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In this episode, we explore the question many people quietly live inside of: Should I stay, or should I go? Rather than offering a definitive answer, this conversation invites deeper self-responsibility around indecision, ambivalence, and commitment in intimate relationships. We look at how lack of clarity erodes connection, how toxic dynamics are co-created, and what it actually takes to relate from a secure, conscious place. This episode supports listeners to slow down, ask better questions, and discern whether they are choosing from fear, habit, or genuine devotion—before making life-altering relationship decisions.

Key Topics Covered:

Conscious relating and secure attachment

Indecision, ambivalence, and the cost of not choosing

Toxic relationship dynamics and shared responsibility

Devotional love, commitment, and emotional maturity

Conflict, blame, and drama cycles

Trying to change your partner vs accepting reality

Compromise vs self-abandonment

Consenting vs accommodating

Knowing when to stay, when to leave, and how to tell the difference

Breakup realities and relational discernment

Better questions to ask yourself before ending (or deepening) a relationship

Disclaimer:

This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].

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This episode explores what it really takes to move beyond performative sexuality and into a sex life—and sense of self—that feels authentic, embodied, and fulfilling. We look at how body confidence, anxious attachment, shame, and inherited sexual narratives can quietly shape how we show up in intimacy, often keeping us disconnected from our power and desire. Through honest reflection and practical insight, this conversation invites listeners to reclaim their sexuality as a place of agency, self-trust, and self-discovery—where sex works for you, not against you, and where being fully yourself is no longer negotiable.

Key Topics Covered:

Body confidence and sexual self-trust

Anxious attachment and how it shows up in intimacy

Releasing shame-based sexual conditioning

Moving out of fear and into personal power

Authentic self-expression in relationships and sex

Intentional, pleasure-led sexuality

Accessing deeper, instinctual (primal) states safely

Courage, rejection, and self-ownership

Sexual fulfillment beyond external validation

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In this episode of the Better Loving podcast, Laura Ellen is joined by Rebecca Bee Gunson for a grounded and honest conversation about the heart as a central pathway to intimacy, integrity, and embodied aliveness. Together, they explore how social conditioning, relational harm, and the misuse of sexuality can lead to emotional shutdown—and what it takes to gently restore trust, pleasure, and connection within the body. This episode speaks to the courage required to remain open-hearted, to feel and hold love without collapsing or over-functioning, and to cultivate intimacy that is rooted in respect, agency, and emotional maturity.

Key Topics Explored:

Healing the heart after relational and cultural wounding

Heart de-armouring and its role in intimacy and embodiment

The relationship between emotional openness and sexual vitality

Integrity, consent, and responsibility in intimate relationships

The courage and resilience of the feminine heart

Social and cultural factors that contribute to emotional shutdown

Developing the capacity to feel and hold love in the body

Power dynamics, manipulation, and the misuse of sexuality

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This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].

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Episode Summary:In this episode of The Better Loving Podcast, I explore how self-pleasure can be a transformative practice beyond simply achieving orgasm. We dive into intentional ways to cultivate sexual energy, heal and resource your pelvis, and reclaim sovereignty over your pleasure. I discuss how nurturing your sexual energy can enhance your creativity, radiance, and overall capacity to thrive in your body, relationships, and life. This episode is for anyone curious about harnessing self-pleasure as a tool for feminine thriving, energetic vitality, and attracting sexually compatible partners, all while fostering deeper self-love and emotional connection.

Key Topics Covered:

Self-pleasure beyond orgasm: intentional practices for transformation and healing

Cultivating sexual energy as vitality and creative power

Awareness and healing of the base and sacral energies

Unpacking shame, pain, and conditioning in the pelvis

Mechanics of intentional self-pleasure and radical energetic practices

Using sexual energy to cultivate radiance, love, and connection

Strong self-pleasure as a foundation for high sexual standards

Maintaining sovereignty over your pleasure and sexual energy

Disclaimer:

This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].

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Episode Summary:In this episode, I explore the lingering effects of sexual shame and the cultural messages that have long tried to define and confine women. I share my own journey of confronting uncomfortable and painful experiences with sexuality, unpack where sexual shame comes from, how it shows up in our bodies and relationships, and ways to reclaim confidence and pleasure. This episode is for women ready to break free from cultural stigma, step into their authentic sensuality, and live more fully and fearlessly.

