Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

Do swingers still get nervous? After 15 years in the swinger lifestyle, Adam & Pris get real about nervousness, anxiety, and confidence in ethical non-monogamy. Spoiler: one of them still gets butterflies before every playdate, and the other struts through the club in lingerie like she owns the place. Guess who's who.

In this quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy, your favorite ENM podcast couple digs into why nerves hit so differently for men and women in open relationships — and how to actually get past them.

• Why Pris stopped getting nervous (and the exact moment her confidence switch flipped)
• Why Adam STILL gets nervous after 15 years — even with planned playdates
• The mind-body connection nobody warns guys about, and why "just get hard" never works
• People-pleasing, rejection, and learning not to care who likes you
• Confident vs. egotistical — where's the line?
• Adam's field-tested advice for nervous guys in the lifestyle: say it once, then be a friend
• Spicy pic etiquette in the swinger community: who gets one, who gets blocked, and why you should always ask first
• Body confidence, exhibitionism, and the world's least suave way to put your underwear back on

Whether you're new to swinging, curious about open relationships, or a lifestyle veteran who still feels the jitters, this episode is proof that nervousness is normal — and confidence can be built.

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Upcoming events: Lots coming — check the Events tab at beyond-monogamy.com and watch the socials.

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No script. No plan. Just Adam & Pris, a list of questions on a smartphone, and zero filter. This week on Beyond Monogamy, the swinger lifestyle podcast that says what everyone else is thinking, we free-flow through the questions couples in ethical non-monogamy actually ask each other — and the answers get real, fast.

In this episode of your favorite ENM and open relationship podcast:

• Bedroom dealbreakers — what we absolutely do NOT want partners doing during play (porn-style pounding, neck sucking, and teeth all make the list)
• Instant turn-offs — including the "no glove, no love" conversation too many new swingers skip
• Oral honesty hour — why "low and slow" wins and why you should ALWAYS speak up
• Swinger club etiquette — couch swaps, when it's okay to touch, and why just asking never kills the mood
• Playing separately — the two-hour gap, the "deer in headlights" look, and what's too intimate with someone else
• Could a girlfriend ever happen? — WLW relationships, sexual roommates (hard no), and keeping connections organic
• How to actually link up with Adam & Pris — plus who should proposition who in couple-on-couple play

Whether you're new to the swinger lifestyle or a full-swap veteran, this candid Q&A between real-life partners covers the consent, communication, and comedy that make non-monogamy work.

Watch us LIVE: Free livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com — plus all episodes, the blog, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional.

On the radio: Catch us on FullSwapRadio.com every Thursday at 2PM & 7PM Central.

Come hang out with us: Krazy Winter Nights in Kansas City, MO — February 2027! We're doing a LIVE show at the weekend takeover. Tickets at krazykasbh.com — use discount code BEYOMONO for a discount.

This episode is sponsored by SDC — the largest online community for open-minded adults. Your people, all in one place. Sign up at SDC.com with code 38236.

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Why are people so shitty? It's the question nobody can answer, but this week Adam & Pris sure try. In this candid episode of Beyond Monogamy, your favorite swinger podcast couple airs a little dirty laundry (no names, promise) about drama, bullies, and trolls in the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy community — and how to protect yourself without losing your fun.

In this episode:

• The 80–90% of the lifestyle community that's wonderful — and the tiny percentage that isn't
• A group owner gone rogue: platform bullying, minions, and a two-year obsession with fake profiles
• Why outing people in the swinger community is the one unforgivable sin
• Discretion vs. connection: why you can't be 100% anonymous and still succeed in the lifestyle
• How to vet new people (yes, including the video-with-your-name-and-date trick)
• Trolls, anonymous comments, and why Adam officially does not give a f***
• One bad apple doesn't spoil this bunch — it's a whole fruit salad

Watch us LIVE: Every Thursday at 7PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com — chat with us free, drop a question in the 100% anonymous Beyond Monogamy Confessional, and check the events tab.

Also on FullSwapRadio: Catch us at fullswapradio.com every Thursday at 2PM & 7PM Central, alongside a whole cavalcade of adult podcasters.

Come party with us: Krazy Winter Nights — February 2027 in Kansas City, Missouri! Register at krazykasbh.com with discount code BEYOMONO for a discount. Exact dates on the events tab at beyond-monogamy.com.

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That gorgeous couple sliding into your DMs? Yeah... about that. In this revisited episode of Beyond Monogamy, Adam & Pris dive into catfishing in the swinger lifestyle — the fake profiles, filtered photos, and flat-out fictional people lurking in ethical non-monogamy spaces. With 15 years in the lifestyle, they've seen (and nearly fallen for) it all.

