Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

Adam and Pris just got back from a week-long Florida trip — Disney World with the kids by day, and a night at the Florida Tree House lifestyle club that completely blew their minds. This episode covers all of it: the rides, the food, the play, a very forward woman who gave Adam the blueprint he never knew he needed, and a real conversation about feeling unsexy when life is piling up.

Disney World Recap Yes, World — not Disneyland (Adam got corrected fast). Six miles a day in brutal humidity. Pris goes deep on the layered kettle corn with chocolate drizzle, M&Ms, and cookie crumbles. Adam eats a turkey leg solo during the parade and has zero regrets. Adam also takes a 100mg gummy before entering the park, panics when security dogs appear at the gate, and nearly bails. He recovers. They ride Tron first.

Swingers at Disney Full lifestyle groups organized specifically around Disney trips exist and are thriving. Pris was pineapple-spotting all week. They also debate Disney-themed club nights — Pris draws a firm line. Adam is less opposed.

Florida Tree House — Full Venue Breakdown Hidden on private acreage 45 minutes from the city. ID check-in, locked gates at 10pm, indoor playrooms stocked with everything you need (you flip your own sheets), a massive screened-in pool deck, fire pits, BDSM stations, hot tub, sunroom playroom with an 8-person shower, two treehouse playrooms with green/red occupancy signs, a swing bed under the tree, and a vintage firetruck gutted and converted into a play space. Also potluck — someone brought fried chicken.

The Play They played twice. A man watching said no when invited, then came back later clearly regretting it. Another approached mid-scene asking for a turn — Pris shut it down cleanly. Management was actively watching rooms all night. Pris shares honest thoughts about single men at lifestyle events.

"Slutty Behavior" — A Real Conversation A woman at the end of the night was aggressively flirtatious in a way that finally gave Adam the blueprint to explain what he's been trying to tell Pris for years. Pris grabbed the bags in the moment. Afterward — she got it. New chapter unlocked.

Not Feeling Sexy Adam is 30 pounds up. Pris is in mommy makeover consultation territory. They get honest about showing up in the lifestyle when life stress, finances, and fatigue are all hitting at once — and why they went out anyway.

Coming Up Naughty N'awlins in July. A spicy Wednesday quickie confessional episode dropping soon.

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Your profile is your first impression — and Adam & Pris have seen some impressively bad ones. On today's Quickie, they break down exactly what makes a swinger and ENM profile actually attract the right people — and what sends everyone running.

In this episode:

• Why your cover photo being a ceiling fan is costing you connections
• The face pic debate — privacy vs. actually getting matches
• What a great bio actually looks like (and what "ask me anything" says about you)
• Full-body shots, filters, and the danger of catfishing your way into a meetup
• Why "open to anything" tells people nothing — and specificity is actually sexy
• The unsolicited explicit opener — just don't
• Tips for men, tips for couples, and a reminder that there's a lid for every pot

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What starts as a listener confession about prostate massage turns into the most honest, vulnerable, and surprisingly hilarious conversation Adam and Pris have ever had on mic — completely unscripted, completely real.

A brave listener wrote into the Beyond Monogamy confessional to share what prostate massage actually feels like — and his words were hard to ignore: "earth-shaking," a "full-body orgasm," with increased intensity, duration, and volume of ejaculate. He said he was completely incapacitated afterward.

That letter opened a door neither Adam nor Pris expected to walk through on this quickie.

Adam admits he has never had prostate play done — and he explains exactly why: a past experience where it happened without his consent left him with a lasting emotional association he has carried for years. Pris, meanwhile, reveals she has actually done it before (to her first husband, no less 👀). Together, they work through the anatomy, the stigma, toxic masculinity, vulnerability, and the very real question of whether this is something they will explore together.

Spoiler: Adam Googled "what is a prostate" in real time on mic. You're going to want to hear this one.

• What the prostate is and what it actually does
• The P-spot — why it's called the "male G-spot" and how stimulation works
• Internal vs. external stimulation (the taint is a real starting point)
• Adam's past experience and why consent is the real issue
• Toxic masculinity and the "I ain't gay" barrier so many men face
• Whether prostate play should be a lifestyle boundary or an open one
• A practical beginner's guide for curious couples

Even if you're brand new to this topic, here's where Adam and Pris landed with their practical takeaways:

1. Have the conversation first — no surprises, ever. Both partners need to be on the same page before anything happens. Don't cause trauma where there doesn't need to be any.
2. Start slow and stay external. External pressure on the perineum (the area between the scrotum and anus, sometimes called the taint) is a low-commitment entry point. It gives you a sense of whether there's something worth exploring further — without diving all the way in.
3. If going internal: hygiene and preparation matter. Short nails, gloves if preferred, and lube — always lube. Always.
4. Check in throughout. Communication during is just as important as communication before. This should feel like an upgrade to intimacy, not something anyone is white-knuckling through.
5. If it's not working, you stop. Full stop. And if it's incredible? Talk about that too — then hit up the Beyond Monogamy confessional and let us know how it went.

