Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

Slut. It used to be the worst thing you could call someone. On this Wednesday Quickie, swinger lifestyle veterans Adam & Pris grab the S-word by the collar and ask: what actually makes someone slutty — and why are we still letting a word from the 1400s do our thinking for us?

In this candid ethical non-monogamy (ENM) conversation, the real-life couple behind Beyond Monogamy digs into slut-shaming, double standards, and why the swinger community doesn't just tolerate sluttiness — it celebrates it.

In this episode:

• Pris gets called a slut in sixth grade — and again as a freshman, for not giving it up
• The actual Merriam-Webster definition of "slut" and its 1400s origin story
• Alcohol vs. weed: which one actually lowers your inhibitions?
• Adam's hotwife kink and consensual "cheating" fetish — and what happens when the fantasy talk ends
• Pris discovers her "hot husband" dominant side ("You can borrow him. He's coming back.")
• Is being touchy-feely slutty? Is teasing? The couple debates what counts as slutty behavior
• The double standard: what do you call a man who acts the same way? "Just a man, baby."
• Slut-shaming inside the lifestyle — yes, it happens, and it's ridiculous

Watch us LIVE: Every Thursday at 7PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com — full episodes, the blog, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional. Drop your lifestyle, ENM, or kink confessions and we might read them on air!

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Keywords: swinger podcast, ethical non-monogamy, ENM, open relationship, hotwife, slut-shaming, swinger lifestyle, non-monogamy podcast

Kink 101: Fetish vs. Kink, Power Exchange & Hot Wifing with The Kink Consultant

We're stepping outside our usual non-monogamy lane and into the wide, wild world of kink with special guest Amanda Dames, aka The Kink Consultant. Amanda is a certified somatic sex & relationship coach and sexologist (and former NYC dominatrix!) who breaks down the real difference between a "kink" and a "fetish," why labels actually help you find yourself, and how power exchange, hot wifing, pre-claiming, and reclaiming sex all fit on the same spectrum. We also get into the light-bulb communication hack that took Adam's breath away, healthy boundaries around aftercare, and why justice might be Pris's real kink.

• Kink vs. fetish: what's actually the difference
• Amanda's journey from curious kid to NYC pro-domme to kink coach
• Foot fetishes, power exchange, and why "normal" kink is a spectrum
• The $20 light bulb trick for signaling dominant energy
• Hot wifing vs. hot husbanding, pre-claiming and reclaiming sex
• Compartmentalizing fantasy without cheating
• Aftercare, boundaries, and honest communication in ENM relationships

• Website: amandadames.com (grab her free guide, "Speaking Your Desires With Confidence")
• Podcast: The Kink Consultant Podcast
• Instagram: @the_kinkconsultant
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• Email: [email protected]
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Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris — This week's Quickie tackles one of the most relatable topics in ethical non-monogamy: that flash of jealousy that hits in the moment, even when everything else feels solid.

An anonymous listener sent in a voicemail describing a familiar scene: a good time at a pool party or meet-and-greet, a partner doing something he thought he was okay with... and then that sudden hand squeeze or whispered "please don't." Adam and Pris read the voicemail live and dig into it — no filter, no judgment.

• Why in-the-moment jealousy is normal (even for people who don't consider themselves jealous)
• The "code" system Adam & Pris use to signal discomfort without killing the vibe
• How alcohol lowers inhibitions AND lowers your ability to process what you're feeling
• Why you shouldn't feel guilty for pulling back, even when your partner "attends to you well"
• The one time Adam & Pris broke up over a jealousy fight — and what fixed it

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Catch us at Krazy Winter Nights KC, February 19–21, 2027 — grab tickets at krazykasbh.com and use code BEYOMONO for a discount.

Catch us live on Full Swap Radio every Thursday at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central at fullswapradio.com. And coming soon: our own live show, Thursdays 7–8 PM Central right on our website!

Visit beyond-monogamy.com for the full episode library, our listener confessional line, upcoming events, and everything Beyond Monogamy. Got a question, confession, or "does anyone else do this" moment? Leave us a voicemail — you might end up on a future Quickie!

She's been with over a dozen people in the lifestyle — and has never once had an orgasm with any of them. Meanwhile, her husband comes every time. More than once. At the club.

