In this episode, Steve and I revisit a story from my book that says a lot about how many of us enter relationships in the beginning: a little bit false.

When we first got together, Steve was a pizza-eating machine. Every time I went to his place, pizza was ordered. I didn’t even want pizza. But I went along with it. I wanted to be easy. Agreeable. Low maintenance. Cool.

Inside, I knew what I actually wanted but I didn’t say it.

That small moment became a much bigger realisation: if I’m being “cool” about pizza when I don’t want it, where else in my life am I abandoning myself because I fear losing what I have? 

We talk about how many of us shape-shift early in relationships out of fear of being difficult, too much, hard work, or ultimately, unlovable. Showing up false isn’t sustainable. Eventually, the real you arrives anyway.

Relationships don’t deepen when we perform, they deepen when the real person finally walks into the room.

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I felt ready for this chapter. I honoured the versions of me who carried me here . I stepped into this decade open, grounded, certain, and then grief quietly arrived.

In this deeply personal episode, I share the unexpected emotional landscape of entering a new decade, the tenderness that comes with seeing your parents age, wondering if the children you love are ready for the world, and realising even the companions who’ve walked beside you for years won’t be here forever.

I talk about the body changing in ways you can’t outwork or control.
The shift in ambition. The question that begins to surface when striving softens: now what?

This isn’t an episode about answers or silver linings. It’s an honest reflection on what happens when time stops feeling theoretical and starts feeling real. When love carries an ache. When life feels more precious and more fragile at the same time.

If you’ve felt a quiet grief you couldn’t quite name, if you’re moving through transition, ageing, or a change in identity, this conversation will likely meet you right where you are.

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Steve’s turning 50. I just turned turning 40.

This isn’t a “new decade, new me” episode. It’s more tender than that. 

For me, there’s been grief. Grieving parts of myself from the past. Versions of me that won’t be coming forward into this next chapter, and if I’m really honest, even pre-mourning what’s to come.

Sadness has been the emotion I’ve been honouring this week. I've just let it be there.

For Steve, it’s different. He’s more aware of time, how he’s spending it, how joyful his life actually feels and how he could inject more joy into whatever time he has left.

We’re both asking: What matters now? What needs to be let go? What needs to be chosen more intentionally?

This episode is a very honest reflection of where we’re at. No big answers. Just two people in transition, supporting each other, looking at time, identity, joy, and meaning a little more closely.

If you’re in a season of change, this will feel familiar.

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In this solo episode, I share a personal reflection on what it means to live as a sovereign woman. Not in defiance, not from ego, but in true, grounded devotion to your own rhythm, your own knowing, your own life.

This is for the woman who’s done hustling for worth.
Who’s tired of fragmenting herself to be liked, seen, or accepted.
Who’s exhausted from being led by urgency and is ready to return to a deeper truth.

If you’ve been feeling the pull to come home to yourself, to rest, to trust, to let go of who you think you should be, this episode is for you.

You are not late. You are right on time.

This is your invitation to take your seat at the centre of your own life.

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Stevie B and I talk about limbo land,  that murky space so many people end up in early on in dating. The situationship. Not quite together. Not quite nothing.

We talk about how any interaction between two people is a relationship, whether you label it or not. And how often one person is being clear about what they want, while the other is quietly hoping it’ll turn into something more.

We get into wishful thinking. Reading into moments. Convincing yourself that chemistry, closeness, or intimacy means commitment even when the words say otherwise.

I share honestly about our early days and how easy it is to override what’s being said because you want a different outcome.

This episode is about:

• The cost of staying in the grey
• Why clarity matters more than potential
• How self-respect gets eroded in limbo
• And why honest communication is the only way out

If you’ve ever found yourself waiting, hoping, or trying to make something become what it isn’t this one will land.

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In this episode I share a very human, very imperfect moment I had with a traffic control guy outside my house, one of those interactions where two egos meet, both think they’re right, and things go downhill fast.

He was frustrated. I was frustrated. And instead of choosing kindness, clarity, or calm, went high and mighty. Righteous. Chest out. Ego leading the charge.

And he did the same. Two strangers, both convinced we were justified, making each other’s day crap within 30 seconds.

That’s the work of living authentically, catching yourself when you’ve acted out of alignment, owning it, and doing something about it. And as Steve and I went for our walk, I knew exactly what I needed to do: apologise.

Not because I was “wrong.” Not because he “deserved it.” But because I know how I want to show up in this world and that moment wasn’t it.

This episode is a reminder that authenticity isn’t perfection, it’s repair. It’s self-awareness put into action. It’s choosing who you want to be, even after an ego slip.

Have a listen. It’s a good one.

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This episode is exactly what it sounds like. No love. No light. 

The other day, Steve and I were driving in the car airing our annoyances, the stuff that grinds our gears and halfway through we looked at each other and thought, why not share this? Because this is what relationships look like too.

It’s not always kissing and cuddling and smooching. It’s not always conscious communication and being hyper-aware. Sometimes it’s just getting things off your chest, laughing about it, and moving on.

This one’s light, funny and very human. If you’re in a relationship and thought you were doing it wrong because it isn’t all rosy all the time, you’re not, it's just life.

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In this episode, I share my reflections on my word for this year, unwavered, and how it’s moved itself through me this year. 

Change happens in our home all the time. With the girls, with living arrangements, with things shifting, coming, going and for years, that stuff used to mess with me big time. I’d get thrown off, attached to the plan we just made that now suddenly changed again, stuck in my rigidness.

But this year this was the year I let that shit go. I stopped gripping so tightly to “how it was supposed to go” and softened into what’s here. It has been incredibly freeing.

The second part of the episode is about coming back to what you wrote at the start of the year with what you wanted to stop, start, and keep doing and actually checking in with how you went with that intention.

Let's check in together legends. 

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We laugh a lot in today's episode, sharing what we would adjust about the other if we had a magic wand. In the many laughs, there are also some good truths to listen to, truths that we can tap into and, pardon the pun, adjust. 

When you listen, see if you can hear where we can consider that other a little more, respect the other a little more, communicate with the other a little more gently. We of course can choose whether or not to adjust our ways, or not, either way, the truth is there. 

Enjoy today's episode. We hope it brings you laughter, relatability and some home truths into your relationship. 

Kat & Steve. 

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This episode is my honest answer to a listener question (thank you, Sarah from Toronto): How did you land at the decision not to have children?

I’ve always known I wanted deep love, but I never felt that same undeniable, biological, aching pull toward having children. I assumed I’d probably have them one day but it was never a soul-deep calling for me.

When I met Steve who was very clear he didn’t want any more children, the question came to the front of the table. Is this something I genuinely want? Or something I think I should want? Can I be at peace with his door being closed while mine is maybe open, but not exactly active?

Becoming a step-mum gave me a real, unfiltered taste of parenthood. The joy. The mess. The demands. The shifts. It didn’t make the decision for me, but it did make me reflect deeply on the life I want to live and the woman I want to be.

But if I’m honest, my biggest tension wasn’t about biology or longing. It was guilt.
Guilt about not giving my mum a grandchild because she would be the most loving Lola on this earth.

The conversation I had with my mum softened everything. When I cleared that guilt with her, I finally felt free to choose the life that is true for me.

This episode is for anyone navigating choice, pressure, timelines, guilt, or the quiet knowing in your gut that doesn’t match what the world tells you you “should” want.

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