You know that feeling when things don't go as planned and you're left feeling disappointed? Yeah, we've all been there. This week on the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving deep into how to manage unrealistic expectations and fantasies in your relationships so you can avoid those heartbreaks.

We're going to break down how to set realistic standards, the difference between your hopes and someone else's reality, and why putting people on pedestals is a one-way ticket to heartbreak. 

Tune in to learn how to keep your heart happy and your expectations in check.

In this episode, we cover…

• 03:32 Understanding why you have unrealistic expectations
• 04:02 The impact of high expectations in relationships
• 04:35 How to balance standards and emotional safety
• 05:43 Why you should see people for who they are
• 10:16 How to avoid the pedestal trap
• 15:59 Breaking the cycle of unrealistic expectations

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal, we’re going to be talking about something really deep today: how what happened to us as kids can mess with our love lives BIG TIME. We're diving into childhood emotional neglect and how it can lead to those addictive relationships we sometimes find ourselves in.

It's wild how many of us deal with the fallout from not feeling seen or heard as kids. It's like this sneaky little pattern that shows up in our adult lives, making us chase love in all the wrong places. We'll break down what emotional neglect actually looks like, how it sticks with us, and how it sparks addictive relationships.

Don't worry! This episode isn't just about the problem. We're gonna talk about healing too. It's all about understanding where this stuff comes from so we can start breaking those unhealthy patterns and building the love we deserve.

In this episode, we cover…

• 00:17 What is childhood emotional neglect?
• 01:47 The impact of childhood emotional neglect on relationships
• 03:08 What is love addiction?
• 03:32 Signs of emotional neglect in your life
• 06:51 How to break the cycle of emotional neglect
• 09:03 The connection between neglect and love addiction
• 12:03 Steps to overcome love addiction
• 24:00 Why you should heal with a community

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
• Sign up for the Healed and Loved Woman Retreat waitlist.
• Running On Empty by Jonice Webb
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.

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• Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal
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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I dive deep into the lessons I've learned over my 10 years of recovery from love addiction. This journey has been incredibly personal and transformative. Many of you have watched and supported me through it all—clients, friends, and those who know me through this podcast. I reflect on the challenges, the growth, and the relationships that have shaped me, culminating in a discussion inspired by a poignant poem that has guided me. 

Join me as I share my story, my insights as a therapist, and the lessons that have helped me build a stronger, healthier relationship with myself. Whether you're just starting your journey or have been here for a while, I hope my experiences resonate with you and offer inspiration for your own path to self-acceptance and self-love.

In this episode, we cover…

• 00:57 My journey of love addiction recovery
• 02:09 The poem that changed everything
• 03:37 My personal background and struggles with love addiction
• 06:56 Lessons from my love addiction recovery journey
• 13:08 The turning point in my love addiction recovery journey
• 15:29 How I embraced self-love and independence
• 39:03 Final reflections and takeaways

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Join our 90-Day No Contact Support Group to help you break your trauma bonded relationships, build a full life outside of the connection, heal related anxieties, and make space for healthy love.
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.

Connect with us:

• Website: Blackgirlsheal.org
• Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal
• TikTok: @blackgirlsheal
• Facebook: Black Girls Heal

Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.

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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive deep into financial codependency—a pattern where you feel obligated to support others financially, even to your own detriment. We explore its roots, how it manifests in various relationships, and the emotional toll it takes. 

You'll learn about practical steps to break free from this cycle, including a 90-day no-contact financial challenge to help reset your finances and reclaim your well-being. We also provide resources to support your journey, including workshops on money trauma and no-contact groups. 

Join us as we focus on reclaiming control, setting healthy boundaries, and prioritizing self-care in your financial life.

In this episode, we cover…

• 02:47 What does financial codependency mean?
• 03:47 How to recognize financial codependency in relationships
• 08:21 How to start breaking the cycle of financial codependency
• 25:52 How to implement no-contact with financial codependency
• 32:34 Practical steps for financial independence
• 43:16 Resources to support your no-contact journey

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Join our 90-Day No Contact Support Group to help you break your trauma bonded relationships, build a full life outside of the connection, heal related anxieties, and make space for healthy love.
• Start healing the wounds that sabotage financial goals, increase fear and anxiety around money, and interrupt the ability to enjoy financial abundance and prosperity through the Money Rehab workshop.
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.

Connect with us:

• Website: Blackgirlsheal.org
• Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal
• TikTok: @blackgirlsheal
• Facebook: Black Girls Heal

Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.

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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I talk about the power of "no contact" as a tool to finally break free from toxic relationships.

You know how it goes – you finally decide to walk away, but somehow, you end up back in contact with that person who just brings you down. It's frustrating, right? Well, here's the thing: most setbacks in our healing journeys happen because we keep connections with folks who are bad for us.

In the episode, I'll walk you through four key steps to make no-contact work. We'll talk about the withdrawal symptoms you might experience, both physical and emotional (because yes, this can be a rollercoaster!). I'll also share tips on setting intentions for your no-contact period and how to cut off those lingering fantasies that hold you back.

In this episode, we cover…

• 00:58 What is No-Contact?
• 02:45 Why you should take a 90-day break
• 03:10 Four steps to no-contact
• 03:47 Withdrawal symptoms you might experience
• 16:20 What it looks like to cut off all contact
• 21:17 How to cut off lingering fantasies
• 29:26 Support resources to start your no-contact journey

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Join our 90-Day No Contact Support Group to help you break your trauma bonded relationships, build a full life outside of the connection, heal related anxieties, and make space for healthy love.
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.

