Authentic

My youngest step daughter said to me, "Kitty, when will the world get a break?" My heart, oh my heart. She's at that age now where she's aware and also bombarded with information about the world and can't un-see or un-hear what she's taken in.

I get that there's always things going on in the world that are less than ideal, even cruel. It pains me to see people treating one another poorly, animals being seen as waste products or food, and the planet being stripped of its natural beauty.

When I get like this, I know I need to shift my head, because I'm heading into dooms day mentality. I do truly believe to my core that if we humans took greater responsibility of ourselves, knew ego from Truth, head from heart and acted in alignment with our values, the shit that we do to each other, sentient beings and our home would would reduce.

Today's episode is a raw one from my heart. 

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I had one of those epic mornings recently, where I got to do all the things I love without time pressure and I friggen loved it! I call these kinds of mornings my "top shelf" self care moments.

I have three levels of self care - top shelf level, first shelf level and bench top level. 

Bench top level self care is where I do the non negotiables, no matter how full my schedule is. This includes moving my body, journalling or meditation.

First shelf level is where I take a little more time with the non negotiables. I'm not as rushed and I might take my meditation and journalling into nature with my decaf soy latte. I walk a little longer or hang back after boxing to chat with my coach. I'll add in a coffee catch up during the week.

Top shelf level self care is where time is not a thing and I milk the shit outta what I'm doing, who I'm with and fall into the things that bring me joy.

Have a listen and I'd love to hear what your top shelf level of self care is. Please also reach out if you struggle to put into place bench top level self care. 

Lotsa love x

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I've judged the feminine hard. For a long time I've viewed being "feminine" as being weak and offering no value to the world. This judgement stemmed from how I viewed my mum.

She stopped nursing when my brother and I were born, to be there for us whilst my Dad worked. In my little head, I made up the belief that women have nothing much to give, whilst men go out there and get shit done.

As a result, I hyper-idealised the masculine, putting all my eggs in doing, pushing, proving and working hard. Giving myself a break, time, the luxury of space to be, wander, feel and do as I please has been hard for me. My egoic beliefs flare up when I want to rest and my thoughts hammer me, saying. "you're lazy, you're a loser, you're a nobody".

Over the last two years a new way forward has been calling me, and I've been listening. The resistance to balancing out the masculine and feminine in me has been real, but, worth it. Have a listen to today's episode and lemme know your insights and takeaways.

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My boxing coach, Roger and Tania from Fit2Box, threw me into the ring and my ego shat itself. 

I've been happy training on the pads, on the bags and in the ring with them doing drills. So when they said, "hey, jump in the ring with Mikayla" (who by the way is a boxing beast and has been training for one year), all my shit came up!

"No I'm not ready! I'll look like a dick in front of her and them. I'm amateur and will make a fool of myself", plus SO MUCH MORE. These barrage of thoughts came in hot and strong within seconds and I was thinking how the fuck to get out of it. Instead, I chose to focus on learning and growing from this and steer my fks away from the thoughts in my head.

Today's episode is a goodie if your head and limiting stories are currently messing with you, and stopping you from trying something new. 

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When people say, "just be yourself", that can be uber confusing to decide which "self" to be.

There's a self in all of us that has an agenda and guideline for how you HAVE to be in order to be loved, accepted, valued or the most powerful. This is the self that you'll put forward on dates, job interviews, around friends or new people without even thinking. It's an automatic patterned response directed from your ego to act and behave in a certain way to get an unmet need validated. 

Then there is another Self. This part of you has no agenda - it only wants what's best for your deepest and highest good. This Self watches, observes and notices how you think, act and behave and asks, "does this feel true to you?" It's the Self that is here to help you be You without the need to impress, adapt yourself, be a chameleon, be the class clown, be the most powerful. It has no agenda. 

Today's episode is a goodie to buckle up and listen in. Lemme know your takeaways. 

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In the last two years I have leaned in on knowing how I act, behave, think and feel pre period, during period and post period. Prior to that, I just thought I was nuts and coo-coo and tried to push through however I was feeling. These days, my body ain't having it.

I've learned about the four phases of menstruation - summer, autumn, winter and spring. I've listened more to what my body needs and what's going on, noticing when I have more energy, creative juices, low vibes and nothing to give. It's been really cool to honour this layer of being a woman.

In today's episode I share what I'm like during the different phases and let you in on the weird and wonderful behaviours I get up to. It feels nice not to suppress how I am for how I think I have to be. 

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These seven words keep me very grounded.

Whenever I feel the need to live up to societal timelines of getting married, having a baby or getting my eggs frozen because I'm now considered geriatric in the fertility world, I remind myself of these seven words.

Whenever I am looking left and right at what others are doing in my industry and I start telling myself stories that I'm a loser, that I need to hustle more and that I'm going to lose it all if I don't hurry up, I remind myself of these seven words.

Today's episode encourages you to take a look at where you are hurrying up your life based on external expectations or if they're coming from your pressure based thoughts.

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I love my alone time — it’s where the introvert in me thrives and I love the silence.

I can hear my inner voice clearly, the quiet space is freeing and it’s where some of my biggest chats with my higher self takes place.

I do need to manage this part of me because I can shift into shutting people out and not needing to see anyone. There’s a part of me that’s very happy on my own however I now know that can turn into a dysfunctional pattern of behaviour to lock off my heart and keep people out.

Previously I did this mega unconsciously and didn’t even realise how far I’d pushed the “alone time”. Back then it was a defence mechanism to not let people see my flaws, the not so pretty side or that I wasn’t coping with life.

But now I can sense when it’s healthy space or if I’m closing up. I’ve learned to honour and communicate when I need it and to stay open when I want to close off.

Knowing yourself, your edges, dysfunctional patterns and getting to know more of your true self is one of, and if not the most important thing to discover in this life.

When you know more of who you’re not and live more into who you are, that’s living authentically to you. No one else’s views or opinions of how you should be living matter as much because you know what’s true for you.
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I am smack bang in the middle of my self initiated growth shit storm. My ego is throwing up MAJOR resistance to listening to my Truth and I'm in all sorts. Self doubt is alive! Second guessing my Truth is alive! Hanging onto the things I have always been done is alive! The chaos feels real!

This is the mess that comes right after you've summoned the Universe and asked for change, growth, and new ways of thinking, doing and being in certain areas of your life. The Universe hears your call or reads your note, delivers you a message or opportunity to change and off you go and make that change. And then, your ego gets in on the action and starts getting in your head, questioning what you've just done. It's the perfect shit storm of anxiety, overwhelm, self doubt and resistance.

Time and time again, this phase comes with growth. It's normal, it's natural and it sucks ass. If you're in the same boat, have a listen to today's episode to help normalise this part of growth.

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It has been the LONGEST journey to like my body. For as long as I've been inside my body, I have punished it in many ways. From over training, under eating, restricting food then binge eating then throwing it up, to drugs, alcohol and allowing myself to have sex with people I didn't want to.

Over the last two years I have been healing my relationship with my body through actually nourishing it with good foods, cooking at home, eating good carbs, protein and fats and training less than I have. As a result, it's the best I've felt in my body and that's a big thing for me to say out loud!

Listen to today's episode as I share with you what I've done to get here and the mental shift that took place to take my focus off how I looked, and rather on how I want to feel.

Lemme know your takeaways and feedback.

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