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Stop what you're doing. Seriously. Pull over if you have to, because this episode features one of the most iconic voices in the history of sex education, adult entertainment, and the non-monogamy movement — and she showed up ready to talk about everything.

Adam and Pris sit down with the legendary Nina Hartley — adult film performer, sex educator, activist, and someone who has been living intentional non-monogamy since before half of you were born. We're talking decades of swinging, triads, and fearless advocacy for pleasure, consent, and honest human connection.

This one goes deep. Like, deep deep.

• How Nina knew she was non-monogamous before she even knew what sex was — and what middle school dreams about "a room full of naked people" have to do with it
• Her first triad at 22 — and why it ended (spoiler: it wasn't the three-person structure, it was the two people she picked)
• Being the youngest swinger in every room by 15 years — in the 1980s
• Why pleasure is a birthright — and how Zen Buddhism and mindfulness connect directly to your sex life
• The truth about forgiveness nobody wants to hear (you don't have to, and Adam's mind was genuinely blown)
• Nina's breakdown of why porn is "a weird amalgamation of Monster Truck rallies and bad dinner theater" — and why it's ruining how young people approach the lifestyle
• The manosphere, toxic masculinity, and why men need to start calling out other men
• Practical gang bang planning: timelines, the audition process, the five-guy framework, and the genius concept of the gang bang doula
• Performance anxiety in the lifestyle — what Ro actually does (and doesn't) do, and why some guys just should not go to swing parties
• Does size matter? Nina breaks it down by the percentages
• Narcissistic abuse — and why it took Nina 18 years to leave
• "Man-keeping" — the concept that explains a whole lot about modern dating

Nina Hartley is sharp, funny, brutally honest, and genuinely one of the most fascinating humans we've ever had in our chairs. This is one of those episodes you'll probably listen to twice.

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QUICKIE: We Skipped Consent at a Lifestyle Club (And Pris Owns It)

Pris went full chaos agent at a lifestyle club — and she owns every second of it.

In this QUICKIE, Adam and Pris break down a real moment that happened to them recently: Pris spotted a hot couple, approached the woman, confirmed she was bisexual, and somehow ended up in a play room within about 60 seconds — all before anyone had a real conversation about it. The good news? She caught herself, pumped the brakes, apologized on the spot, and followed up the next day.

What came out of that moment is a genuinely important conversation about the difference between enthusiasm and enthusiastic consent, how to exit a situation you're not feeling, the pressure people face when they don't know how to say no, and what real accountability looks like in the lifestyle.

TOPICS COVERED

[00:01:00] — How it started: complimenting the couple from across the room [00:02:00] — The approach: Pris confirms the woman is bi, grabs her hand, and... goes [00:03:00] — The cubby: everyone's in, nobody knows what's happening [00:03:45] — Pris reads the room and pumps the brakes [00:05:00] — The apology, in real time and the next morning [00:07:00] — What Pris did right (the initial approach was actually solid) [00:08:30] — Enthusiastic consent vs. enthusiasm — they are not the same [00:11:00] — The bathroom exit: a smooth and underrated escape tactic [00:14:00] — Building a pre-approach ritual with your partner [00:16:00] — Creative ways to exit a situation when saying "no" feels hard [00:17:00] — When men assume something is owed to them (and why that's a problem) [00:20:00] — The guy who gave Adam a high five mid-sex and the friend who just... chatted [00:23:00] — What defines you in the lifestyle: how you handle your mistakes

KEY TAKEAWAYS

- Enthusiasm is not consent. Always get the enthusiastic yes before things move forward. - The bathroom exit is a completely valid escape — and kudos to anyone who uses it gracefully. - Real accountability is rare in this community. Owning your mistake, apologizing, and following up is not just the right move — it's actually kind of hot. - Build a pre-approach ritual with your partner so spontaneity doesn't turn into a consent gap. - Saying no is hard for a lot of people. Don't ever put someone in a position where they feel like they can't.

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Today we are going there. Full send.

Adam and Pris sit down with Courtney Brame — founder of Something Positive for Positive People (SPFPP), host of a podcast with over 350 episodes, 500-hour certified yoga teacher, co-author of a sex education book, and one of the few men of color leading the national conversation on HSV stigma. Courtney was diagnosed with genital HSV-2 in 2013. Instead of shrinking from it, he turned that experience into a full-on movement — one that has helped thousands of people reclaim their identity, their sexuality, and their sanity after a herpes diagnosis.