Connect with us:

• Website: Blackgirlsheal.org
• Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal
• TikTok: @blackgirlsheal
• Facebook: Black Girls Heal

Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.

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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we revisit the topic of 'No Contact' and the seven-day 'Don't Text Them: Sit on Your Effing Hands Challenge.' This discussion is aimed at those caught in addictive or trauma-bonded relationships, whether romantic, familial, or friendships. 

We discuss topics like recognizing toxic relationships, the importance of breaking the cycle for self-healing, and the benefits of having a support system during this process. 

We also touch on the new 90-Day No Contact Support Group, offering 90-day support for those serious about cutting trauma bonds. Tune in to learn why you deserve fulfilling relationships and how to reclaim your power and joy.

In this episode, we cover…

• 01:05 The importance of no contact
• 05:04 The Sit on Your Hands Challenge
• 05:28 Who this episode is for and not for
• 16:34 How to recognize avoidant behavior
• 21:58 How to start making decisions from a place of wholeness
• 23:13 Implementing the Sit on Your Hands Challenge
• 24:06 Handling communication during the challenge
• 25:08 Ways to focus on yourself and other relationships
• 28:58 How to respond to their messages
• 32:42 Ways to engage in self-care and hobbies

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Join our 90 Day No Contact Support Group to help you break your trauma bonded relationships, build a full life outside of the connection, heal related anxieties, and make space for healthy love.
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.

Connect with us:

• Website: Blackgirlsheal.org
• Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal
• TikTok: @blackgirlsheal
• Facebook: Black Girls Heal

Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.

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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the challenging yet liberating process of surrender and letting go. We explore themes such as grieving, setting boundaries, and focusing on self-love, supported by a poignant poem 'Just Let Them' by Cassie Phillips. 

We also go into the three key takeaways: realizing you can't control others, being open to love and connection, and mastering the art of balanced surrender. 

Additionally, we introduce various support resources including the co-contact support group, love avoidance healing programs, and more. This episode is a heartfelt guide towards self-healing and embracing the goodness life offers.

In this episode, we cover…

• 01:00 Why surrendering and letting go are necessary
• 02:32 Poem: Just Let Them by Cassie Phillips
• 04:17 Reflections on the poem
• 10:36 Takeaway 1: Realizing you can't control others
• 16:52 Takeaway 2: Being available to let others in
• 30:42 Takeaway 3: Why you must surrender
• 36:44 Program announcements

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Pre-enroll in The Prosperous Podcaster and save $250 off. We start on July 2, 2024.
• Sign up for the Healed and Loved Woman Retreat waitlist.
• Join our 90-Day No Contact Support Group to help you break your trauma bonded relationships, build a full life outside of the connection, heal related anxieties, and make space for healthy love.
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.

Connect with us:

• Website: Blackgirlsheal.org
• Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal
• TikTok: @blackgirlsheal
• Facebook: Black Girls Heal

Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.

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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the crucial topic of feeling deserving and why it's essential for receiving the love you desire. We explore how internalizing negative beliefs and trauma can lead to feeling undeserving, even when we outwardly affirm our worth. 

You'll learn practical steps to identify the emotional 'weeds' that choke your growth, including energy-draining relationships and perfectionist tendencies. Additionally, we discuss the importance of self-love, self-compassion, and clearing stored trauma from your body. 

This episode aims to guide you through the first step of the four-step bloom method to help your relationships flourish, ensuring you are on the path to feeling truly deserving of love and happiness.

In this episode, we cover…

• 01:03 Understanding deservingness
• 03:04 Identifying emotional weeds
• 05:13 Clearing emotional blockages
• 05:29 Identifying energy drains in your relationships
• 09:43 How perfectionism plays a role in low self-worth
• 22:39 Tools for healing
• 27:24 Why you need to consider bodywork to heal trauma

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
• Listen to Episode 248: Getting Out of the Negative in Relationships
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.

Connect with us:

• Website: Blackgirlsheal.org
• Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal
• TikTok: @blackgirlsheal
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Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.

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In today’s episode, we get into the topic of the fear of being seen, exploring the underlying trauma that leads to avoidance behaviors and vulnerability in relationships. 

We discuss the common thoughts, actions, and patterns that arise when individuals struggle with feeling exposed and unworthy. Additionally, we address the impact of childhood trauma, emotional neglect, and exclusion on the development of these fears. 

Episode 249 also highlights the symptoms of low self-worth and how they manifest in perfectionism, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment. 

In this episode, we cover…

• 04:04 Common patterns when you have a fear of being seen
• 04:48 The risk of personal development
• 07:55 Using perfectionism and people-pleasing as ways to exempt yourself from criticisms
• 11:09 Self-abandonment as a means to hide yourself
• 12:09 Making a list of things you're proud of about yourself
• 13:16 Why being humble is actually quiet confidence
• 14:47 Why you're afraid of people getting access to you
• 15:45 The traumas that lead to fear of being seen
• 21:08 How the fear of being seen manifests for love addicts
• 25:04 How the fear of being seen manifests for love avoidants
• 26:45 Disassociating to keep yourself safe
• 31:28 How to work on your fear of being seen

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Sign up for the Healed and Loved Woman Retreat waitlist.
• Listen to Episode 163: How Childhood Emotional Neglect Leads to Love Addiction
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.

Connect with us:

• Website: Blackgirlsheal.org
• Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal
• TikTok: @blackgirlsheal
• Facebook: Black Girls Heal

Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.

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