Dear Midlife...

Dear Midlife...

By Shelby Bybee and Trinity GreenfieldEducationSelf-Improvement
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Dear Midlife... episodes

  • Painting Your Path to Freedom

    Perhaps, you resonate with our guest today, Clarissa Castillo Ramsey who is a self-proclaimed "Serial Pivoter". The reason for this because, you see, she was constantly living her life seeking the approval of others rather than doing what made HER happy.

    As the daughter of Philippino immigrants, she was always striving for the approval of her parents...until in 2018 she looked around and thought to herself "What the fuck am I doing?" It was then she started what she's called her "multi-year pivot". It began with her book called "Painting Your Path™" that she published in 2020. In this book she interviewed women who had successfully started living life on THEIR terms and used their stories as an inspirational case study for how she could live the life she always dreamed of as an entrepreneur.

    THAT was the catalyst for deciding that it was time she become her own boss after dreaming about it for years and holding herself back. During this time, she created the 5-step Paint Your Path framework that she now uses with her clients to help THEM live a life they love.

    Dive into this episode with us as we explore how Clarissa made the leap from a high-powered corporate career to successful entrepreneurship.  

    In this episode, Clarissa teaches us:

    1. Not be afraid to pivot...and then pivot again! Start taking small steps towards a larger goal.
    2. Develop a long-term exit strategy and then establish a resignation date and write that resignation letter!
    3. Avoid a fixed mindset, which is thinking you have a finite set of skills. Instead, practice using a growth mindset and evaluate the evidence that shows how much you've grown and are capable of growing. Keep a hype file of the evidence that shows how strong and capable you are (customer testimonials, emails/texts from friends, a glowing performance review)
    4. Use the "Paint your Path" framework to manifest your goals. 1) Dream 2) Decide 3) Plan 4) Be Brave 5) Reflect.
    5. Ask those closest to you to define what they see as your top three strengths when formalizing your vision for the future. Define the things you're passionate about and ask yourself how you can use your strengths to solve a problem related to this passion.

    You can find more of Clarissa at:

    https://Clarissastudio.com

    https://www.instagram.com/ccr_sunshine

    If you resonate with Clarissa's story and want to make the leap to entrepreneurship, leave us a review and let us know! We'd love to hear how Clarissa inspirted your exit plan.

    Make sure we're connected at: FB | Dear Midlife and IG | @DearMidlife 

    50 min
  • Embracing Life by Becoming a Boundary Boss

    Tell me if this story resonates with you...Boy meets girl, girl puts boy on pedestal, boy and girl have ___ kids (fill in the blank), girl makes herself the lowest priority, girl loses herself and her power, girl hits crisis point...

    This was us! Hell, we STILL have mama guilt any time we do something for ourselves and our kids are independent now! It's like there's this feeling as though you're doing something WRONG if you go on a date, spend time with friends or do something for yourself. If this sounds familiar that doesn't have to be the end of the story. Our guest today Tanya Maree Biddle puts a stop to this age old narrative and instead (in her own words) grew a set of balls, learned to ask for what she needs, fought against internal and external resistance and has now become a coach to help other women this her position!

    Tanya Maree now holds space for women everywhere as a coach and mentor to working mums while they rediscover who they are as their growing children no longer need or want them around anymore and supports them to create the next season of their lives.Tanya is an avid planner and organiser and mentors her clients through a process of planning their personal development so they can create habits, rituals and routines that will move them to action. 

    She is an Accountability & Self Empowerment Mumma Coach (#mouthfull) and is a professionally trained coach for working mums with teenage kids. She specialises in holding space for these beautiful Mummas while they rediscover themselves and supports them to LIVE life on their own terms.

    In this episode, Tanya teaches us to:

    1. Stop deprioritizing ourselves. When we make ourselves our last priority we also teach the people around us that we are the lowest priority. BUT, you CAN choose a different path!
    2. Understand that reversing the habits that you've created can take time. It's not just training your children and family that they are capable...its also training yourself.
    3. Set effective boundaries consistently over time, which requires a lot of gentle reminders and sometimes reevaluation to determine if shifts or adjustments need to be made.
    4. Reflect on who you were before you were in your partnership or had children. Ask yourself what were your dreams and aspirations? What did you enjoy doing then. This is a good starting point for rediscovering who you are today.
    5. Learn to celebrate when our children reach an age of independence and become self-sufficient. It means we've fulfilled our role as mom and taught them well!