This week, Adam & Pris dive headfirst into one of the most common — and least talked-about — issues in the lifestyle: the orgasm gap. Is it a vetting problem? A communication problem? A men-are-oblivious problem? (Spoiler: yes, yes, and yes.)

• Why the orgasm gap is real — and gets worse in the lifestyle
• Why she comes easily at home but not at the club
• How to vet for pleasure-focused partners
• The power of over-communication before you ever get to the back room
• Toys, body language, cheat codes, and how to advocate for your own pleasure
• Is everyone just out for themselves? Adam & Pris give the honest answer

Find everything Beyond Monogamy at beyond-monogamy.com — including our 100% anonymous confessional. Drop your story and it might become our next episode.

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Episode Summary: Things got real this week on Beyond Monogamy. Adam and Pris pull back the curtain on what it actually looks like when financial stress collides with the swinging lifestyle — missed events, killed libidos, emotional eating, and the very adult decision to stay home and pay the bills instead of living that highlight reel.

They open up about skipping Naughty N'awlins 2026 and the Port Aransas beach takeover, navigating life on one income, the struggle to grow an OnlyFans when you actually have a full-time job, and how stress messes with your sex drive more than anything else ever could. Plus: Pris's big three-career plan, her Series 65 journey, and the mystery of why Buddies THC drinks are the unlikely hero of their recent club nights.

Raw, honest, funny, and deeply relatable — this one's for every lifestyle couple who's ever had to choose between the club and the electric bill.

In This Episode:

• Why Adam and Pris had to cancel Naughty N'awlins and the beach takeover
• Living the lifestyle on one income — what's actually possible
• The OnlyFans reality check nobody talks about
• How financial stress tanks your libido (and what to do about it)
• Pris's plan: financial advisor + lifestyle event planner + secret project for women
• Why Buddies THC seltzers are now a club night staple
• The St. Andrew's Cross history lesson nobody asked for (but got anyway)

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Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris sits down with Stirling Cooper — former adult film star, ex-male escort, and now one of the world's most sought-after intimacy and sexual performance coaches for men. This one gets real, fast.

Stirling breaks down how he cracked the swinger scene as a single male in Australia, built a high-class escorting career, won awards in adult film, and then walked away from it all to help everyday men take control of their sex lives. We also find out what celery has to do with your semen volume (yes, really).

• How Stirling broke into the lifestyle as a single male
• From research scientist to male escort — his unexpected path
• What the adult film industry is really like behind the scenes
• Why he retired from porn in 2020
• Premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction & the male refractory period
• Adam's very unique brain chemistry (no prolactin, who?)
• The supplement stack that can make you multi-orgasmic
• The celery trick that will change your semen game forever

• Men: stirlingcooper.com
• Women: stirlingforher.com — free Pleasure Blueprint guide

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• Website: beyond-monogamy.com
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• Events: Beyond Monogamy Live at Club Eden San Antonio | Krazy Winter Nights KC — Feb 19–21, 2027 at krazykasbh.com (code: BEYOMONO)

QUICKIE: When They Want My Spouse and Not Me

It stings. It's awkward. And if you've been in the lifestyle long enough, it's happened to you. In this Beyond Monogamy Quickie, Adam and Pris tackle one of the most relatable — and ego-bruising — moments in ethical non-monogamy: when a couple (or someone in the lifestyle) makes it crystal clear they're interested in your partner... but not really in you.

From getting iced out at meetups, to a couple literally texting only one of them with interest, to stare-downs at lifestyle events, Adam and Pris get real about the feelings, the stories, and how they've learned to handle it with (mostly) grace. They also dig into the role of delivery, communication, and why your partner sugarcoating the news might not be the betrayal you think it is.

