The pitfalls that can come when you don’t involve professionals in your recovery

What is meant by “recovery capital”

What to look for in a professional

What recovery looks like as an ongoing process

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03:54 The Importance of Professional Help

12:14 Balancing Safety and Accountability

16:34 The Myth of Relapse Prevention

23:41 Conclusion and Next Steps

Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.

Courage to Thrive Intensive - This four-day in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you’ll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on October 23-26, 2024. Learn more and register HERE.

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Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Healing Hearts - 15-week self-paced course for individuals and couples to complete. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.

The difference between sobriety and true recovery

What “acting-in” behaviors are

The distinction between high sex drive and sexual addiction

Why hating your sexuality is counterproductive to recovery

Lust’s Roots in Trauma - Beyond the Facade podcast episode

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02:39 Discussion on Sex Addiction

04:35 Myth: Sobriety is Just Not Acting Out

12:07 Myth: Abstaining from Sex Cures Addiction

15:55 Myth: More Sex Solves the Problem

18:32 Embracing Healthy Sexuality

20:22 The Journey of Healing and Recovery

33:06 Myth: Acts of Service Don’t Heal Emotional Wounds

Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.

Learn more about Luke here. 

Schedule a complimentary consultation with Luke here.

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Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Healing Hearts - 15-week self-paced course for individuals and couples to complete. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.

Creating new habits requires disrupting old pathways and consistently reinforcing new ones.

Perfection isn’t necessary.

Building a strong foundation and routines is crucial.

Personal growth is never truly complete.

Reframe failure as a learning opportunity.

Involve others in your journey.

01:14 Upcoming Event - Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity 

03:07 Lessons From the Farm

05:49 Building New Routines

07:58 Walt Disney’s Improvement Mindset

08:25 Edison’s Lessons in Staying Resilient

12:42 The Importance of Support Systems

Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.

Learn more about Luke here. 

Schedule a complimentary consultation with Luke here.

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Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Healing Hearts - 15-week self-paced course for individuals and couples to complete. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.

01:07 Introduction of Gene Huneycutt

05:46 Gene’s Personal Story

08:56 Processing Trauma and Its Impact

11:59 The Role of Curiosity and Grace in Healing

14:02 Addressing Sexual Fantasies in a Safe Context

19:51 Desire and the Path to Personal Maturity

Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.

Learn more about Luke here. 

Schedule a complimentary consultation with Luke here.

Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. We also have a NEW 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Find more info about the self-paced course here.

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.

Intimacy anorexia is intentionally withholding physical, emotional, or spiritual intimacy.

Common signs include blame shifting, withholding love and/or sex, and busyness.

Group support can help individuals practice vulnerability safely.

Patience and partner sensitivity are crucial in recovery.

01:11 Introduction of Joseph McKinley

02:46 Understanding Intimacy Anorexia

08:09 Signs and Symptoms

13:45 Root Causes and Emotional Impact

17:05 Steps to Overcome Intimacy Anorexia

Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.

Revive and Thrive: Betrayal Trauma Intensive for Women - This four-day retreat offers a sanctuary for those healing from betrayal trauma, combining expert-led classes, somatic practices, and supportive community connections. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us August 21-24, 2024 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Register HERE.

Learn more about Luke here. 

Schedule a complimentary consultation with Luke here.

Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. We also have a NEW 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Find more info about the self-paced course here.

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.

Black and white thinking is a common cognitive distortion.

Embracing ambiguity brings benefits like flexibility and resilience.

Strategies to overcome include mindfulness and challenging thoughts.

Identify, challenge, replace, and practice new beliefs.

01:17 The Metaphor of Fifty Shades of Gray

01:55 Understanding Black and White Thinking

05:14 Why We Think in Black and White

07:11 Embracing Complexity and Gray Areas

09:42 Strategies to Overcome Black and White Thinking

Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.

