Creating Midlife Calm: Coping Skills for Stress & Anxiety in Family, Work & Relationships

Have you ever looked at the holiday table and felt the quiet ache of someone missing?
You’re not alone — and it doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means your love is remembering.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
1.   The science of why your brain links memory, belonging, and emotion so powerfully this time of year.
2.   Why noticing your “missing” is the key to transforming midlife anxiety into calm and clarity.
3.   Three simple coping skills to ground yourself, reconnect, and find meaning when the holidays feel too quiet.
 Take ten minutes to turn your holiday stress into calm, gratitude, and grounded connection — you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

What if your biggest triggers are actually your best teachers?
You’re not broken—you’re human, and your nervous system is simply trying to protect you.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
1.    How to use a simple coping skill  to move through triggers in real time
2.    Why tending to your inner world (not controlling the outer one) is the real path to calm
3.    How using this science-backed coping skill helps you become less triggered over time by rewiring old emotional patterns and strengthening self-trust
 Take 10 minutes to retrain your brain, reduce anxiety, and rebuild self-trust—one trigger at a time. You’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

Have you ever wondered why you suddenly feel triggered by something small?
You’re not broken—your brain is simply reacting faster than your awareness can catch up.
In this episode, you’ll discover:

1. What’s really happening in your brain and body when you’re triggered.
2. The science behind why a small moment in the present can activate big feelings from the past.
3. Three ways to recognize when stress and anxiety have hijacked your calm—and how to start restoring self-trust.

 Take 11 minutes to understand what’s happening beneath your reactions—and begin to reclaim calm and clarity. You’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

Are you taking care of everyone else and forgetting yourself?
You’re not alone — midlife often turns self-care into an afterthought,
In this episode, you’ll discover:
1.    Why micro self-care shifts work better than big resolutions for midlife stress and anxiety.
2.    Four simple, science-backed coping skills that take no extra time and cost nothing.
3.    How to notice when caring for others starts to eclipse caring for yourself — and what to do about it.
 Take 10 minutes to rebuild your calm before the holiday rush — you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

Feeling more tired, anxious and  stressed as the days get shorter?
You’re not alone—your body and mind are simply responding to less daylight and seasonal change.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
1.    Why fall is the most psychologically powerful season to reset habits that decrease anxiety and stress.
2.    How light therapy and full-spectrum lighting help restore your energy, mood, and calm.
3.    Simple daily coping skills to work with your biology—not against it—for more focus and peace.
Take 12 minutes to reset your light, energy, and calm—you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

What if thinking about death could actually teach you how to live with more peace, presence, and perspective?
You don’t have to explore this alone.
In this episode, you’ll discover:

1. Why practicing small acts of letting go builds resilience for life’s biggest transitions.
2. How the body “knows how to die” and what that means for reducing fear and blame.
3. A simple yoga pose that can shift how you approach mortality and daily anxiety adding meaning and clarity to your life. 

 Take 20 minutes to practice letting go and discover new calm in midlife—you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

Why does reflecting on death feel so uncomfortable, yet hold surprising value for our mental wellness?
You’re not alone if the thought makes you uneasy.
In this episode, you’ll discover:

1. Why most of us avoid thoughts of mortality—and the hidden costs of that avoidance.
2. How reflecting on death, even briefly, can shift daily stress and anxiety.
3. What hospice work and mindfulness practices reveal about living with greater calm and clarity.

 Take 20 minutes to see how reflecting on death can free you to live more fully—you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

What if the surprising key to dissolving midlife anxiety and stress comes from the way toddlers move through the world?
You’re not alone if stress and anxiety in midlife make calm feel out of reach.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
1.    Why eliminating outside stressors rarely creates lasting calm
2.    How toddlers teach powerful lessons about coping with midlife anxiety and stress
3.    Right-brain practices that reconnect you to the calm already inside of you
 Take 12 minutes to unlock calm from the inside out and ease midlife anxiety and stress—you’re worth it

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

What if your calm hasn’t disappeared — you’ve just stopped practicing how to return to it?
Stress and anxiety in midlife don’t require more control — they require better connection with what’s already inside you.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
1.    How to reconnect with natural calm using everyday moments
2.    Why giving anxiety too much attention increases suffering
3.    Simple coping skills to reset your nervous system in real time
Take 10 minutes to listen  and begin practicing calm, not chasing it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

Do you pride yourself on powering through—but secretly feel drained and resentful?
Pushing through anxiety and stress feels like the only option in midlife, but the truth is it often backfires.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
1.    Why pushing through actually keeps the stress cycle open and makes anxiety worse
2.    The hidden costs of  the “push-through mode” in midlife
3.    How to use RESET coping skills to calm anxiety, conserve energy, and reconnect with what matters
 Take 13 minutes to stop burning out and start building calm—you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support.