels you on sight and the person who pulls you in are both showing you something you disowned.

▪️ Your Dreams Know First — How the unconscious works out what you can't face yet, and why the images it keeps sending are worth taking seriously instead of interpreting to death.

▪️ The Mother You Never Had — Why chasing a version of your mother who never existed isn't delusion, and where that longing actually belongs.

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You finally go no contact after decades of abuse. Then one day the phone rings, and suddenly you're legally responsible for their entire life.

Katherine St Claire is a writer, abuse survivor, and cycle breaker who grew up in a home defined by violence, silence, and gaslighting. After four years of no contact, her father was arrested at 82 for trying to kill her mother, and within six hours she and her sister were his legal guardians.

Since then Katherine has become an advocate for adult children of dysfunctional families who end up responsible for the care of the parents who harmed them. She's building caringforabusiveparents.org a site that pulls together the legal, financial, and elder care help available to someone in this position, all in one place. It goes live in September. Until then you can find her on Instagram at @katherinestclaire_writes

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You feel like a fraud bracing for the moment everyone finally figures you out. And no amount of accomplishment or evidence ever changes that feeling that you're not who you say you are.

For those of us with complex trauma, the imposter syndrome doesn't just live in your head. It lives in your body and your nervous system. Today, we're diving deep into why you feel like such a fraud so you can stop mistaking that feeling for the truth about who you are.

✨ What this episode explores

Toxic Shame Fueled Imposter Syndrome — Why this version isn't about competence at all, but a belief that something fundamentally broken about you cancels out anything good you do.

The Golden Child of a Narcissist — How a role that has nothing to do with you makes it impossible to own your accomplishments and success.

Parentification Fueled Imposter Syndrome — How carrying adult responsibilities you should never have had to carry leads to feeling like a kid trapped in an adult body who has no idea what they're doing.

Why You Never Do the Thing — How imposter syndrome shows up as avoidance, freeze, and procrastination to keep anyone from seeing you as a fraud.

Feeling Like You Conned Everyone — How surfacing trauma can make you feel like you've deceived every person in your life, retroactively rewriting years of real connection as a lie.

Imposter Syndrome About Your Own Trauma — Why the same mechanism that makes you doubt your accomplishments makes you doubt your pain ever counted.

Imposter syndrome seems to plague us all, but for those of us with complex trauma, the imposter doesn't just live in your head. It lives in your body and your nervous system. And today, we're looking at this with a depth that helps you actually confront it. So you can stop mistaking it for the truth about you.

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