Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

The guest didn't show up. The mics were already hot. What happened next became one of our most real, unfiltered episodes yet.

In this Beyond Monogamy Quickie, Adam and Pris got caught mid-conversation while waiting on a no-show guest — and what started as backstage small talk turned into a deep, raw, hilarious dive into ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, swinging, jealousy, compersion, and what it actually looks like to evolve as a couple in the lifestyle.

They cover:

• Why they didn't do polyamory "right" the first time — and what they'd do differently
• Pris dropping the bomb: she's open to trying poly again
• The wild list of stipulations Pris has for any future partners (spoiler: it's a lot)
• Jealousy, compersion, and the difference between rules and boundaries
• What successful polyamory actually looks like — and why it doesn't have to mean dating someone

This one was never supposed to be recorded. That's exactly why you need to hear it.

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• Beyond Monogamy Live @ Club Eden San Antonio – June 20
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She had rules. She had walls. She had a clipboard full of hard limits. Eighteen months later? Adam pulled the receipts — and Pris had some explaining to do.

In this episode, Adam flips the script and puts Pris in the hot seat for a long-overdue evolution check-in. Armed with direct quotes from Episode 1, he revisits every bold declaration Pris made when Beyond Monogamy launched — and finds out just how much has changed after 18 months in the ENM and swinger lifestyle.

What we cover:

• From "I don't need men" to fully bisexual and genuinely open — and the shroom trip that helped get her there
• The sleepover rule: is it still a hard no? (Spoiler: not exactly)
• Separate play, jealousy, and how Pris went from anxious to actually okay with it
• Healing from shame after two marriages that left real damage
• Sexual confidence: from "I don't get on top" to full exhibitionist energy
• How an ADHD diagnosis changed everything socially in the lifestyle
• Where Pris actually stands on polyamory today

Raw, honest, funny, and full of real growth. If you're somewhere in your own ethical non-monogamy journey wondering if the hard parts ever get easier — this episode was made for you.

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Two confessionals. Two very real situations. One Quickie you'll want to text to your partner immediately.

Adam and Pris are back in the booth answering two anonymous submissions from the Beyond Monogamy community. First up: a newbie wife wants to know how to pull off an immersive stranger roleplay in Houston AND how to handle unwanted attention at an upcoming hotel takeover — without killing the vibe or looking like the weird couple in the corner. Then things get deeper: a woman engaged to a 20-year swinger veteran realizes their connection styles may be fundamentally incompatible, and wonders if her partner is actually more poly than either of them signed up for.

In This Episode:

• How to fully commit to a stranger roleplay (separate Ubers, people — commit)
• Handling unwanted attention at lifestyle events without being rude or a pushover
• Kitchen table vs. parallel play — what's the real difference?
• When your swinger needs deep emotional connections with every play partner
• Adam and Pris get personal about their own five-year poly chapter
• Why "you're not insecure — you had an agreement" might be the most validating thing we've ever said on this show

📩 Have something on your chest? Drop it in our 100% anonymous confessional at beyond-monogamy.com. No name, no login, no receipts — just you being honest. It might be the next episode.

Upcoming Events:

• 🎉 Beyond Monogamy at Club Eden — San Antonio, TX | June 20th, 9PM Central. Club Eden membership required to attend — get yours at their website now.
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This week, Adam and Pris sit down with the hosts of one of the most respected podcasts in the non-monogamy space — Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Sotelo Matlack of Multiamory. Over a decade of real, research-backed content, and they're still going strong. We get into where polyamory and swinging actually overlap (and where they absolutely don't), the truth about unicorn hunters across both communities, jealousy, toxic masculinity, the one penis policy, and why swingers are just more fun at parties. Dedeker even calls us out. It's that kind of episode.

In This Episode:

• How Dedeker, Jase, and Emily became a trio — and how a collapsing quad turned into a decade-long podcast
• Poly vs. swinging: same umbrella, very different vibes
• Unicorn hunting: fun fantasy or ethical minefield?
• The one penis policy and toxic masculinity in the lifestyle
• Jealousy, compersion, and why everyone has their price
• What to do when partners are mismatched — one wants sex, one wants connection

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Upcoming Events: 🎉 Beyond Monogamy Live @ Club Eden SA — June 20th (membership required) 🎉 Naughty N'awlins — July 8–12, New Orleans. Find our booth! 🎉 Krazy Winter Nights KC — Feb 19–21, 2027. Code: BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com

When Your Body Says Yes But Your Agreement Said No — In this Quickie episode, Adam and Pris tackle two real listener questions: What do you do when you cross a boundary in the heat of the moment? And what happens when you and your partner just don't want the same things in the lifestyle?

