Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

Everyone loves talking about the fun parts of the lifestyle — the dates, the connections, the experiences. But what about everything that has to happen BEFORE any of that?

The messaging. The vetting. The scheduling. The follow-up. All of it takes time, energy, and emotional bandwidth. And in most couples? It doesn't fall equally.

On today's QUICKIE, Adam and Pris get real about how they divide the emotional labor of connecting with other couples — who does the messaging, who handles vetting (and why Pris's gut is basically a superpower), what it looks like to stay in the loop without losing your mind, and why making it intentional beats letting resentment sneak in through the back door.

In this episode:

• Why Adam carries most of the online conversation weight
• Pris's vetting process — and the story behind her eerily accurate intuition
• Online chemistry vs. in-person chemistry and how they experience it differently
• The DADT tendency that sneaks into their setup (and how they're working on it)
• What "staying in the loop" actually looks like in practice
• Why you need to talk about this stuff before resentment makes the decision for you

Whether you divide things the same way or totally differently, the point is: make it intentional. Don't just let it default.

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Y'all, this one is different. Adam and Pris sit down with the one and only Susan Bratton — intimacy expert to millions, bestselling author, founder of Personal Life Media, sexual biohacker, and Chief Advocacy Officer of ProDX Health. She's been in the lifestyle for over two decades, she's married to her husband Tim of 34 years, she has a boyfriend of five years, and she can tell you from personal experience exactly what expanded orgasm feels like. She's not talking about case studies. She's living it.

This conversation goes deep — from how Susan went from a woman who avoided sex with her husband to becoming the person millions of people turn to for real, actionable, heart-connected intimacy advice. She drops her non-negotiable 90-day STI testing protocol, breaks down what "fluid bonded" and "screened in" actually mean, explains the science of extended orgasms, and makes a strong case for why your sex life should only get better with age.

• How Susan went from sexually avoidant to becoming the world's go-to hot sex teacher
• Why she and Tim dropped the labels and started calling their relationship simply "open"
• The 90-day STI screening protocol that's been a non-negotiable in her poly life for 20 years
• What "fluid bonded" and "screened in" mean and why every lifestyle couple should have a protocol
• Expanded orgasm — the clitoral stroking practice that can extend your partner's climax into something wild
• Sexual biohacking: nitric oxide, hormone therapy, acoustic wave, red light, stem cells, and the concept of extending your "sex span"
• Veto power in poly — is it toxic or just solid relationship management?
• NRE (New Relationship Energy) and why your partner might be seeing red flags you're completely blind to
• Susan's new book "The Alchemy of Intimacy" and where to get her free resources

• Free expanded orgasm resources: expandherorgasmtonight.com
• STI testing Susan recommends: prodxhealth.com
• Susan's new book: 10intimacy.com
• Susan Bratton's main site: susanbratton.com

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Someone slid into our inbox with a real one — they met a couple and their play partner, vibed with all three, and then realized they were really feeling the third. So what do you do? Is that person automatically off limits? Do you risk the friendship? Do you say nothing and just wonder forever?

Adam and Pris break it all down in this week's QUICKIE — starting with the one thing that fixes almost every awkward lifestyle situation: just saying the thing out loud.

In This Episode:

• Nobody owns anyone — but you still don't know their agreements
• How to find out someone's dynamic without making it weird
• The "swooping couple" phenomenon — and why it's a red flag
• Who in the couple should start the conversation (hint: it's whoever's bubblier)
• Word vomit as a legitimate lifestyle strategy
• Pris opens up about menopause, her estrogen patch, and why she's been glowing lately
• Poly-era triggers, emotional cheating TikToks, and how one honest conversation changed everything
• 15 years in and they're still learning to communicate — and that's the whole point

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Adam is coming in a little rough this week — fresh off a round of strep throat — but you know us, we don't miss a show. And this one? This one was worth every scratchy word.

We're talking about something that gets thrown around a lot in the lifestyle: the idea that single men are a problem. That they're ruining it for everyone. That every couple should avoid them like a shady DM at 2 AM.

But first, Adam has something to get off his chest. If you've ever reached out to a married man and spent the entire conversation raving about how gorgeous his wife is... we need to have a little talk. Because from where Adam's standing, that's not flattery — that's a one-way ticket to getting ignored by both of them. He breaks down why, and Pris has thoughts.

Then we get into the real conversation: single guys in the lifestyle and where that negative reputation actually comes from. Adam and Pris get honest about the preconceived notions they walked into the lifestyle with, the real experiences that shaped them, and — maybe surprisingly — the realization that married men can actually cause more drama than single ones.