    You can find more of Tanya at:

    Website | tanyamareecoaching.com

    IG | @tanyamareecoaching

    I, literally, had a conversation with my sister just last night about the importance of setting boundaries and THIS episode. If this episode resonates with YOU, please share it with a friend. Leave us a review to share with us a boundary you set and how you grew as a result!

    Make sure we're connected: FB | Dear Midlife and IG | @DearMidlife

     

    51 min
  • Finding our Qi in 2023

    So, NOBODY likes change, but frankly it's the only constant in life. Today’s world is always shifting, evolving and pushing our personal and business visions into new territory. So, girl, we gotta move forward and embrace the unknown, because that is where the true magic lies... BUT....what if the unknown wasn't so unknown? What if you could have insights into the future that would guide your decisions? Would the idea of change and life feel less intimidating? Our guest today, Sam Plovie or Qi (prounounced Chi) Pro Sam, has over 10 years experience in transforming peoples lives by helping them to navigate the turbulent waters of change to bring clarity and purpose forward so they can make more informed and sound life decisions.

    Sam is the ultimate ‘Guide by your Side’ removing the barriers that sabotage your success! With unparalleled expertise in Chinese Astrology and Metaphysics, Sam assists people through their life transitions, career redirects, home harmonizing, optimal office work flow, staff alignment and corporate strategies.

    Sam's philosophy is success is science. If you have the conditions, you get the results” and she strives to help people attain those conditions and live their life at full potential by aligning people to their environment, tapping into their true skills at the right time, with the right strategy, life is smoother, simpler and more purposeful. 

    Sam is schooled in the Five Arts of Chinese Metaphysics, and today she demonstrates how she can harness the power of these tools to paint a roadmap of my future for the year 2023. And, girl, when I say she paints a roadmap, she pretty much predicts my future with a (almost) creepy degree of accuracy. BUT, she reminds me she is just laying out what COULD be, it is up to me to make my own choices and, ultimately, shape my future. Take this walk with me and see how powerful these tools can be.

    In this episode, Sam begins by orienting us to some key components of the BaZi chart within Chinese Astrology:

    1. The BaZi chart can be utilized to provide an "external" point of view for the timing of key decisions and personal strengths that can be capitalized on.
    2. The "year" Pillar is about relationships and connection ancestors, parents and workplace from a perspective of time and distance. In short, the focus is on the future. The "day" pillar is all about you...your health, your significant other, who you are and this is the center of chart. The "hour" pillar is where we find relationships with money, children, intimacy.
    3. An annual update (as we discuss in this episode) provides a comprehensive overview of all of these things and starts with a review of a hexagram that provides a predestined theme. Career, Health, Money, Relationships, what is occurring and what decisions can be made in awareness of these key areas. It's like a puzzle of probability.
    4. Your BaZi chart provides you awareness or a roadmap of what is to come. You can look at the roadmap and still be in control of the direction you choose to take and can make these choices in an informed way. Having visibility into what is to come should not raise concern, but can simply make known what may happen so that you are better prepared to navigate the path forward.
    5. Halfway through the year, go back and review the annual overview to see how things have played out over time.

    To find QiPro Sam:

    Website | QiProSam.com

    If you enjoyed this episode, we encourage you to find Sam at the link below and have your own BaZi chart read. If you do, leave us a review! Let us know one interesting tid bit of information you received and how that shaped a decision in your life.

    Make sure we're connected! FB | Dear Midlife and IG | @DearMidlife

    1 hr 6 min
  • From Betrayal to Breakthrough

    Let me share with you some pretty astounding statistics about our topic today. This causes 81% of people to feel a loss of personal power after this experience. 94% deal with painful triggers. 71% have low energy. 47% have weight changes. 84%...Have an inability to trust. 67% Prevent themselves from becoming involved in deep relationships.

    Today we're here to discuss the topic of betrayal and its IMPACT. Betrayal is a trauma unlike any other because betrayal happens when those you are closest to and trust the most BREAK that trust...it becomes so personal and is, therefore, extremely difficult to heal from and can cause a tremendous feeling of loss and sense of self.

    The reality is that trust CANNOT be repaired...it can only be REBUILT. Our guest today, Dr. Debi Silber, is the founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, and 2-time #1 International Bestselling Author of "Trust Again", "The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis" AND "From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love". and her podcast "From Betrayal to Breakthrough" is also globally ranked.

