Creating Midlife Calm: Coping Skills for Stress & Anxiety in Family, Work & Relationships

Have the holidays ever made your loneliness feel heavier? 

You’re not alone—midlife anxiety and stress often peak the week before Christmas.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

1.     Why loneliness intensifies during the holidays, especially in midlife

2.     How understanding the biology of loneliness softens your judgement helping you reduce loneliness. 

3.     A gentle coping skill that helps you feel more connected. 

🎧 Take 6 minutes to bring more calm and connection to your week—you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

Does the holiday season ever feel like a part-time job you’re paying to work?

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, you’re not alone.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

1.     How to recognize when holiday expectations push your midlife brain into overwhelm

2.     The three  quick and free reset strategies that calm anxiety and stress quickly

3.     A simple way to reclaim your capacity without doing more

🎧 Take 7 minutes to move from frazzled to grounded—you're worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

Do the holidays feel heavier because you’re carrying stress, anxiety, and overwhelm you barely had room for in the first place?
You’re not alone if this season amplifies everything your midlife brain is already managing.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
1.    The real difference between stress, anxiety, and overwhelm—and why holiday pressure intensifies all three
2.    What happens in your midlife brain and body when you’ve quietly exceeded capacity
3.    How understanding overwhelm helps you reclaim clarity and calm without adding anything to your plate
 Take 9 minutes to bring more calm to your holidays—you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

Do you ever feel like you’re stuck saying yes when every part of you wants to say no?
People-pleasing may look helpful on the outside, but it fuels midlife anxiety and stress while leaving you disconnected from what you really want.
In this episode, you’ll discover:

1. How to notice the wave of feelings that trigger people-pleasing.
2. Why anchoring in your breath helps break the fawning cycle.
3. How the FAWN steps—Feel, Anchor, Watch, Name—move you from automatic yes to standing strong.

 Take 11 minutes to stop people-pleasing and start standing steady in your truthIn Appreciation of Episode 200!  Join me for a free workshop:

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

Do you ever wonder why you say yes when you want to say no—only to feel anxious, resentful, or even angry afterward?

You’re not alone—people-pleasing is one of the most common hidden drivers of midlife anxiety and stress.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

1.     What people-pleasing (or fawning) really is, and why it’s more than just “being nice.”

2.     Why it silently fuels midlife anxiety, stress, and anger—damaging both your self-respect and your relationships.

3.     The hidden causes of people-pleasing, from social conditioning and family systems to trauma and sensitivity.

🎧 Take 13 minutes to understand the roots of people-pleasing, and begin reclaiming your truth—you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

Do you ever feel like you’re either doing everything—or nothing at all—because stress and anxiety keep hijacking your balance?
Midlife often pulls you between over-functioning and under-functioning, but your nervous system holds the key to calm.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
1.    How to engage your vagus nerve—your body’s built-in calm system—to regulate anxiety and stress.
2.    Three easy-to-use coping skills to help you restore steadiness in minutes.
3.    How to practice equanimity, the emotional balance that lets you stay grounded no matter what life throws your way.
 Take 10 minutes to slow down, reset your body, and find your calmest midlife self — you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

Are you constantly doing too much—or pulling back because you feel too drained to care?
These midlife stress patterns are your body’s natural way of managing anxiety, not personal flaws.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
1.    What it truly means to over-function or under-function when anxiety and stress take over.
2.    Why these patterns are nervous-system responses—not fixed personality traits.
3.    How to recognize your own pattern so you can begin moving toward emotional balance and calm.
 Take 9 minutes to understand your stress patterns and find your first step back to calm—you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

What if the secret to a peaceful Thanksgiving isn’t in what you plan—but in what you accept?
You’re not alone if the holidays bring a mix of love, pressure, and unrealistic expectations.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
1.    Why disappointment hits harder in midlife—and how to soften it with self-awareness.
2.    The one ingredient that transforms stress into calm (no gratitude list required).
3.    A simple coping skill that keeps connection strong, even when the day doesn’t go as planned.
 Take six minutes to reset your mindset, reduce stress, and create calm that lasts through the holiday—you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

What if the secret to a calmer, happier holiday isn't what you add—but what you leave out?
You’re not alone if holiday gatherings bring stress, distraction, and midlife anxiety instead of the peace you crave.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
1.    The one “ingredient” that quietly steals connection at the holiday table
2.    Why small boundaries create huge relief for midlife stress and anxiety
3.    A simple, science-backed coping skill that restores laughter, calm, and presence
 Take four minutes to reclaim calm, connection, and joy this holiday—you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

Have you ever felt that mix of anger and self-pity when life—or family—doesn’t go the way you hoped?
You’re not alone. Those emotions you try to hide aren’t weakness—they’re signals that something inside you needs care.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
1.    Why anger and self-pity are your nervous system’s natural way of asking for protection and calm.
2.    How to recognize when these emotions become traps that feed midlife stress, anxiety, and disconnection.
3.    A science-backed way to pivot from hurt to healing—without guilt, blame, or forced positivity.
 Take 10 minutes to transform hurt into calm—because understanding your emotions is the first step to midlife wisdom. You’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support.