In this episode we cover:

• Why messaging a married man to gush about his wife is not the move
• The negative stigma single men carry — and how it got built
• The early experiences that made Adam and Pris assume all single guys were shady
• Why Pris considers the word "bull" an instant red flag
• Real red flags and green flags when it comes to vetting a single guy
• Why married men in the lifestyle can be sneakier than single ones
• What it actually costs — financially and emotionally — to be a single man trying to get into clubs and events
• The double standard between how single men and single women are labeled
• What "you're the toy, not the star" really means — and why it's not an insult
• Thirsty behavior, constant validation-seeking, and why desperation is a repellent
• How walking away from situations you don't want actually attracts better ones

The takeaway? It's never really been about single versus married. It's about respectful versus disrespectful. And if you're a single guy who leads with respect, patience, and consent — Adam is officially in your corner.

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You already know Adam and Pris don't do small talk — so when the topic of red flags and green flags in the swinging lifestyle came up on their SDC live webinar, they knew they weren't done talking about it. So they brought it straight to Wednesday's QUICKIE. And oh boy, did it get real.

This week, Adam and Pris break down the biggest red flags they personally watch for when meeting potential play partners — and the green flags that make them say, okay, we might actually like you.

Pris's Red Flags for Men: Turn the conversation sexual too fast? You're out. It doesn't matter that you're both in the lifestyle — read the room. If you haven't earned the vibe yet, keep it in your pants (literally).

Pris's Red Flags for Women: If you're in a group chat with both of them and you start sliding into Adam's DMs and leaving Pris on read? She sees you. And she is not interested. Respecting both partners isn't optional — it's the price of admission.

Adam's Biggest Red Flag: Pushiness. That frantic "WE NEED TO MEET ASAP" energy from the jump? Hard pass. Adam used to be that guy (Pris was NOT about to let him forget it), but 14 years in the lifestyle later, he's all about connections over conquests — and zero patience for people trying to sprint to the finish line.

Also a red flag: Messaging a husband and asking to see naked pictures of his wife. Adam addresses this one with the kind of calm, measured, diplomatic response you'd expect from him... just kidding. He tells those people exactly where to go.

The Guilt Trip Red Flag: "You didn't message me yesterday." Oh no. Adam's phone goes to Do Not Disturb at 8:30 PM every night — and if you're sending guilt trips about response times to a happily married man with a full life, you're going to hear about it. Loudly.

Green Flags They Love: Great communication between couples. Asking permission before reaching out to a partner. Being transparent about your intentions. And self-awareness — knowing your own stuff and actively working on it? That's genuinely attractive to these two.

They also get into jealousy, entitlement, pressure dynamics between couples, what it looks like when one partner is dragging the other into the lifestyle, and the very important art of taking a "no" gracefully — something Adam admits he had to grow into.

Pris crowns herself "La Toxica" early on and fully leans into it. She's self-aware about her jealousy, territorial streak, and high standards — and honestly? It's one of the most relatable things she's ever said on this show.

As always, this one's real, funny, unfiltered, and full of the kind of straight talk that only comes from two people who've been doing this together for 14 years.

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It was Priscilla's 48th birthday weekend, and this woman did NOT come to play… well, actually, she absolutely came to play. And kiss strangers. And organize an impromptu gang bang over sushi. You know, normal birthday stuff.

In this episode, Adam and Pris give you the full, unfiltered recap of what went down over one wild weekend in San Antonio — from cozy pizza nights at Via 313 to morning coffee at Arthur's in King William, birthday brunch at Alamo Biscuit Company, and a night at Club Eden that nobody who was there is going to forget anytime soon.

Here's a taste of what you're getting into:

• Friends flew in from Florida, Arizona, Houston, Dallas, and Corpus — and every single one of them said Club Eden was the best swinger club they'd ever been to.
• Pris casually announced at the sushi dinner table that she wanted a gang bang for her birthday. Like a normal person.
• Adam confesses his social anxiety was absolutely roaring the whole drive down — and how it took a full hour to shake it off once they got to the club.
• The legendary loot bags Pris handcrafted with lube, condoms, Tums, Advil, Wisps, mini makeup blenders, and custom Cricut labels reading "Slut Stuff" and "Hot Girl Glam Bag."
• Custom Mylar balloons printed with the Beyond Monogamy logo. Because of course.
• 200 jello shots, multiple flavors, courtesy of their friends David and Mary. You read that right. Two. Hundred.
• Their friend Ray showed up with a wand and proceeded to make Pris squirt in front of a crowd within minutes.
• Pris requested her birthday wish out loud and got it. Full details inside.
• Adam got slapped in the face mid-session by a friend who's heard the "don't touch without permission" episode one too many times.
• The birthday lap dance situation — including Adam admitting he is not great at it.
• Door Dash Whataburger at 2am. A Whataburger Junior with bacon and cheese. Pris was half asleep when she ordered it and knocked out before her milkshake was even gone.