Key Topics Covered:

Personal experiences with sexual shame and discomfort

Origins of sexual shame in culture and history

How sexual shame manifests in the body and mind

The impact of shame on relationships and self-expression

Practical ways to release shame and reconnect with authentic sexuality

Disclaimer:

This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].

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Buckle up, baby! In this episode of The Sexual Wellness Podcast I'm doing a Q&A answering a series of questions submitted over on my Instagram.

Topics include:

• Healing from heartache
• Opening to casual sex & dating after a long-term relationship
• Testing & self-sabotaging in relationship
• Navigating different libidos in relationships
• Why you're obsessively looking for affection when single
• Should you choose your gut instinct or the voice in your head?
• How to choose from a place of abundance rather than fear.
• Mindset shifts for dating
• Life milestones & turning 30

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Episode Summary:In this episode, I dive into the energetics of dating and how to stay aligned with your values while attracting what you truly want. We explore the challenges and strategies of online dating, how to get clear on your desires, navigating situationships, avoiding settling, and recognizing when someone isn’t that into you. I also cover insecurities, imposter syndrome, and the subtle pressures of modern dating culture, offering practical insights to help you date with integrity, confidence, and clarity. Full access to this content is available exclusively to paying members of my Substack.

Key Topics Covered:

Online dating strategies and profile setup

Gaining clarity on values and desires

Avoiding settling and navigating situationships

Choosing consciously, not being chosen

Recognizing when someone isn’t genuinely interested

Dating culture, pacing, and pressure

Managing insecurities and imposter syndrome in dating

Disclaimer:

This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].

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Episode Summary:In this episode of The Sexual Wellness Podcast, I dive into why so many of us struggle to ask for what we want in the bedroom—and how to move past patterns of shrinking, freezing, or over-controlling. I share practical tools to build confidence, communicate desires with clarity, and create a culture of feedback in your intimate life, alongside techniques for self-soothing, self-pleasure, and connecting with partners in new, empowered ways.

Key Topics Covered:

Understanding how expressing desire is connected to how we receive others’ needs

Receiving feedback with ease and grace

Creating a feedback-positive culture in intimacy

Communication techniques beyond the bedroom

My “Loves, Loathes, Lusts” sharing practice for couples and lovers

Examining personal assertive patterns

Signature process for in-the-moment self-soothing

Self-pleasure practices and embodiment exercises

Disclaimer:

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Episode Summary:

How do we relate to sexual desire with honesty, responsibility, and care in a post #MeToo world?

In this episode, I explore sexual authenticity through a grounded, relational lens. One that acknowledges our instinctive, embodied nature while holding clear ethical and emotional boundaries. This conversation looks at how shame, suppression, and subtle social conditioning can quietly distort our relationship with desire, pleasure, and intimacy.

We explore what it means to express sexual interest in ways that are respectful, attuned, and appropriate for modern relational contexts. I reflect on how cultural narratives around sex, gender, and power shape behaviour on both conscious and unconscious levels, and how greater self-awareness can support safer, more connected experiences of intimacy.

This episode is an invitation to consider how sexual expression can be both alive and accountable, rooted in presence rather than performance, and guided by mutual respect rather than fear or shutdown.

Key Topics:

Sexual authenticity and ethical expression in a post #MeToo context

The impact of shame and suppression on desire and connection

Navigating attraction, consent, and responsibility in everyday interactions

Asking people out in real life with clarity and respect

Creating a desire-positive culture without entitlement or pressure

Gendered shame and its impact on relational dynamics

Subtle forms of shaming and belittling that often go unnoticed

Supporting intimacy that feels safe, embodied, and mutually attuned

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In this episode, I explore desire as a vital psychological and somatic force, not just something linked to sex, but something that shapes our motivation, choices, and sense of aliveness. Drawing from tantric philosophy, embodiment practices, and lived experience, I reflect on how desire can be clarified, listened to, and worked with in a grounded and ethical way. We look at what happens when desire is distorted by conditioning, unconscious patterns, or external expectations, and how reconnecting with authentic desire can support clearer decision making, sustainable action, and personal agency. This is an invitational conversation about learning to relate to desire with curiosity and responsibility, rather than urgency or self judgment.

Key Topics Covered:

Expanding desire beyond a sex focused framework into a whole of life experience

A tantric perspective on desire and life force energy

Identifying authentic desire versus conditioned wanting

The role of the subconscious in shaping what we pursue and avoid

Desire as a source of empowerment rather than pressure

What manifestation requires beyond intention and positive thinking

Translating desire into grounded action and clear strategy

Disclaimer

This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].

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