Dear Little Me

Fatherwound.  Motherwound.

ON THE HEAL BLOG This Is Why You Should Never Spank Your Child 

What happens to us when we are disconnected from our parents?  Karina grew up without a father, and with a mother who was emotionally disconnected. Karina was essentially parenting herself. Karina left home as soon as she finished high school and realised it was her own responsibility to create the life she dreamed for herself.  But growing up without a connection to either parent, Karina found herself gravitating towards men that she couldn't connect with either. Karina is now living a beautiful life, selling luxury real estate, and has written a book called Choosing Magic where she tells her story of growing up and surviving life with no real parenting and how she has been able to turn her life around.  You can find Karina at Choosing Magic and if you go to this page and navigate to the end you can get access to Karina's 12 Simple Tools To Enrich Your Daily Life

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Generational toxicity in mothers

How Does A Narcissistic Mother Manipulate Her Child? Out now on the HEAL Blog HERE  

Richelle suffered a lifetime of narcissistic abuse from her mother.  And with the understanding she now has, Richelle can see that her grandmother was also a narcissist.  Playing favourites.  Golden child syndrome.  Manipulation.  Lack of boundaries.  Parentification.  Cycles of abuse.  Love bombing.  Richelle's Mom would disappear for weeks at a time and Richelle would be left in the care of her grandmother.  It was Richelle's normal but as Richelle says she always felt something was not right.  Richelle's story is the story of so many women living with generational narcissism.   

You can find Richelle on Instagram and her blog 

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The trauma of human trafficking.

On the Blog this week, A Big Warm Hug - The Benefits Of Sleeping With A Weighted Blanket For Trauma Survivors https://howmyparentsraisedme.com/blog-childhood-trauma/

There are more than 25 million victims of human trafficking worldwide on any given day and 20% of those are children.

But this episode is not about statistics. This is about a human life. What happens to a child growing up that leads them to become a victim of human trafficking?  Lena grew up in Ukraine in a very unsafe, dysfunctional home. One of the most common reasons a child ends up being trafficked is a dysfunctional family. A child who is not protected and connected. 

Lena has written a book called Miraculous: My Journey from Hell to Heaven https://amzn.to/3Z1iJNr  Connect with Lena via her website https://loveandbloved.com/ and her podcast Love&Bloved https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-bloved-with-lena-cebula/id1556116036

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The trauma of spanking.  Bodily autonomy.

I Am Anxious All The Time! How Can I Minimise My Anxiety? is available now on the HEAL blog  https://howmyparentsraisedme.com/blog-childhood-trauma/

Bodily autonomy simply means my body is for me; my body is my own. It’s not something most of us were ever educated about as kids.  Tom grew up in an evangelical christian family who believed, as many within the church and also outside of the church do, that parenting includes spanking children. Spanking has been accepted as the only kind of discipline that will produce godliness and "well-trained" children.  For Tom Spanking completely overwhelmed his nervous system and along with the fear and pain, there came arousal. It was the most horrible mixture of shame, pain, fear and confusion.

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Children of parents with a mental illness.  Breaking trauma patterns.

So Triggered! What Is A Trigger & How Can I Stop Getting Triggered? available now on the HEAL blog  https://howmyparentsraisedme.com/blog-childhood-trauma/

Growing up was confusing for Lisa.  Her father was living with a mental illness and her Mom was in denial and struggling to cope.  Her father would try to condition Lisa into believing ideas that were not necessarily what the rest of the world believed.  And Lisa was subjected to community abuse and nicknames simply for being his daughter.  This chaotic home life led to Lisa's 27 year marriage to an older man she believed loved her, but looking back Lisa now understands she mistook control, manipulation and fathering, for love.  Lisa has been on a huge healing journey and she now works with her clients to help them break the trauma cycle, because it is only through awareness and understanding the cycles of trauma that we can change the lives of ourselves and our children.

You can find Lisa at http://www.causeandeffecttraumahealing.com/ and contact her via email on [email protected]

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When you heal yourself, you heal your children, and theirs too.

