I had a question come in from a loyal listener:

How long can the "infidelity bubble" last? Can my husband really be in love with me and the other woman at the same time? 

Thank you so much for bringing this question to our podcast. Many woman are dealing with this very same thing.

So today, I'm going to go deep into these questions and bring truth into the forefront. It's the truth that will set you free Beautiful. And I know that sometimes the truth hurts and cuts deep. 

So I am giving a "trigger warning" for today's episode. I am going to address these questions head on and I pray it will bring clarity, direction, guidance, and help you begin to navigate a very difficult season.

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I am asked quite often, "Lisa, why did you give your husband another chance after his affair?  Many times people will look from the outside in and think you are crazy for doing this. I use to be one of them. Until it happened to me.  

Until you actually experience betrayal, you don't really know how you will react.  For many, it's one and done. But for others, it's a hard road to recovery, restoration, and redemption that they choose.

That's what I chose. 

I chose the hard path. Am I'm so glad I did.

Today, it's our 10th wedding anniversary and we are celebrating the miracle God has done in both of our lives, individually and as a couple. We are celebrating by renewing our vows.  Why you ask? It's an outward expression of our new relationship, our new marriage.  

When betrayal hits, the old marriage is gone, dead, buried underneath the devastation of betrayal. You cannot expect to rebuild something that has been destroyed, but you can create something far more beautiful. And that's what we did.

Today, I share a short timeline story of the betrayal, why I chose to give it a last shot, and how we have been redeemed.

I pray this blesses you,

XO Lisa

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Your spouse betrayed you - had an affair or has been hiding pornography use. You discovered it ALL and are now left in a storm of chaos, confusion, pain, and devastation. You want to save the relationship but your spouse is refusing to do anything to help. They want to brush it under the rug, move on, not talk about it. They don't understand how you are still reeling over it, sad all the time, can't trust, and want to rehash the details over and over. 

They don't understand the impact of betrayal trauma. They don't understand what they really have done to you, to the relationship, to themselves. 

What do you do when they just won't move forward, when they refuse to go to counseling, coaching, get into a support group, find accountability and begin the healing process?  

You have a few options and we are going to bring them into truth on today's episode. 

It's a hard situation to be in, and only you can make the choice you need to make that's right for you.

I want to help you with your options.

I pray you will listen and share this with your spouse.

Blessings,

Lisa

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Betrayal cuts deep.  It wounds beyond words.  It strips away any identity we thought we had. It causes us to question our worth. Self-esteem is tanked and the woman looking back at us in the mirror is a complete stranger.

Can you resonate?

If so, these next 2 episodes are especially for you!

I want to help you begin to regain your identity after betrayal. You are NOT what has been done to you. You are NOT a victim. You are NOT worthless.

Your identity is SO MUCH MORE!

I am sharing 8 steps to reclaim your identity after betrayal.

Today's episode is part 2. If you haven't listened to part 1, you can listen HERE

Are you ready?  Let's do this!

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Are you ready to rediscover who you are after betrayal?

Are you tired of feeling less than, worthless, ashamed, and depressed over his poor choices?

Schedule your FREE Affair Recovery Plan Consult so you can begin your healing journey and rediscover your true self - the one who loves life.

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Betrayal cuts deep.  It wounds beyond words.  It strips away any identity we thought we had. It causes us to question our worth. Self-esteem is tanked and the woman looking back at us in the mirror is a complete stranger.

Can you resonate?

If so, these next 2 episodes are especially for you!

I want to help you begin to regain your identity after betrayal. You are NOT what has been done to you. You are NOT a victim. You are NOT worthless.

Your identity is SO MUCH MORE!

I am sharing 8 steps to reclaim your identity after betrayal.

Are you ready?  Let's do this!

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Are you ready to rediscover who you are after betrayal?

Are you tired of feeling less than, worthless, ashamed, and depressed over his poor choices?

Schedule your FREE Affair Recovery Plan Consult so you can begin your healing journey and rediscover your true self - the one who loves life.

