Knowing what our boundaries are is one of the foundations of a happy dating life and of a healthy relationship. This month we have talked a lot about relationships gone wrong, and we want to prevent our listeners from getting in that situation by talking about one of the ways to build trust and respect with someone.

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But what ARE boundaries in the first place? How do we know what ours are and how do we let those around us know? And what does it mean to have a boundary crossed? We are breaking it ALL down for you today - including letting the world know OUR top boundaries in dating. 

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This month we are supporting the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Please take a few minutes to check out their website and consider supporting them in a way that feels great to you: https://ncadv.org/

And to purchase one of the beautiful survivor necklaces that we spoke about in the episode visit Angelika Koch's jewelry line at https://iwillthrivewellness.com/

Did our advice help you think about setting better boundaries? Send us a DM and let us know. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

There sure seem to be a lot of narcissists out there today, right? The number of people who have been affected by narcissism appears to be skyrocketing, but are we missing the point when we put labels on behaviors rather than describing them? We have looked forward to covering the topic of “narc abuse” and the reality of how narcissism shows up in relationships since the beginning of the show and today we have a great expert to open the conversation with.

Welcome to the show, Chris Gritti!

Chris Gritti is a certified Cognitive Behavioral Therapist and mental health coach who supports people in taking a proactive approach to moving beyond pain and trauma to thrive, especially in recovering from toxic relationships. He has a great TickTock channel where he discusses both relating to the toxic person in your life and healing from relationships with them. And while Chris has intimate experiences with more than one narcissist in his life, he focuses on moving past trying to diagnose someone and toward healing.

And he doesn’t hold back! Buckle your seatbelt - this interview is a wild ride! We discuss:

-How a toxic person gains a hold on someone

-The different types of narcissism

-Why labeling people or trying to diagnose them distracts us from healing

-Why it’s easy to stay stuck in talking about how narcissistic an ex is keeps us stuck

-How to take our power back after a toxic relationship

-Why being too nice or feeling sorry for a toxic person sets us up for a TON of misery

Chris is a lot of fun and has a great approach to relationships. Want to see him in action?

TickTock: https://www.tiktok.com/discover/Chris-Gritti

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_nittigritti/

Website: https://thenittigritti.com/

Want more Ex-Philes action? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts.

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Do you know how to spot a healthy relationship? When you say you want a healthy relationship, do you know the specifics of what you’re after? We are continuing our DV Awareness Month discussion with a feel-good chat about what makes a partnership a truly functional and joyous one.

Knowledge is power! It is easy to say that a healthy relationship is one in which both partners feel loved, respected, and seen, but what does it look like day-to-day? Set the bar HIGH with the information included in this episode.

What do you think about our DV Awareness Month episodes? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts.

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Trigger warning: verbal abuse, financial abuse, intimate partner violence.

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Domestic violence is an often misunderstood topic that society often whittles down to whether or not a person in a relationship is beaten by their partner. Other types of abuse often go undiscussed, unrecognized, and unvalidated, causing a lot of people to live in fear and unhappiness. Today, we are continuing our conversation about domestic violence with a talk about non-physical partner violence and its consequences.

We hope the information given in this episode will help to promote more awareness and understanding of domestic violence. No one deserves to live in fear of their partner, regardless of the level of physical violence.

Become an advocate. Please visit the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence to learn how to get involved.

If you are struggling in a relationship in which you feel abused or lacking control you are not alone. You do not need to justify ending a relationship to anyone, including your partner. If you would like to reach out to someone for support, please consider the following organizations:

The National Domestic Violence Hotline

1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)

www.ndvh.org

National Dating Abuse Helpline

1-866-331-9474

www.loveisrespect.org

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

1-800-273-8255 (TALK)

www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

1-800-273-8255 (TALK)

www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

INDIGENOUS WOMEN

National Indigenous Women’s Resource Center

855-649-7299

www.niwrc.org

National Gay and Lesbian Task Force

1-202-393-5177

www.ngltf.org

LEGAL

Battered Women’s Justice Project

1-800-903-0111

www.bwjp.org

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

Want to connect?

Email: [email protected]

IG: @janiceformichella

Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. 

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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

Trigger warning: gun violence, stalking, partner violence, suicide

Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and we are honored to be kicking it off with a conversation with Ruth Glenn, President of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Ruth's story is one of survival, inspiration, and information for us all to use and share.

Domestic violence is a prevalent and misunderstood issue impacting individuals and families in every community in this country. It is estimated that nearly 20 people per minute are being physically abused in the United States, with life-altering non-physical violence just as common but less recognized.