In this episode:

• Adam's AOL chat room days — and the too-perfect mystery woman who vanished
• Filters, angles, and 20-year-old photos: where does flattering end and lying begin?
• Why catfishing hits harder in the swinger lifestyle than in vanilla dating
• The "personality catfish" nobody talks about — fake nice, fake in love, fake experienced
• Scammers, bots, and the infamous $45 nail-money hustle
• Red flags in open relationships and swinger apps: no photos, model-only photos, stories that don't add up, dodging verification, pushing for nudes
• How to protect yourself: live video verification, Pris's date-on-paper photo trick, cross-referencing profiles, and trusting your gut
• Why trust, consent, and honesty are non-negotiable in ethical non-monogamy

Got a catfish story of your own? Share it at beyond-monogamy.com — Adam & Pris may read it on a future quickie episode!

Watch us LIVE: Catch the FREE livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com — plus episodes, blog, reviews, and all our socials.

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This episode is sponsored by ProDX Health — discreet at-home testing for STIs, hormones, and more. No waiting rooms, no awkward conversations. Use code BEYOMONO at prodxhealth.com for 15% off year-round — even more during special events.

Keywords: swinger lifestyle, ethical non-monogamy, ENM, open relationship, swinger podcast, non-monogamy podcast, catfishing, online dating red flags, swinger apps.

What's your dynamic? It's the one question every couple new to the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy (ENM) needs to know how to answer — and Adam & Pris break it down in this Wednesday Quickie.

They dig into full swap vs. soft swap, same room vs. same roof vs. separate play, and why knowing (and stating) your dynamic up front saves everyone's time. Plus: mismatched libidos, menopause and the lifestyle, learning to say no, and why non-monogamy really is a team sport.

In this episode:

• What "dynamic" actually means in the swinger lifestyle
• Full swap vs. soft swap, and why the label matters
• Same room, same roof, or separate play — how couples decide
• Handling mismatched pace and comfort levels as a couple
• Talking openly about menopause, hormones, and desire in ENM relationships
• Why Pris handles "the no" and how they split roles as a team
• The one question to ask any couple at a swinger event or meet & greet

Whether you're brand new to open relationships or you've been in the lifestyle for years, this one will help you put words to what you actually want.

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What were your first swinger experiences really like? A listener couple just entering the swinger lifestyle dropped that question in our anonymous confessional, and Adam & Pris answer it with zero filter. From a drunk Halloween party that went completely sideways to a first full swap that turned into a lifelong friendship, this is the ethical non-monogamy origin story we've never told on the show — mistakes, jealousy, death glares, and all.

In this episode:

• The Halloween party "non-experience" that almost ended everything — and the boxes every new ENM couple must check first (sober, communicating, on the same page)
• Pris's first single-guy experience, nerves on all sides, and why the equipment failing is almost never about you
• Adam's unauthorized round two — and the look Pris gave him that he calls "visual cyanide"
• The full swap couple who became forever favorites
• The strangest swap of all time: a historic mansion, uncontrollable laughter, and a velociraptor impression we cannot unsee
• Jealousy, disconnecting, and the communication lessons that saved their marriage

Got a confession? Leave it anonymously at beyond-monogamy.com — where you'll also find every past episode, clips, the blog, and the merch store. Catch our FREE livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central, right on the website.

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See us LIVE in February at Krazy Winter Nights, hosted by Krazy Kasbah and Full Swap Radio. Use code BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com for a discount — come say hi!

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Birthdays hit different in the swinger lifestyle. On this quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy, Adam & Pris recap Adam's entire birthday weekend — from free sopapillas and a taco-house serenade to a full-blown celebration at their home club that proves ethical non-monogamy knows how to throw a party.

In this episode of your favorite swinger podcast:

• Birthday breakfast at Eddie's Taco House, where Adam campaigned like a politician for free sopapillas
• An intimate dinner with three other couples — and Adam's very honest confession about where his mind goes at the table
• Their friend Ray and her famous bag of toys: why so many women say no, and why Pris says yes
• Kink vs. fetish — Pris finally settles which one exhibitionism is (for her, anyway)
• THC lemonade math gone wrong: Pris gets sent to the moon
• Midnight lap dances, a double birthday treat, and the moment Pris created a scene straight off a vintage VHS cover
• The Odyssey, new-job news, and why the sexiest plans sometimes lose to cold sheets and leftover pizza

Whether you're new to the swinger lifestyle, curious about open relationships, or a longtime ENM couple, this non-monogamy podcast episode is a fun, candid look at how one real couple celebrates — together and with friends.

Watch us LIVE: Every Thursday at 7PM Central, totally free, at beyond-monogamy.com — chat with us in real time. Replays live on our Patreon, along with ways to support the show.

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Upcoming event: We're doing a LIVE show in February from Krazy Winter Nights, hosted by Krazy Kasbh and Full Swap Radio! Use code BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com for a discount — yes, it's spelled that way. We'd love to meet you there.

Sponsor — ProDX Health: At-home testing for STIs, hormones, and more. No waiting rooms, no awkward conversations. Use code beyomono at prodxhealth.com for 15% off year-round — even more during special events.

Got a confession, question, or story? Drop it (anonymously if you like) at beyond-monogamy.com — you might hear it on a future episode.