Listener Zoya sent a voicemail asking how to stay present in her agreements when things get hot and heavy — and Adam and Pris get real, personal, and surprisingly funny about it. Then a TikTok follower asks about navigating mismatched wants in a couple. Spoiler: you've got more in common with them than you think.

In This Episode:

• Why "horny brain" is real and what to do about it
• How to set up a rescue signal with your partner
• The power of the debrief — before AND after
• Why slow is a superpower in the lifestyle
• Mismatched interests as a couple — normal or dealbreaker?

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• 🎰 Naughty N'Awlins | July 8–14 | New Orleans | beyond-monogamy.com for details
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This week on Beyond Monogamy, Adam and Pris sit down with Myrina and Tristan from The Accidental Swingers — and yes, the name is exactly as real as it sounds.

These two didn't plan to become swingers. They didn't plan to start a podcast either. And yet here we are. In this episode, they share the full origin story, how they accidentally stumbled into the lifestyle (hint: Uber rides, a dance floor, and a very confused neighbor couple), and what they've learned about jealousy, emotional connection, and aging in the ENM community.

Myrina also serves as the Naughty Headmistress for Naughty Nawlins — one of the largest lifestyle events in the world — and gives us the inside scoop on what to expect for 2026.

In This Episode:

• The wild origin story behind The Accidental Swingers name
• How a secret audio diary became a podcast with thousands of listeners
• Real talk on jealousy — what it feels like, how to navigate it
• Menopause, aging, and keeping the lifestyle alive through life's curveballs
• Everything you need to know about Naughty Nawlins 2026
• Accidental Swingers Discord community for Naughty attendees

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💬 Join The Accidental Swingers Community on Discord! discord.gg/3ShRz8BRn (If the link has expired, email [email protected] and she will get you a fresh one.)

Don't have Discord? No problem — just create a free account and you're in. Once inside, you'll have limited access until you work through the information channels and click the right buttons. Start in the #-welcome channel, then head to #-further-instructions to introduce yourself in the #-2026-meet-the-group channel and unlock all the Naughty Nawlins 2026 channels.

👩 Ladies: Sign up with your own account and profile, then DM Myrina once you're in the group and she will add you to the private Women's Only Chat Group!

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What happens when a perfectly normal lifestyle club night suddenly goes sideways — and someone ends up leaving in an ambulance? That's exactly what happened to Adam & Pris this past weekend, and they're holding absolutely nothing back in this week's Quickie.

It started as a fun night at the club — good friends, some friendly competition between cubbies, and seriously enthusiastic playtime. Then things took a wild, unexpected turn. One person in their crew ended the night with EMTs, an ER visit, and a wife asking the most legendary question ever uttered at a lifestyle club: "Did you kill my husband?"

Spoiler: Pris did not kill anyone. But it absolutely led to a real, honest conversation about lifestyle safety — hydration, knowing your limits, medical conditions, drug and alcohol use at clubs, and what it actually means to look out for each other in this community.

In This Quickie:

• The full, unfiltered story of the night everything went sideways
• What actually caused the medical emergency (hint: it was NOT Pris)
• How Club Eden's staff handled it — and handled it beautifully
• Real talk on lifestyle safety: hydration, heat, drugs, alcohol & underlying health conditions
• Adam asking Pris THE most uncomfortable question on the walk to the van
• Why nurses secretly run the swinging world

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What if somebody finally made the documentary that explains ethical non-monogamy the way it always should have been explained? No sensationalism. No clipboard outsiders. Just real people, real experts, and real community — with humor baked in.

This week, Adam & Pris sit down with the three-person creative team behind More Than Monogamy: director Dillon Birdsall of All the Birds LLC, and Urvashi & Kama from Spark Erotic — award-winning erotic filmmakers with 25 films and 11 years in the game.