Go to HEAL my mental health and healing blog for WHAT IS A TRAUMA INFORMED THERAPIST & WHY DO I NEED ONE?

Emma is a healer. She is healing herself, her kids, their kids and beyond. And it's a journey. There is nothing easy about deciding to be the cycle-breaker in your family. But when you hear Emma describe the beauty and the joy. The glimpses she sees of the future she is creating by doing this work and feeling into the pain. Sitting with the truth. Allowing herself to feel and rage and just be. It is all just so incredibly beautiful.

You can find Emma on instagram at https://www.instagram.com/emmawarrenskies  Please follow!

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Recognise and overcome childhood emotional neglect.

Go to HEAL my mental health and healing blog for 15 Signs You Are The Victim Of Gaslighting & What To Do About It.

What happens when your Mom was never given nurturing, love or care, because her mother passed at a young age? What happens when your Dad grew up in an authoritarian household where kids didn’t have a voice and must follow all the rules? The combined trauma from each of those family lines will be passed down to you because your mother and father were unaware of their trauma or the effect it would have on you. And their inability to acknowledge or express emotions becomes your emotional neglect. You will carry grief and abandonment. You may be a people pleaser and have low self worth. You may experience depression or a feeling of being stuck.

This is Tracy's story and in order to understand her own story Tracy wrote a book called Running Away From Home https://amzn.to/3YwOlun which allowed her to unravel so many thoughts and feelings that she had never understood growing up.  You can find Tracy's coaching here https://tracyburger.com

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Loving yourself after trauma.

30 Important Things You Can Do For Good Mental Health is available now on the HEAL blog  https://howmyparentsraisedme.com/blog-childhood-trauma/ 

Kavita was abandoned to boarding school at six years of age.  Her mother was living with an undiagnosed mental illness and her parents were simply unable to cope.  It wasn't until Kavita had her own child that she really understood the depths of the trauma she had experienced.  In this quick chat episode, Kavita explains how so much of her healing journey has been about learning self love and acceptance, about being gentle and kind with herself and holding her own hand. 

As a Parenting Coach, trained by Dr Shefali, Oprah’s go-to parenting expert, Kavita has now come full circle as she teaches parents how, by embracing ourselves, we can create a beautiful partnership with our child.  You can find Kavita on instagram at https://www.instagram.com/conscious.parent/ and her parenting articles at https://www.khaleejtimes.com/lifestyle/parenting

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Narcissistic mother.

Go to HEAL my mental health and healing blog via this link howmyparentsraisedme.com  for 15 Signs You Are The Victim Of Gaslighting & What To Do About It.

This is the story of a girl who grew up with a mom who was abusive, manipulative and abandoning. It’s the story of a girl who, despite all that was done to her from a very young age, still cared about her mom. Still loved her. Wanted to take care of her and worried whenever she was angry or didn’t approve of her. Who says “I just wanted to help her”…. until the moment she’d had enough. After a lifetime of abuse, backing herself, stepping away and saying NO MORE. I’m absolutely done. Having the courage to walk away, and doing exactly that. Maybe this is your story too. Please join me now for Natasha’s story.

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Why do we play small?

Go to HEAL my new mental health and healing blog via this link howmyparentsraisedme.com  for 21 Ways To Spot A Narcissist and the 20 Books you must read To Heal From Childhood Trauma.

Shorina was only 14 when she left home to move in with her 18 year old boyfriend. This older boy was highly manipulative.  He isolated Shorina and made her believe that nobody else cared and that if she left him, she would be completely alone.  Shorina didn't believe that even her mom cared, even though her poor mom was beside herself with worry.  Shorina found herself alone, self harming and suicidal and went through some very dark times.  The impact of this trauma left Shorina playing so small in her life, that many years later, Shorina ended up in labour for 5 days with her first child completely unable to speak up for herself to the hospital staff.  

You can find Shorina on instagram at https://www.instagram.com/mindfulsoulcollective and via her website https://www.mindfulsoulcollective.com

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