Swinger? Poly? Friends with benefits? If you've ever mixed them up, you're in good company — Adam's own barber had no clue. This week on Beyond Monogamy, real-life couple Adam & Pris break down the real differences between swinging, polyamory, and friends with benefits in the ethical non-monogamy (ENM) world — from a couple who has lived all three and collected a few red flags along the way.

In this episode:

• Why so many swingers think they want polyamory… when what they really want is friends with benefits
• Adam & Pris's five years of poly: unicorn hunting, red flags, and the girlfriend who texted way too much
• Pris's journey from not knowing her worth to discovering her inner dom
• The Great Date Debate: why "date" is now a forbidden word in their house (say hello to the "meetup")
• Jealousy in open relationships, hierarchy, and the rules they hold sacred — no vacations with others, no showering with others (unless it's content)
• Could they ever date another couple? The empty-nester master plan

Whether you're lifestyle-curious, a seasoned swinger, or somewhere on the open relationship spectrum, this candid, funny conversation will help you figure out which flavor of non-monogamy actually fits — before you learn it the hard way like we did.

Join us LIVE: Free livestream every Thursday, 7–8 PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com — full episodes, the blog, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional. You can also catch us on FullSwapRadio at fullswapradio.com every Thursday at 2 PM and 7 PM Central.

Come meet us: Krazy Winter Nights in Kansas City, February 19–21, 2027 — use code BEYOMONO for your discount. https://www.krazykasbh.com

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• SDC.com — the largest online community for open-minded adults. Sign up with code 38236.
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What actually makes a swinger club great? On this Wednesday QUICKIE, Adam & Pris throw open the doors of their home club — Club Eden San Antonio — for a candid, laugh-out-loud review of everything a lifestyle club should be. Whether you're a seasoned swinger or just ethical non-monogamy curious, consider this your field guide to on-premise club life.

In this episode:

• The #1 thing to look for in any swinger club (hint: it's not the dance floor)
• Why vigilant staff make or break a lifestyle club — and the single-men policy that keeps the playroom comfortable
• The ladies' restroom that's basically a rite of passage, stocked with wipes, mouthwash, and photo-op lighting
• The infamous toilet paper story from their very first club visit — Pris's nightmare scenario, fully realized
• BYOB culture, Jell-O shot generosity, relaxed dress codes, and dancing naked from the front door
• The BDSM room, the spanking bench Adam insists is a "horse," and the porn room that delivered seven orgasms
• Why you should ALWAYS tip the hardworking playroom "chambermaids"
• Loaded fries, pizza, and a friendly warning about eating before you play

If you've ever wondered what an open relationship night out looks like — or how to judge a swinger club before you commit — this ENM podcast quickie has you covered.

Join us LIVE: Free livestream every Thursday, 7–8 PM Central, at beyond-monogamy.com — full episodes, the blog, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional. You can also catch us on FullSwapRadio at fullswapradio.com, Thursdays at 2 PM and 7 PM Central.

Come see us: Krazy Winter Nights — Kansas City, February 19–21, 2027. Use code BEYOMONO for a discount! krazykasbh.com

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This one's serious, y'all — but it's a conversation the swinger lifestyle needs. Adam & Pris pull back the curtain on one of the darkest corners of ethical non-monogamy: sexual predators in the lifestyle. It's not the highlight reel, but after seeing too much of it lately, they're saying the quiet part out loud.

In this episode of Beyond Monogamy, the swinger podcast for lifestyle-curious couples and ENM veterans alike:

• What actually makes a predator — the difference between an awkward newbie's mistake and a genuine pattern of circumventing consent
• The red flags: pushing past a "no," repeat asking to wear someone down, escalating touch without checking in, using alcohol to lower guards, and pressuring one half of a couple when the other said no
• The saga of the drunk single guy (and his big box of White Claws) who creeped out the whole club — and how a great club staff handled it
• The gut-punch of realizing people you called friends were grooming newbies and targeting the newly single
• Adam & Pris debate: do you blast a known predator to the community, or is that not your job? (Spoiler: Adam is not swinger Batman)
• Why CNC dynamics mean things aren't always what they look like — and the look that tells you something is genuinely wrong
• How to protect yourself: speaking up, partner check-ins, reading the room, and why verification (SDC, 3Fun, video-verified groups) matters in open relationships

Hang out with us LIVE: Free livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com — plus every past episode, the blog, the merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional. Full livestream replays are a Patreon-only perk.

Also streaming Thursdays at 2PM & 7PM Central on Full Swap Radio — fullswapradio.com.

Come party with us: Crazy Casba's Crazy Winter Nights 2027 is happening in February and we're doing LIVE shows! Lock in your spot at crazycasba.com with code BEYOMONO for a discount.

And next Saturday we're celebrating Adam's birthday at Club Eden in San Antonio — sign up on their site, come find our couches, and say hello. We love meeting listeners!

Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris — real talk on the swinger lifestyle, ethical non-monogamy, and open relationships.