Benshen Talks S.H.I.T.

Isa Garcia is an online business expert who’s helped thousands of people navigate the different branches of entrepreneurship, including money mindset, sales and leadership. Isa joins me on this episode to give a peek into how she’s created such a beautiful life by following her intuition and taking bold action towards her goals. 

Isa shares her immigration journey and how she ended up moving to New York on a mission to expand her comfort zone and break out of the glass box she found herself living in. A major part of that process involved unpacking deep shadows and insecurities, and Isa shares what those elements revealed about her inner-narrative. 

Isa and I also explore how Human Design can be used as the cheat code to making aligned decisions, which has been a game-changer for me ever since I learned more about my chart. Plus, Isa shares advice for anyone who’s feeling stuck when it comes to starting or scaling a business. 

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Topics Covered:

• How journaling enhances communication and business skills 
• Shifting towards marketing that’s rooted in authentic, unique storytelling 
• What it looks like to get yourself organized for success 
• The power of understanding your patterns and stories 
• What Isa learned from her divorce 

Resources Mentioned:

• Quieting the lizard brain by Seth Godin  

Guest Info: 

• Isa's Website  
• Isa's Instagram 
• Isa's Podcast 

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How do we stop ourselves from going down a spiral? Over the years, I have picked up three tips that have helped me to either pull myself out of that space, or at the very least, not go as far down as I previously would have without these tools.

Of course, it's misleading to think that when we do the work, that we will never be triggered, or have a hard day again. But with these practices, we can get better at managing our emotions, our patterns, and our habits. 

What you focus your attention on, is what you amplify in your life, and learning to focus your energy on what is going well takes momentum and time. In this episode, I will help you turn a spiral around into a different direction. Tune in if you want to have a bigger experience of your positivity, power, and confidence in motion.

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Topics Covered:

• Deciding on the right people to share with, when you feel yourself entering a spiral
• Examples of moments of clarity, that have taken Desiree out of her “pity party”
• Tackling unexpected and strong moments of self doubt
• Shifting your focus to the positive
• Incorporating a gratitude practice into your daily routine

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What do we do when we start to get more opportunities and more prosperity? How do we manage all of it? In this episode I dive into all the layers of time management when more starts to come into our lives. I don't know if you're anything like me, but time management has been something that I’ve had to consistently work on. We're living in a period where there are distractions everywhere and we can easily get pulled out of our flow.

With only a certain amount of energy and time per day, we want to refocus on how we're spending our most valuable resources. By taking a look at our daily habits and making small changes with discernment we can create more space and freedom in our day!

Listen to this episode to prioritize your abundance and find your confidence in applying yourself to your boundaries in order to serve your vision.

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Topics Covered:

• Being aware of our habits when it comes to time management
• Defining what requires your immediate response or attention, and what can wait
• Giving ourselves permission to use chosen times to unwind
• Create boundaries without pushing people away
• The importance of knowing why you're trying to manage your time in the first place

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I get asked a lot about whether or not sex on the first date is a go. It's a fun topic but I also know so many people’s heads spin around trying to find the right answer. In today’s episode, we dive into a question that leaves many of us on the edge of our seat…

Here’s the thing: everyone has a different opinion about it. There seem to be rules when it comes to sex and love, and yet they are rules that the general public don’t all agree on. Over time, because of all the conflicting information and opinions, I decided to just get curious and, ultimately, check in with myself. I focused on the fact that we all have different ideas and feelings when it comes to this topic and the most important thing is to make the choice that allows us to feel most empowered. And, the choices we make can change whenever we want them to.

Listen to this episode for key questions to ask yourself to feel powerful in your decision, honor your needs and be genuine in how you show up.

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Topics Covered:

• Making choices from a space of how we want to feel
• Checking in and remaining authentic to ourselves
• How to enter every experience knowing what we want
• Handling rejection after sleeping with someone on a first date

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In the past, I had a lot of self-sabotage behaviors that I was engaging with. They were throwing me off track and troubling me in many different ways. It's not one magic trick, but I discovered methods to stop self-sabotage in its tracks, which I share in this episode.