In this episode:

• How infidelity led Urvashi & Kama into ENM — and why it worked
• Dillon's origin story: virgin → sex club faster than anyone expected
• Why they ditched the titillation and went full sex-ed
• Polyamory vs. polygamy — the confusion that's still hurting the community
• Jealousy as an early warning system, not just a villain
• Compersion confessions from all three guests (Pris drops some truth bombs)
• How Spark Erotic is redefining ethical erotica — from both male and female perspectives
• Why the kink section got cut (and why that was the right call)
• The five-year journey — including the mental health walls Dillon had to climb through to finish it

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🎉 Meet us IRL — Friday, June 20th at 9 PM: We'll be at Club Eden San Antonio. Club membership required — get yours sorted before you roll up!

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Feeling lost in the lifestyle? You're not alone — and this Quickie is proof.

This week, Adam and Pris crack open a confessional from a listener known as Wandering Aimlessly — a woman new to the lifestyle whose husband just changed the entire playbook on her. She came in wanting a bi experience while he watched. Now he wants to play with other women. Cue the jealousy spiral she didn't see coming.

In this episode:

• Why jealousy is NOT the villain — and how to actually navigate it
• The communication you absolutely must have BEFORE your first experience
• How to approach women when you're brand new and bi-curious
• The "kid in a candy store" guy mentality and how the lifestyle humbles men fast
• Newbie + newbie pairings: Adam and Pris hilariously disagree on this one
• Predatory couples — what they look like and how to spot them before they spot you

Whether you're brand new or a few steps in, this one is for every couple who has ever felt completely lost and too scared to ask the questions they really need answered.

You're not wandering aimlessly. You're just getting started.

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🎟️ EVENTS: June 20 — Club Eden | San Antonio, TX Adam & Pris are live and in person. Come find us. Membership required — all details at beyond-monogamy.com. February 19–21, 2027 — Crazy Winter Nights | Kansas City, MO This will sell out. Use code BEYOMONO at fullswapradio.com and grab your tickets early.

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Adam and Pris sit down with Dr. Andy Kogelnik — MD, PhD, and infectious disease specialist — to tackle the thing the lifestyle community talks about but rarely does consistently: STI and hormone testing. Between clinic appointments, waiting rooms, insurance paper trails, and plain old anxiety, the system has built more barriers than most people can realistically clear. Dr. Andy built ProDx Health to fix that.

Dr. Andy's credentials are serious: MD from Emory, PhD in bioengineering from Georgia Tech, fellowship training in infectious diseases at Stanford, and founder of the Open Medicine Institute. He took the same lab infrastructure he built during COVID and turned it into a CLIA-certified, doctor-reviewed, at-home testing service with 24–48 hour turnaround. No appointment. No waiting room. No insurance claim.

The episode breaks down how the kits actually work — a fingertip-sized blood collection device and simple swabs that test for up to 13 pathogens at once, including Mycoplasma genitalium (MGEN), an increasingly common STI most doctors don't even test for. Dr. Andy also explains why oral and rectal sites need separate swabs — something virtually no primary care doctor orders — and how to choose the right panel for your risk level.

The conversation takes a surprising turn into PASS certification — the gold standard used by the adult film industry. ProDx is the first lab ever to offer PASS-certified home testing, complete with facial verification and molecular profiling to prevent sample substitution. It's a level of rigor most clinics don't come close to matching.

Privacy gets a full treatment too: no medical record, discreet plain-white-box packaging, fully anonymous ordering, and built-in group result sharing for event organizers and play partners.

Adam and Pris close with a promise: they're doing the test live on a future episode. Consider this part one.

Key Takeaways

• 42% of STIs present with zero symptoms — testing is the only way to know
• Most primary care doctors run panels too narrow for people with multiple partners
• MGEN is rising and requires 2+ weeks of antibiotics — and most doctors skip testing for it
• Oral and rectal sites need separate swabs — genital/urine tests alone will miss infections
• ProDX uses a tiny shoulder patch device — no clinic, no phlebotomist, no big needle
• First lab to achieve PASS certification for home-collected samples
• Fully anonymous — no insurance trail, discreet packaging, group sharing built in

About Dr. Andy Kogelnik MD from Emory, PhD in bioengineering from Georgia Tech, fellowship in infectious diseases at Stanford. Founder of the Open Medicine Institute. Built ProDx Health from COVID-era mobile lab infrastructure. ProDx offers 9 STI panels and 11 hormone panels with CLIA certification and 24–48 hour results.

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Links & Resources

• prodxhealth.com — All kits
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Upcoming Event 📍 June 20th — Beyond Monogamy at Club Eden, San Antonio, TX Get tested first. With a 24–48 hour turnaround, you'll have results well before the party. 😉

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