Revive and Thrive: Betrayal Trauma Intensive for Women - This four-day retreat offers a sanctuary for those healing from betrayal trauma, combining expert-led classes, somatic practices, and supportive community connections. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us August 21-24, 2024 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Register HERE.

Learn more about Luke here. 

Schedule a complimentary consultation with Luke here.

Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. We also have a NEW 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Find more info about the self-paced course here.

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.

Boundaries protect the relationship, not push partners away.

Boundaries are about preserving core values and rights.

Learn to recognize the need behind the boundary.

Consistency over time is crucial for rebuilding trust.

The betrayer can create barriers to manage their own behaviors.

02:18 The Fence Analogy

04:22 Defining Boundaries and Their Importance

06:54 Men’s Perspective on Boundaries

13:03 Challenges and Misconceptions

17:58 Effort vs Outcome

22:26 Safety and Validation

30:39 Create Barriers to Provide Safety

In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.

Revive and Thrive: Betrayal Trauma Intensive for Women - This four-day retreat offers a sanctuary for those healing from betrayal trauma, combining expert-led classes, somatic practices, and supportive community connections. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us August 21-24, 2024 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Register HERE.

Learn more about Luke here. 

Schedule a complimentary consultation with Luke here.

Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Healing Hearts - NEW 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Find more info about the self-paced course here.

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.

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No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert A. Glover

Learn more about Dr. Ramneek Bhogal

The window of tolerance is where we can think clearly and feel emotions appropriately.

Hyperarousal (fight/flight) and hypo-arousal (freeze/fawn) are states outside this window.

Betrayal trauma can significantly narrow your window of tolerance.

Learning how to increase your window of tolerance can help you connect more meaningfully with others.

01:18 Introducing Guest Ramneek Bhogal

03:57 Concept of Window of Tolerance

04:49 Hyperarousal vs. Hypoarousal

05:34 Physiological Insights on Stress

12:31 Recognizing and Managing Emotional States

24:03 Tools to Stay in the Window of Tolerance

In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.

Revive and Thrive: Betrayal Trauma Intensive for Women - This four-day retreat offers a sanctuary for those healing from betrayal trauma, combining expert-led classes, somatic practices, and supportive community connections. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us August 21-24, 2024 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Register HERE.

Learn more about Luke here. 

Schedule a complimentary consultation with Luke here.

Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. 

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. 

Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Healing Hearts - Group for couples seeking healing after betrayal. We also have a NEW self-paced, 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. Find more info about the self-paced course here.

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Change occurs in six stages

Doing the opposite of what you think you should do can be transformative.

True change begins when you can no longer tolerate your current situation.

Challenging your perceived limits can reveal untapped potential.

01:02 The Simplified Advice: Do the Opposite

01:38 Understanding the Development Stage

04:27 The Crisis and Decision Stage

06:51 The Shock Stage

07:29 The Grief Stage

07:56 Repair and Growth Stages

09:31 Chase the Fear

In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.

Revive and Thrive: Betrayal Trauma Intensive for Women - This four-day retreat offers a sanctuary for those healing from betrayal trauma, combining expert-led classes, somatic practices, and supportive community connections. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us August 21-24, 2024 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Register HERE.

Learn more about Luke here. 

Schedule a complimentary consultation with Luke here.

Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. We also have a NEW self-paced, 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Find more info about the self-paced course here.

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.

The CAVR technique is curiosity, acknowledge, validate, reassure.

Curiosity is not about finding solutions, but about understanding and connection.

A partner sharing their pain is a vulnerable attempt at connection.

Listening and being curious is crucial in connected relationships.

01:05 Introducing Guest Sy Bee

04:02 The Car Story: A Lesson in Empathy

11:53 The CAVR Tool

15:10 Getting Curious: Practical Examples

25:44 The Importance of Repetition and Accountability

Dopamine Nation book 

In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.

Learn more about Sy and book a consultation here.

Learn more about Luke here. 

Schedule a complimentary consultation with Luke here.

Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma

Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. We also have a NEW self-paced, 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Find more info about the self-paced course here.

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.