This episode is not just for people who are HSV positive. It is for anyone who has ever had sex, is having sex, or is planning to have more of it. Which, if you're in the lifestyle, is all of you.

• Courtney's origin story — how a Saturday morning at his grandmother's house led to founding a 501(c)3 nonprofit that has saved lives
• Why 36% of people report suicidal ideation after a herpes diagnosis — and why Courtney decided that was unacceptable
• The truth about HSV-1 vs. HSV-2 — and why your middle school health class completely failed you
• Cold sores. Yeah. Those. We're going there.
• The lifestyle's unspoken assumption that "nobody here has anything" — and why that assumption is the actual problem
• How to have the disclosure conversation — Courtney literally walks us through his real-life script, word for word
• Why communicative sex is the safest sex — and what that actually looks like before clothes come off
• The 360-degree analogy that reframes everything you think you know about what a diagnosis means for your identity
• How yoga therapy became a cornerstone of Courtney's healing framework — and why nervous system regulation matters more than you think

Plus: Pris gets completely honest about her own ignorance around HSV, Adam gets real about the "turn off the anxiety brain mid-play" problem, and both of them leave the conversation humbled, educated, and genuinely better equipped to have these conversations in the community.

Find everything Courtney is building at spfpp.org — support groups (Mondays, separate men's and women's), one-on-one peer support, yoga therapy, ongoing surveys, resources, and more. Go find your people. They are there.

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We got a message that stopped us in our tracks — and honestly, it took us right back to the beginning. A listener found us on TikTok and sent in one of the most thoughtful, honest questions we've ever received: How do you prepare as a couple for your first lifestyle event when one of you is pumped and the other is... cautiously optimistic?

In this QUICKIE, Adam and Pris dig into the confessional of a married couple — 20 years in, incredible communication, and gearing up for a Halloween hotel takeover as their very first lifestyle event. She's got concerns. He's got excitement. And together? They've already got more going for them than they know.

We're covering the real talk around what it's like to jump into the deep end, why consent culture in the lifestyle actually makes it safer than you think, how to start receiving compliments without flinching, and the one thing every couple should do before they even walk through the door.

• Why this guy's approach to bringing up the lifestyle deserves a standing ovation
• What it actually feels like at a hotel takeover as a new couple — Adam's truth vs. Pris's truth
• Meet-and-greet events: why starting here changes everything
• The pressure to "perform" at big events — and why it's all in your head (mostly)
• How to learn to take a compliment without wanting to run
• Pre-event conversations every couple should have before the night begins
• Why the lifestyle is woman-centric and how husbands can stop pouting about it
• Pris's tunnel vision trick for feeling confident in any room
• Safe words, scenarios, and baby steps that actually work

Whether you're two weeks from your first event or two years in and still figuring it out — this one's for you.

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This one's a little different, y'all.

We recorded this episode live — and we mean live — straight from the floor of the Texas Desires Hotel Takeover in San Antonio. Microphones up, audience in the room, Whataburger being delivered to the door at midnight, and absolutely zero filter. Just the way we like it.

The plan was to cover two things: hotel takeover etiquette (the unspoken rules nobody puts in the welcome packet) and how to keep your relationship the priority when you're surrounded by a weekend full of gorgeous, consenting, very enthusiastic humans. Important topics. Stuff we genuinely wanted to dig into.

And then our audience showed up.

What followed was 45 minutes of the most gloriously unhinged live conversation we've had on mic — themed room judging, murky pool horror stories, open-door vs. closed-door policies, Pris casually announcing her gang bang goals to a room full of people, Adam admitting he cannot say no when a woman corners him, and an entire tangent about Martha Stewart that nobody asked for but everyone enjoyed.

Fair warning: because this was a live recording and we were feeding off the crowd's energy, we went all over the place. That's what makes it real — it's exactly what a hotel takeover feels like in the moment. But it also means we didn't get to go as deep as we wanted on the actual etiquette content.

We're going to revisit this topic in a proper dedicated episode where we can actually slow down and give you the breakdown you deserve. Think of this one as the chaotic, hilarious, only-slightly-informative preview. The main event is coming.

In this episode:

• What actually happens at a hotel takeover (spoiler: it's not "housekeeping, can I come in?")
• Themed rooms, scavenger hunts, and the Fiesta room Pris is still talking about
• Open door vs. closed door — and what it means when every door is shut and silent at 1 AM
• Pool etiquette we shouldn't have to explain… and yet
• The pre-event conversation every couple needs before pulling into that parking lot
• Fantasy vs. reality of showing up thinking you're going to absolutely wreck the whole weekend
• The murky pool story from their very first takeover (you've been warned)
• Pris's birthday orgy, her gang bang bucket list, and an extended Hitachi Magic Wand tribute
• Why Adam talked big the entire drive there and then immediately said "don't leave me" upon arrival

This episode was recorded in front of a live audience at Texas Desires Hotel Takeover. Shoutout to everyone who was in that room. Y'all made the show.