In this episode:

• Real stories of being the "less preferred" partner — from both sides
• Why delivery matters more than the message itself
• The four-way connection — lifestyle unicorn or overrated requirement?
• How Adam handles it when he's into a woman but unsure if Pris will vibe with her husband
• Pris's ADHD-fueled honesty about getting sour — and why she owns it

🎙️ Listen live on Full Swap Radio — Thursdays at 1:00 PM & 6:00 PM Central at fullswapradio.com

📍 Upcoming Events: Krazy Winter Nights KC — February 19–21, 2027 | Use code BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com Beyond Monogamy Live — Club Eden, San Antonio

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Episode Summary

Adam and Pris sit down with Natasha Helfer, AASECT-certified sex therapist, author, and founder of Symmetry Counseling, for one of the most powerful conversations in Beyond Monogamy history. Natasha spent three decades helping people untangle religious trauma, sexual shame, and purity culture — and then made national headlines when she was excommunicated from the LDS Church for speaking openly about sex, faith, and mental health.

In this episode, we dig into why so many people leaving high-demand religions explore ethical non-monogamy, how shame rewires our nervous systems, the myth of sex addiction in religious communities, and how to reclaim your erotic identity no matter where you came from.

Topics Covered

• Purity culture and long-term sexual shame
• Natasha's excommunication from the LDS Church
• Why people leaving religion pursue ENM
• The sex addiction myth and its religious roots
• Navigating faith AND non-monogamy simultaneously
• Mom guilt, mismatched libido, and the orgasm gap
• How communication transforms relationships

Connect with Natasha Helfer

• Website: natashahelford.com
• The Sanctuary – Salt Lake City, UT
• Fantasy Lifestyle Cruise – February classes

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• SDC – The world's largest lifestyle social network. Use code 38236 at sdc.com
• 3Fun – App for couples and singles in the lifestyle. Use code TK11932
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• ProDx Health – At-home health testing. Code: BEYOMONO

Find Us

• Website & links: beyond-monogamy.com
• Live radio: fullswapradio.com — Thursdays at 2PM & 7PM Central
• Events: Krazy Winter Nights KC – Feb 19–21, 2027 | Code: BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com
• Beyond Monogamy Live at Club Eden San Antonio

Feeling the pressure? 🍍 So are we.

On this Wednesday Quickie, Adam & Pris get real about one of the lifestyle's most overlooked problems — pressure. Whether it's a spouse pushing their partner on someone else, over-serving drinks to loosen inhibitions, or just the unspoken expectation to perform at events, pressure in the swinger lifestyle is more common than anyone wants to admit.

Adam confesses he was that guy early on — pushy for experiences. Pris calls him out. Repeatedly. Lovingly. Brutally. They also dig into the pressure of being recognized as podcasters at lifestyle events, the stress of finances and job searching while keeping the lifestyle going, and whether Pris is actually retiring at 50 (spoiler: Adam says absolutely not).

• Pushiness in the lifestyle — from newbies AND veterans
• Why asking for your partner instead of letting them speak is a huge red flag
• Adam's inability to say no (Pris has receipts)
• The pressure to drink, perform, dress the theme, and be "on"
• Real talk: financial stress and the lifestyle

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What does it take to build the world's largest lifestyle event from a house party to a 3,000+ person New Orleans takeover? Adam and Pris sit down with Bob Hannaford, founder and CEO of Naughty Events and the mastermind behind Naughty N'Awlins — the most iconic swinger and kink convention on the planet. Bob pulls back the curtain on 28 years of growth, the Cathedral of Kink dungeon, the Sexual Freedom Parade, consent culture at scale, and what makes Naughty N'Awlins unlike any event in the lifestyle.

In this episode:

• How Naughty N'Awlins grew from a 175-person house party to a sold-out global event
• The Sexual Freedom Parade — why it makes grown adults cry in the streets
• Consent at 3,000+ people: required tests, independent advocates, and 20+ pages of policy
• The Cathedral of Kink, the Dark Room, and the new Afterglow after-hours lounge
• Tips for anxiety sufferers navigating a massive lifestyle event
• Why New Orleans is the perfect city for sexual freedom

Naughty N'Awlins 2026 — July 8–12 in New Orleans — is SOLD OUT. Get on the waitlist and start planning for 2027 at naughtyevents.com.

Beyond Monogamy will have an exhibitor booth at Naughty N'Awlins — come find us!

📍 Beyond Monogamy LIVE at Club Eden San Antonio — June 20th! Details at beyond-monogamy.com

🎉 Krazy Winter Nights Kansas City — February 19–21, 2027. Use code BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com

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New episodes every week at beyond-monogamy.com.