Coaching for Leaders

Therese Huston: How Women Decide

Therese Huston is looking to change the conversation about women as decision-makers. Her book, How Women Decide: What’s True, What’s Not, and What Strategies Spark the Best Choices*, debunks popular negative stereotypes about women as decision-makers. She is also the Founding Director for the Center for Excellence in Teaching and Learning at Seattle University.

Key Points

When a female leader makes a mistake in a job traditionally held by men, people are much more critical.

When women are collaborative, they’re seen as less decisive.

Don’t be fooled by someone’s confidence—it could just be a sign they don’t know all the facts.

Use the Loopback strategy - think about your situation a year from now, and project what you wish you would have done differently.

Strategies to help women in the workplace:

Make sure nobody is interrupted when speaking in a meeting.

Take designated turns for speaking in meetings.

Make it clear that negotiations are expected when discussing salary, office setups, etc.

Resources Mentioned

Research: We Are Way Harder on Female Leaders Who Make Bad Calls by Therese Huston

Thinking, Fast and Slow* by Daniel Kahneman

Therese Huston's website

Related Episodes

Personality Preferences and Decision-Making (episode 46)

How to Tap Into Wisdom, with Barry Schwartz (episode 92)

Start With Why, with Simon Sinek (episode 223)

How to Tame Your Inner Critic, with Tara Mohr (episode 232)

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Dacher Keltner: The Power Paradox

Dacher shows us how to use power for good and the most important ways we can gain and lose influence.

Quotes

We need to rethink what power is … it’s not necessarily a dirty word.

—Dacher Keltner

If you can just stay interested in other people and know where their minds are, you will rise in power … and you will keep your power because people will respect you.

—Dacher Keltner

In today’s collaborative workplace, our power rests critically upon the good work of other people.

—Dacher Keltner

One of the things that accompanies leadership and power is the privilege of enhancing the lives of other people.

—Dacher Keltner

I really see power as having an enormous force for good.

—Dacher Keltner

Resources

The Power Paradox: How We Gain and Lose Influence* by Dacher Keltner

The Secret to Being a Better Leader: See and Hear Others by Dacher Keltner

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David Burkus: Under New Management

David is the author of Under New Management: How Leading Organizations Are Upending Business as Usual*. In this conversation, David teaches us how leading organizations are now using new management techniques.

Quotes

If you’re not embarrassed by your work from five years ago, then you’re not growing fast enough.

—David Burkus

You need to be a great place to be from, not just a great place to be at.

—David Burkus

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Bonni is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, Dean of Teaching and Learning and Professor of Business and Management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, she was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. Bonni is the author of The Productive Online and Offline Professor: A Practical Guide*.

Question from Chase

I’m wondering about coaching someone who has inherited a job that pushes them beyond their skill set. Specifically, someone who was focused solely on a job specifically training tellers. That function moved from HR to ops. HR retained the former teller trainer for a corporate trainer role. The employee’s wheelhouse is black and white training, ops and compliance focused. Now the employee’s focus is on more ambiguous training around developing staff on a variety of skill sets. It's challenging for her. I struggle coaching her because her natural drive and skill is very ops focused. Any advice on some coaching on this topic would be much appreciated!

Question from Diana

I have an MSC in environment and sustainable development, and although I do some studies and recommendations on sustainable cities, the reality is that most developers don't care about the environment, and sometimes I feel I am missing my ideals.

Other team members agree with me. Sometimes I feel uncomfortable, because of my beliefs and the developers expectations.

I know I can only know how much I can stand of this incongruity, but is it something usual in the workplace? Is it common that you find that you don't agree with the position of the company you work with? Sometimes this position might only be recognized once you are working within the company.

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Audio Question from Charlie

Analyzing Performance Problems by Robert Mager and Peter Pipe

Audio Question from Rasmus

Teaching in Higher Ed

Audio Question from Joe

The Lean Startup* by Eric Ries

Originals* by Adam Grant

How to Be a Non-Conformist, with Adam Grant (episode 238)

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Molly Moseley: LinkUp

In this episode, Molly Moseley of LinkUp teaches us how to respond when somebody quits.

Quotes

When someone is approaching you putting in a resignation, you need to throw out that reactive brain and think logically.

—Molly Moseley

As a manager, you need to know the [career] goals of every one of your direct reports.

—Molly Moseley

If you are constantly worried that this person is going to leave, maybe you did make the wrong decision to have them stay.

—Molly Moseley

Resources

LinkedIn Article: Employee resignations: counter offer or say good bye?

LinkUp

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Ryan Williams: The Influencer Economy

On this episode, Ryan Williams, author of The Influencer Economy*, teaches us how to master the influencer economy — and the importance of getting started.

Quotes

When it comes to a platform, it’s all about the relationships.

—Ryan Williams

In the internet, everyone is reachable.

—Ryan Williams

Never ask for a favor … always make it a win-win.

—Ryan Williams

You need to make it as easy as possible for influencers to say yes.

—Ryan Williams

You’ve got to give people value and make sure it’s the right fit. And if it is, then it’s a win-win.

—Ryan Williams

If you'd like to receive the free book chapter that Ryan promised, visit this link:

https://www.influencereconomy.com/coachingforleaders/

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John Kotter: That’s Not How We Do It Here!

On this episode, John Kotter, author of That's Now How We Do It Here!*, and many other bestselling books on organizational change, shares how to succeed with leadership and management.

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Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed

Bonni is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, Dean of Teaching and Learning and Professor of Business and Management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, she was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. Bonni is the author of The Productive Online and Offline Professor: A Practical Guide*.

Question from Marcelo

I am from Brazil and I would like to let you know that since January I’ve been listening your podcast and I think it’s fantastic. Even though I’ve had great experiences in leadership, your podcasts have been changing my perspective. Don’t you think that instead of considering someone as a leader we should recognize people who have good human relations? Because of this skill, people start to follow you, but on the other hand, you are still learning and you also follow someone.

Leading Change* by John Kotter

Question from Lea

We have two departments which have been merged in November last year but the new team are still not working together - they seem to be stuck in their old teams. We have tried team building, changes their seats etc. and yet they are not integrated. I know it has not been that long since November, but how would you handle this case?

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Question from Toni

I have recently had the wonderful experience of listening to your podcast and now I am hooked. I'm writing to find out what you would recommend as a wonderful organization to join for leadership development. Thank you and I look forward to hearing from you.

Toastmasters

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OD Network

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The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, with Susan Cain (episode 44)

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Question from Guto

Until last year I used to be at the top of the organization and was always directly linked to directors or owners. Today I find myself in an intermediate position as the second manager.

I'm a hard time dealing with this, because sometimes I feel that my manager does not want to solve the problems and likes to go to others, but people who are neither managers nor knowledgeable are dealing with the situations.

Talking to a trusted person, she told me to put aside and learn to manage. How can I discover the technique to be managed and at the same time influence within the organization?

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Chase Carey: Chasin' Meditation

Chase Carey, author of Chasin' Meditation*, teaches us how to reduce stress using the practice of meditation.

Quotes

Meditation isn’t about what happens in meditation; it’s all about what happens in your external life.

—Chase Carey

Just because you have a thought doesn’t mean you have to pay attention to it, and it doesn’t mean you have to come up with a conclusion or emotional response to it.

—Chase Carey

If you’re a business leader, a coach, or a professional, you need some space just to be quiet.

—Chase Carey

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Zvi Band: Contactually

Zvi Band, CEO of Contactually shares how his organization conducts one-on-ones and how their strategy leads to results.

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