This one is warm, funny, sexy, and a little chaotic in the best way possible. If you've ever wondered what it looks like when a lifestyle couple throws a birthday party that doubles as a swinger event — this is it. Full transparency, zero filters, and a whole lot of love for the people who showed up.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Via 313 Pizza (Austin area)
• Alamo Biscuit Company — San Antonio
• Arthur's Coffee — King William District, San Antonio
• Club Eden — San Antonio
• Spunk Lube (episode sponsor)
• Forbidden Fruit — Austin (episode sponsor)
• Fiesta San Antonio & Tejano Fanfare
• South by Southwest (also happening that weekend in Austin)

Coming up on Beyond Monogamy:

• Swingers 101 Workshop — March 29th, 6–8pm at Forbidden Fruit in Austin. Visit forbiddenfruit.com/workshops for tickets.
• Texas Desires Hotel Takeover — Weekend of April 11th. Only a few rooms left! Check the Events tab at www.beyond-monogamy.com.

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Pregnancy in the lifestyle. Yeah, we went there. And honestly? It's one of those conversations that most people tip-toe around — until a condom breaks or somebody shows up to the party eight months along and suddenly everyone's got questions. On this week's QUICKIE, Adam and Pris pull zero punches on a topic that's way more common than people like to admit.

This one was sparked by a real message from a friend who was gearing up to meet a couple — and found out the woman was pregnant. It opened up a whole rabbit hole of thoughts, experiences, and some genuinely hilarious moments that only two people who've been doing this for 14 years could deliver. If you've ever wondered what to do when pregnancy enters the equation — whether that's a kink, a scare, or a hypothetical you'd better talk through before it becomes a reality — this is the episode.

• Pregnancy as a fetish in the lifestyle — Yes, it's a real kink. Adam's got a story from a strip club that'll stick with you. (She made four times what anyone else made that night. You'll understand why.)
• Would they play with a pregnant woman? — Adam and Pris give their honest, unfiltered answers. Spoiler: the parental switch is real, and it kills the vibe fast.
• What you can and can't do sexually while pregnant — Pris drops some actual health info that had Adam completely floored. Hint: if she can't eat sushi, connect the dots.
• Pregnancy scares in the lifestyle — including their own — A condom broke. A couple played with came back two weeks later saying she was pregnant. Find out what happened and how Adam and Pris handled it.
• The hypothetical you NEED to talk through with your partner — What would you actually do if it happened? Pris has a very clear answer. Adam has a very clear answer. And they're the same answer — which is exactly why they're still married.
• Polyamory, pregnancy, and co-parenting in the community — It happens. Sometimes it works out beautifully. Sometimes it ends in divorce. They've seen both.
• The advice that applies to every couple in this lifestyle — Have the hard conversations before you need them. Full stop.

This one's got laughs, real talk, a Craigslist throwback, and a moment where Pris essentially tells Adam she would sign the papers but raise the baby herself if it came down to it. That alone is worth the listen.

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What does ethical non-monogamy actually look like in real life?

In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we sit down with Dominique from the viral TikTok account Life With Dominique and her long-distance girlfriend Leah to talk about their real-life experience navigating polyamory, marriage, motherhood, and public life.

Dominique is married to her husband, Leah is married to hers, and together they've built a relationship dynamic that challenges traditional ideas of love, commitment, and partnership.

But as you'll hear in this conversation, ethical non-monogamy isn't just about freedom and attraction — it's about communication, logistics, vulnerability, and sometimes navigating jealousy in ways most people never think about.

We talk about everything from coming out to partners, to balancing multiple relationships, to the surprising ways non-monogamy can strengthen marriages rather than destroy them.

If you've ever wondered how poly relationships actually work behind the scenes, this episode pulls back the curtain.

• How Dominique came out to her husband about her attraction to women
• How polyamory evolved naturally within her marriage
• What it's really like dating a long-distance partner while married
• The logistics of balancing family, marriage, and another relationship
• How jealousy shows up in non-monogamous relationships
• The reality of sharing non-monogamy publicly on social media
• Why communication is the most important skill in ethical non-monogamy
• How strong women and honest conversations create stronger relationships

This conversation is honest, funny, thoughtful, and sometimes surprisingly emotional. As always on Beyond Monogamy, we're not here to tell you how relationships should look — we're here to show how people are making them work in the real world.