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This past weekend, Adam and Pris were at a hotel takeover. Not just attending — they were there working, recording a live podcast episode in front of a room full of lifestyle people who were very much already in party mode. That full live show drops this Sunday, and trust us, you're going to want to hear it.

But here's the thing about recording a live show at a hotel takeover full of beautiful, festive, very distracted humans: you don't exactly get to deliver a thoughtful breakdown of what hotel takeovers are and how to navigate them. You get energy, chaos, laughter, and moments that make for great radio — but the actual nuts-and-bolts guide? That's what this QUICKIE is for.

Consider this your homework before Sunday. The real talk primer. The survival guide nobody hands you at the door.

In this episode of the Beyond Monogamy QUICKIE, Adam and Pris break down everything you need to know about lifestyle hotel takeovers — fresh off of attending one themselves just this past weekend. From what they actually are, to what you should pack, to how to handle jealousy when your husband is making out with someone across the pool while you're just standing there. (Asking for a friend. The friend is Pris.)

• What a hotel takeover actually is — and no, it's not as intimidating as it sounds. Think of it as the world's best adult sleepover.
• Who goes — couples, single women, and the very specific situation with single men (we keep it real on this one).
• What to bring — protection, lube, toys, a cooler full of snacks, your waterproof blankets, and maybe a hoodie because someone's wife is always cold.
• The money talk — expect $500–$800 for a full weekend, and plan for zero food on premises. DoorDash is your co-pilot.
• Consent, discretion, and closed doors — just because it's a takeover doesn't mean everyone is available to you. Rules still apply.
• Communication before, during, and after — including the debate over whether or not you need a code word (and why "figgy tree" is apparently not the answer).
• How to handle jealousy in the moment — spoiler: Pris has opinions, a snarky comment ready, and absolutely zero shame about it.
• The debrief — one of the most underrated relationship tools in the lifestyle, and why that car ride home matters more than you think.
• How to find hotel takeovers — SDC, local Facebook groups, Telegram, Discord, and yes, even TikTok.

Listen to this one today, then tune in this Sunday for the live show recorded right there at the takeover. Two episodes. One unforgettable weekend. You're going to want both.

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What if your penis could tell you whether you're about to have a heart attack? Sounds wild, right? That's exactly the kind of conversation we had this week, and it did not disappoint.

Adam and Pris sit down with Dr. Elliot Justin — physician, entrepreneur, and founder of Firm Tech — one of the most fascinating humans we've ever had on the show. Dr. Justin is on a mission to bring real, data-driven sexual health tools to men and women, and the technology he's building is genuinely mind-blowing.

We're talking about a wearable cock ring — yes, you read that right — that tracks nocturnal erections, measures firmness during sex, and generates health data that could literally save your life. And that's just the beginning.

• How Dr. Justin went from having an electrode implanted near his own pubic nerve (yes, on himself) to building the world's largest erection database
• Why nocturnal erections are one of the most powerful leading indicators of cardiovascular health — and why your doctor has never told you that
• The shocking truth about erectile dysfunction: most men who think they have ED... don't. They just lose it. There's a difference, and it matters enormously
• How a cock ring works better than Viagra for most men — and why putting more blood in isn't the same as keeping blood in
• The Firm Tech ring: what it does, how it works, why Dr. Justin's wife inspired its design (yes, really — bra hooks and a stress ball), and why it's been used over a million times during sex
• The Ring Mate — a vibrator attachment designed for women during penetrative sex, invented by Dr. Justin's wife
• Female sexual dysfunction: 54% of women over 50 report sexual health issues, and why clitoral engorgement data could be a game-changer
• Why SSRIs are "dick and clit killers" — and why Dr. Justin is openly hostile to that class of medication
• Why every single supplement they've tested (12 of them) has failed to improve erectile function in controlled data
• Performance anxiety, the death grip debate, porn addiction myths, and why men in the lifestyle need to open their minds about cock rings
• Pris reveals she's in early menopause, they talk testosterone for women, and Dr. Justin has thoughts

Dr. Elliot Justin is a physician, researcher, and the founder and CEO of Firm Tech, a sexual health technology company. He has published multiple peer-reviewed papers on erectile health, nocturnal erections, and sexual wellness wearables. His device has tracked over 220,000 erections on nearly 4,000 men — making it the largest erectile health database in the world. He lives in Montana, rides horses with questionable skill (by his own admission), and is genuinely one of a kind.

Find Dr. Justin and the Firm Tech ring at myfirmtech.com or email him directly at [email protected].

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