Schedule your Affair Recovery Consult with Lisa:   Affair Recovery Plan Consult

Download your FREE Gift:  Who I am in Christ

Join our Beauty Beyond Betrayal Sisterhood:   Healing from an affair: Heartbreak Recovery for Christian Women

Grab your Free Ebook:   Broken Vows: Begin healing from the devastation of betrayal

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Got a question you want answered?  ASK HERE

I had a question come in from one of my clients this week:

"My husband is frustrated because he things I should be further along healing from his affair. Now I am questioning myself. Am I doing something wrong?"

Healing from betrayal, trauma takes time. And it’s not the same timeline for everyone. You are unique, and your healing journey is also unique.

This can be extremely frustrating for the betrayer if they feel you are not progressing as quickly as they would like.

This comes from a lack of understanding of where you are in your healing journey, how the betrayal has affected you, and what you are actually healing from.

In today’s podcast, I am answering this question in detail.

I pray this will open up conversations and help both the betrayed and the betrayer.

XO Lisa

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Have you received a true apology after his betrayal?

• Did he just say, "I'm sorry." 

Beautiful, if you have received any of these "apologies", you really didn't receive a true apology.

In today's episode, I am ripping apart the "gloss over" apology and giving you the truth about what a true apology consists of after betrayal.

We will look at:

1. What an apology is not

I pray this blesses you and begins the necessary conversations that will lead to the apology you desire and deserve.

XO, Lisa

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• What exactly is a Restitution Letter?

In today's episode, we will explore all of this and more. If you haven't listened to the episodes on Full Therapeutic Disclosure and the Impact Letter, do so first so you can grasp the reasoning behind the Restitution Letter.

All 3 are a vital part of recovery from betrayal trauma and can be beneficial in reconciling your relationship.

Let's dive in!

E114: What is a Full Therapeutic Disclosure? Will it help me heal from his affair:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/e114-what-is-a-full-therapeutic-disclosure-will-it/id1594268521?i=1000628732859

E115: What is an Impact Letter and why should I write one after betrayal:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/e115-what-is-an-impact-letter-and-why-should-i-write/id1594268521?i=1000628828036

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After the discovery of your husband's affair, you experience a flooding of questions. 

Why did you do this to me?

Do you love her?

How long has the affair been going on?

Where did you meet?

Or maybe you have discovered he has been addicted to pornography for awhile...

How long have you been looking at it?

Why do you look at it?

Why didn't you tell me?

The questions inundate your mind and the longer they go unanswered, well... It just leaves you reeling.

Many seek to have their questions answered through a Full Therapeutic Disclosure:

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But what do you do with all the information you've now had disclosed?  How do you process it? How do you tell him how you are feeling?

If you've made it to this point in the recovery process, you are probably reeling from the impact. That's why an impact letter is so effective in your healing journey. It gives you the opportunity to put a voice to your pain.

In today's episode, I'm explaining what an impact letter is, what is in it, how to write it, when to write it, and how it can aid in your healing process.

Grab your notebook and pen and let's dive in. I pray this blesses you!

XO Lisa

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You have so many questions about his affair. You are inundated by the thoughts, the images, the unknowns about the betrayal. You so desire to know the truth and you deserve to know.

What is the best way to get your questions answered?

Should you just bombard him with all the questions?

What questions should you ask?

Are there some that are more helpful?

Are there some questions that will actually bring you more trauma?

In today's episode, we are talking about Full Therapeutic Disclosure:

What it is

How it works

Why it's beneficial

Can it be a tool in your recovery process?

I believe there is a better way to get all your questions answered - a way that actually reveals truth, helps to rebuild trust, and can lead to possible reconciliation of your relationship.

I pray this brings hope, clarity, and direction for you in your healing journey!

XO Lisa

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Schedule your Affair Recovery Consult with Lisa:   Affair Recovery Plan Consult

Email:   [email protected]

Got a question you want answered?  ASK HERE