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March 22 – SDC Webinar Red Flags & Green Flags in the Lifestyle 4:00 PM Central

March 29 – Swingers 101 Workshop Forbidden Fruit – 6:00 PM to 8:00 PM Sign up at: https://www.forbiddenfruit.com/workshops

April 11 Weekend Texas Desires Hotel Takeover – San Antonio Live show and meet-ups all weekend

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Let's talk about something a LOT of men secretly stress about… but almost nobody wants to say out loud.

How do you actually last longer in bed?

In this Beyond Monogamy QUICKIE episode, Adam and Pris answer a listener question that came through their anonymous confessional: "Adam says he can control how long he lasts… how the hell do you do that?"

And honestly? It's a great question.

Because whether you're in a monogamous relationship, exploring ethical non-monogamy, or playing in the swinger lifestyle, performance anxiety and stamina are topics that come up way more often than people admit.

So today Adam and Pris get real about:

• Why finishing quickly is incredibly common (and usually nothing to stress about)
• The psychological side of arousal and performance anxiety
• The "point of no return" most men experience
• The truth about how long sex actually lasts for most couples
• Why porn expectations completely distort reality
• How communication with your partner can eliminate embarrassment
• The difference between trying to "perform" and actually connecting

Adam also shares the exact strategies that have worked for him over the years, including:

• The stop-start edging method used by sex therapists
• Learning to control your arousal curve
• Using rhythm changes and position changes to stay in control
• Why oral sex can actually help extend the experience
• Pelvic floor exercises (yes… Kegels for men)
• Breathing techniques that help you relax and last longer

And Pris brings the female perspective most guys never hear — including why many women actually don't want marathon sessions and why confidence, communication, and connection matter far more than performance.

If you've ever worried about lasting long enough… or if you're curious about how experienced lifestyle couples handle these situations… this episode is going to make you feel a whole lot better.

Because the truth is simple:

This isn't the Lifestyle Olympics. Nobody is handing out gold medals.

The real goal is mutual pleasure, connection, and having a damn good time.

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Pris's Birthday Bash March 14 – 9PM Club Eden – San Antonio

SDC Webinar March 22 – 4PM Central Topic: Red Flags & Green Flags in the Lifestyle

Swingers 101 Workshop March 29 – 6PM–8PM Forbidden Fruit – Austin TX

Texas Desires Hotel Takeover Weekend of April 11

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One of the most common questions people quietly ask about ethical non-monogamy and swinging is this:

Am I too old for the lifestyle?

Or on the flip side… is there such a thing as being too young?

In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we dive headfirst into one of the most misunderstood topics in the swinging world — age in the lifestyle.

The question actually came from a friend of ours who recently went through a divorce and started thinking about exploring the lifestyle… but had a major insecurity:

"What if I'm too old for this?"

So today we break it all down.

We talk about the myths people believe, the reality of what lifestyle communities actually look like, and why age matters far less than confidence, personality, and effort.

Because if you've ever stepped inside a lifestyle club, you already know something that outsiders don't…

This is NOT a 20-year-old's game.

Many of the happiest, most confident, and most sexually adventurous people in the lifestyle are in their 30s, 40s, 50s, and even 60s.

Why?

Because life experience, emotional intelligence, financial freedom, and confidence all play a massive role in making ethical non-monogamy work.

• Are you too old to start exploring swinging?
• What the real age demographics of the lifestyle look like
• The biggest age insecurities people have before attending their first lifestyle event
• Why confidence and personality matter more than age
• The difference between lifestyle reality vs. porn and social media expectations
• Why the prime lifestyle years might actually be your 40s
• How older swingers often have the best experiences
• The role emotional maturity plays in open relationships
• Whether there is ever an age where people "age out" of swinging
• The truth about younger couples entering the lifestyle

One of the biggest misconceptions about swinging is that everyone is young, perfect, and looks like an OnlyFans creator.

The truth?

The lifestyle community is made up of real people.

Different body types.

Different ages.

Different backgrounds.

What really matters is communication, chemistry, confidence, and respect.

And once you understand that, the whole experience becomes much less intimidating.

If you've ever wondered whether you're too old to explore ethical non-monogamy… this episode might completely change the way you think about it.

Because the truth is simple:

There is a lid for every pot in the lifestyle.

You just have to be confident enough to show up.

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We may even discuss it on a future episode.

March 14 Pris's Birthday Bash at Club Eden — San Antonio

March 29 Swingers 101 Workshop with Adam & Pris Forbidden Fruit – Austin, Texas

April 11 Weekend Texas Desires Hotel Takeover – San Antonio

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