Yet as pervasive an issue as it is, there are myths and misunderstandings that make daily life even less safe for victims and survivors. In today’s interview, we speak with Ruth about:

-Her story of being abused by her husband

-Why “why didn’t you leave” misses the point and puts the blame on the abused person

-How you can provide hope and support to someone in your life who may be being abused

-How to recognize abuse in your relationship

-How to be an advocate to victims and survivors

Plus: how to get involved with the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and join the movement against intimate partner violence.

The NCADV is 100% reliant on grassroots support and donations and not funded by government grants. Please visit them today at https://ncadv.org/ to learn about the various ways to get involved.

Help us spread awareness this Domestic Violence Awareness Month by using the hashtag #weareresilient in your posts.

Want to get to know us more? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts.

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

It’s true: online dating is a lot about weeding out the “not-so-likely-to-be-a-match” profiles. But how do you know? Today we are having the experts, including the Ex-Philes gals, weigh in about the profile red flags that you can go ahead and avoid.

The red flags that we discuss are common enough to make us scratch our heads and hilarious enough to make us lose it a few times. And yes, it includes fish pics and “ain’t my baby” discussions. Plus, why asking for “no drama” is a sure sign that drama follows you wherever you go.

We want you to have fun out there! Up your chances by taking notes on this episode.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Episode 35: Chemistry vs. Compatibility

Episode 59: Dating App Profile Pics! With Saskia Nelson

We would love to continue this topic. If you have a funny story or experience with a dating profile high on the “red flag” or “sounds like a winner” spectrum, please join our Facebook group and share.

Want to get to know us more? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts.

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

We want you to have happy, healthy relationships, and those start with flirting that leaves you feeling JUICY, not icky or doubting yourself.

Regardless of what you (or they) call it, there are toxic, predatory flirting behaviors that are used in today’s scene. No amount of “I’m just kidding” makes them okay. We want to start a movement of sorts: dating is only worth it when it’s fun and feels good. So the Ex-Philes gals and here to give you permission to spot and call out this shit when you see it.

Are you single and ready to mingle? In today’s episode we will chat about:

-What negging looks like

-Why it is ALWAYS wrong

-Our personal experiences facing negging and toxic flirting behaviors

-What to do when someone negs you

-How to make you that you don’t engage in toxic flirting behavior

Remember: you are not “too sensitive.” If it feels wrong, don’t put up with it.

Want to get to know us more? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts.

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

There are a lot of moving parts to co-parenting. And when you are co-parenting with an ex that you don’t get along with, it can quickly become overwhelming for everyone involved. But there ARE ways to make it work, set a good example for your children, AND maintain your sanity.

We are so pleased to welcome Co-Parenting Peacefully founder Katie Davie to Ex-Philes. Katie is a co-parenting coach who specializes in providing one-on-one support to individuals who want to find a solution to a co-parenting situation that isn’t working for them. She offers really practical tips and ways of thinking about your own behavior that can be game changers for your entire family.

Some of what we cover:

-how to limit contact with your co-parent

-what are appropriate boundaries to set with your co-parent

-what a parental agreement is and why everyone needs one

-what to do when you are the only one trying to make things peaceful

-How to make sure your kids don’t get caught up in the conflict

This is a great episode for anyone who has to have contact with their ex.

Katie is constantly dropping truth bombs on her awesome Instagram account, CoparentingPeacefully. To learn about what she is offering parenting visit her website at Coparentingpeacefully.com 

What did you think of Katie's approach? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts.

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

🤷‍♀️🤷🏽🤦🏾‍♀️ Do you feel like you can’t quite get it right when it comes to selecting someone to go the distance with? Today’s episode is for you!

Yeah, some of us may suffer from a broken picker. And it can cause us a bunch of grief! In today’s episode the Ex-Philes gals cover:

-WHY some of us end up with a broken picker

-WHAT it means to have a broken picker and WHAT it looks like

-VERY personal stories and shares from Janice and Clair about the state of their pickers

-HOW you can repair your broken picker

Plus another edition of Breakup Ballads: Toxic, or Empowering?

More Ex-Philes episodes to help you strengthen your picker:

Ep. 35: Chemistry vs Compatibility

Ep. 45: Slow down! With Janice

Ep. 49: Love Them But Let Them Go with Clair

Want to get to know us more? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts.

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

⭐️Today’s affirmation:  I choose my experience. ⭐️

Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey.

For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support.

You’ve made it to day 10! YOU. ARE. AMAZING.

Love the challenge? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts.

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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.