Dating Intentionally

Being single is treated like something to escape, like something's wrong with you. But what if we stopped thinking of it that way? In this episode, I'm sharing the exact exercise I did after leaving my 6-year relationship that completely changed how I approached dating. I'm sharing the reflection questions I used to build my own security while actively dating, so you can do the same. This episode will help you re-frame urgency and desperation around just finding your person already.

REFLECTION QUESTIONS:

• If I don't like it here, where should I live?
• How do I want to spend my time? What do I want my lifestyle to be?
• How will I make my life meaningful without a romantic relationship?
• What kind of friend and daughter do I want to be?
• How will I show up for the people in my life?
• How do I want to spend my money and what are my financial goals as a single person?
• If I don't meet anyone in the next few years, will I choose to have kids on my own?
• If I don't get married, what does the best version of my life look like?

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Are you overthinking your dating situations, or are people showing you exactly who they are?

In this episode, I break down four real dating dilemmas, which will help you trust your gut, set firmer boundaries, and date with more confidence and ease. Dilemma 1) dating someone who isn’t truly available, Dilemma 2) dealing with inconsistency and repeated cancellations, Dilemma 3) knowing when to state a boundary versus walk away, and Dilemma 4) figuring out whether a “slow burn” is real or a stalled connection. When you learn to observe instead of explain away behavior, dating becomes less confusing and a lot more empowering.

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Breakups aren’t fun, but they don’t have to break you.

In this episode, I’m joined by breakup coach Cole Zesiger to talk about why we ruminate, how to stop comparing new dates to an ex, and when you are actually ready to date again. We also get into his divorce story, real healing strategies, and at the end we get into a dating dilemma about staying in touch with exes.

Connect with Cole Zesiger:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachcolezesiger

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbR-Co-YONE96kmIsxQPstA

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Ex's and No's: The Breakup Advice You Don't Want to Hear

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Getting to date three is hard and getting past it can feel impossible. In this episode, I’m breaking down why connections so often fizzle by date three, how to tell if you’re subconsciously pushing people away, and what actually helps build momentum early on. I share practical tips around texting, planning dates, pacing, and confidence. At the end, I get into a dating dilemma about a concert invite months in advance. 

Previous Episode Mentioned

21.Are you dating for validation? (And how to stop)

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In this episode, I chat with Drea Renee, host of Hey Babe Can We Talk, to break down long-distance dating, vetting men from the apps, and the subtle red flags we often talk ourselves out of. Drea shares how she unexpectedly met someone abroad who challenges her patterns in the best ways. We dive into red flags, long-distance dynamics, and the inner work that real connection demands. At the end, we get into a dating dilemma about what to do when someone pulls back after a fast start.

Where to Find Drea:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/heybabecanwetalk

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeyBabeCanWeTalk

Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5IHI4Nis2q39tAsMC6Zr3O

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In this episode, I break down why we crave being chosen in dating and how shifting into being the chooser transforms your confidence, clarity, and relationships. I unpack the media messages, attachment patterns, and personal experiences that keep us chasing validation, and I walk you through how to date from a place of self-worth, clarity, and mutual choosing. At the end, I dive into a dating dilemma about catching feelings for someone who isn’t ready to date.

Episode Mentioned:

21. Are you dating for validation? (And how to stop)

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In this episode, I sit down with therapist and emotional maturity expert Julia Kristina to break down what emotional maturity actually looks like in dating. We cover the signs of an emotionally mature partner, how to build a deeper connection, and how to handle conflict with confidence instead of fear. At the end, I get into a dating dilemma about how to manage your emotions when someone pulls back slightly, and you’re not sure if it’s a red flag or your fear talking.

Where to Find Julia:

Instagram -> instagram.com/juliacounsellor

Website -> juliakristina.com

YouTube -> youtube.com/user/juliakristinamah

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Ever feel anxious even when a new connection is going well? In this episode, I break down why that happens, how to tell the difference between intuition & overthinking, & what to do when your attachment system gets loud. I share my own story, practical tools to calm anxiety, and how to navigate dating someone who feels this way too. At the end, I answer a dating dilemma from a woman who's unsure about her partner of 6 months.

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This throwback episode (originally aired June 14, 2024) features Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick, hosts of Dateable Podcast, who've been sharing dating advice for 8 years. We cover practical tips for better date conversations, how to screen matches effectively, and the mindset shifts that help you stay curious and less attached to outcomes. We also discuss what successful daters have in common: wanting a relationship, not needing one, and knowing their dating "north star." We end with a rapid-fire "Is it a red flag if?" round.

Follow Dateable on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dateablepodcast/

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Ever wonder if you’re actually making progress in dating, even when it doesn’t feel like it?

I’m diving into how to tell you’re truly on the right track, even if you’re still single after A LOT of dating. I share six clear signs of growth, what not to measure, and how to stay grounded through rejection, dry spells, and frustration. At the end, I answer a dating dilemma about the honeymoon phase.

Episodes Mentioned:

158 — What to do when you feel like you're doing everything right but nothing is working.

211 — How to Flirt (Even If You’re “Bad” at it) w/ Francesca Hogi

103 — I’m Doing Everything Right But I’m Still Single

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