We all have our unique way in which we sabotage. And oftentimes, even more curiously, we tend to sabotage when things are going well for us. Looking at self-sabotage, it’s important to first acknowledge the word ‘self’ in the front. The key is turning to ourselves and reprogramming our subconscious mind to create new stories, beliefs, and views about ourselves and the world.

Listen to this episode if you’re struggling to understand a habit of self-sabotage and want to discover what in your life is leading you to it and how to transform it. 

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Topics Covered:

• The hormonal cascades which happen when we engage in certain patterns
• Getting curious about the first trigger in bad habits resurrecting
• The reason so many of us can't stop self-sabotage like we hope to
• Different areas where self-sabotage commonly arises
• Finding your points of pivot when you recognise repetitive behaviors

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Resources:

• The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by Gay Hendricks
• Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Joe Dispenza

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I used to be one of the most insecure people you would ever meet, but I found my way to be truly confident. In today’s episode, I’m sharing exactly how I did it. 

Confidence is built through self-trust and actually doing what we say we would do. It might seem simple, but if you can’t keep a promise to yourself, how can you expect to grow and step into your highest potential? Do not underestimate the power of small, daily habits. When you do them in increments, you’ll slowly start to have the confidence to do even more. 

Listen to today’s episode as I give you the secret to building the self-trust that will make you feel unbreakable in your daily life.

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Topics Covered:

• What is confidence and what makes us truly confident
• The secret to building confidence
• How to build sustainable growth by starting small 
• Getting over insecurities and welcoming in self-trust

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We’re starting with one of my favorite questions today: how to overcome the fear of being seen. If we unravel this fear, it transforms into the fear of rejection.

One way of moving through this is by repeating affirmations to strip away the care and concern of what others may think. The second strategy is to continue putting yourself out there again and again. The more you do that, the easier it becomes. 

Listen in as I give you a powerful affirmation to repeat and share a clever way of holding yourself accountable in weak moments. 

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Topics Covered:

• How to move through the fear of being seen
• How to use affirmations to move past your fears
• The importance of fully showing up and being proud of yourself
• The benefit of to taking inventory to face your fears
• Why bringing people into your fear can help dissipate it 

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Welcome to Benshen Talks S.H.I.T., a podcast about stepping into your power in your career, money, and love life. 

Benshen talks S.H.I.T. stands for So Honestly Into This, That, or Them. We’ll explore hard-hitting questions about life and relationships and host some of the most inspirational people I’ve ever met to help guide you further on your life journey.

If you liked this episode, share it with someone else who you think would love it too. And if you want to explore the topics we discussed even further, head over at Benshen.co to check out our current courses, workshops, and upcoming events. I’ll be back next time to discuss more things that I’m so honestly into on Benshen Talks S.H.I.T.

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Topics Covered:

• What S.H.I.T. stands for
• What it means to step into your power in all areas of life
• Answering some of life’s biggest questions
• What kind of guests and conversations you can expect to hear on the show 

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Have you ever wondered:

• How do I actually overcome self-doubt in your business?
• What does it really take to become financial sovereignty?
• When is the right time for me to get back out there in dating?

Desirée Pais is the founder and CEO of Benshen.co. Her questions about well-being and a desire to know herself more fully inspired her to leave her career in fashion and media to pursue a decade-long training in health, science, yoga, meditation, acupuncture, and spirituality from some of the most well-known teachers around the world. 

Over the past 12 years, she has used her multi-faceted experience to help hundreds of people around the world also seek answers to life’s questions, both big and small. Now she bringing that knowledge to you on this weekly podcast called Benshen Talks S.H.I.T. As a New Yorker and someone who doesn’t shy away from difficult topics, on this podcast, she will discuss the things she’s so honestly into and answer questions with honesty, humor, and inspiration.

If you are someone looking to start each morning with a conversation that will motivate you to find your definition of success in love, money, career, sex, business, and more, then subscribe now to Benshen Talks S.H.I.T. wherever you listen to podcasts.

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