    Dr. Debi has completed a PhD on how we experience betrayal and has made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. We'll share these discoveries with you in our podcast today.

    In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she’s an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.

    So buckle in, girl. This is a JUICY episode in which Dr. Debi teaches us to:

    1. Look at trust like a brick wall. Trust cannot be repaired. It CAN be rebuilt...brick by brick by brick. It it the betrayers job to rebuild that brick wall...not the person who was betrayed.
    2. Learn that betrayal is not our fault, it IS our opportunity. In every betrayal, we learn something about the negative narrative that we are telling ourselves perhaps, unknowingly. Until that lesson is learned, you may experience repeat betrayal. If nothing changes...nothing changes.
    3. Betrayal is a different type of trauma. When a betrayal happens, your world is shattered...your ability to trust, your sense of self and worthiness. This type of trauma requires a complete rebuild or transformation that is deliberate and intentional.
    4. There are 5 predictible stages to betrayal and healing:

    • Stage 1 events leading up to the betrayal that can be mired in the neglect of spiritual and emotional connection. 
    • Stage 2 the actual receiving of the news of the betrayal...D-Day. Your stress response has been triggered and you're in a state of overwhelm.
    • Stage 3 Survival Mode...this is where most people feel stuck and stay. This is where the numb, avoid, and distract ourselves with food, work, alcohol etc...
    • Stage 4 recreating a new identity...taking with you on this journey of transformation the best parts of you and leaving behind the parts that are no longer serving you.
    • Stage 5 healing, rebirth. and new world view. If you understand the "roadmap" you can navigate the healing process in a faster, better way.
    • Stage 5. Face it...Feel it...Heal it... The only way is through it. It may be easy now...but, hard later. Hard now...and easy later. Either way, you must navigate all of the steps to be healed.

    You can find Dr. Debi at:

    Website | ThePBTInstitute.com

    tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@debisilber 

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber

    Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/

    Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber

    Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/DebiSilber/

    If you've suffered a betrayal, leave us a review and let us know what you've done to become stronger. Share this episode with a friend! We truly apprciate your ongoing support!

    Make sure we're connected: FB | Dear Midlife and IG | @DearMidlife

    53 min
  • Reclaiming your Power After a Toxic Relationship

    Perhaps, you know by now that I've struggled my whole life with the feeling that I'm not worthy of love. So, I'm sure it is no surprise to our listener that I fell into a toxic relationship. I stayed in that relationship for 16 years until one day I realized I had spent so much time being accommodating my spouse's needs to avoid an argument that I'd lost myself and didn't know who I was or what made me happy anymore. The loving relationship I thought I was in, was a facade.

    I know that I'm not alone. So many women find themselves in my shoes, being manipulated into believing they are in a loving relationship, while slowly losing themselves without even realizing it. Our guest, Lucy Price, helps us to identify the characteristics of a toxic or narcissistic relationship so we can come to our own truths and find a new path forward.

    But, this episode isn't only about the toxic relationships we find ourselves in, it's about reclaiming your power and finding yourself afterwards. When I walked away from my relationship with my ex, I realized I had a LOT of work to do to reclaim my relationship with MYSELF. I didn't know who I was, what I liked or where to start.

    Lucy supports women in moving on from toxic or narcissistic relationships so that they can heal, fall madly in love with themselves, and create the love and life they desire. she specializes in mindset, emotional intelligence, and relationship building skills. She talks about how to shift the story you are telling yourself about you and your life, how to become aware of subconscious beliefs, the 7 layers of why, and micro-mindset changes that lead to big results.

    In this episode, Lucy teaches us:

    1. It is easy to lose ourselves in a toxic relationship. Healing starts with awareness. Consider what are you feeling and thinking? Then ask, is that serving you and helping you get where you want to be?
    2. Your thoughts create your feelings...your feelings drive your actions/patterns of behavior and, therefore, your results. If you find yourself in a pattern of toxic relationships, you first have to change the way you think about yourself.
    3. Sometimes we have to step back and ask ourselves what behaviors has society normalized as acceptable in men and then really get in touch with your interests and needs. Ask yourself if this the way you want to be treated?
    4. I love this...ask yourself the question, "what do I want the culture of my relationship to feel like?" Then work to develop the skills to create the culture you desire in your relationships.
    5. Don't speak in definitives. Talk about "being in the process of". Make the micro-mindset shift from "I'm unworthy" to "I'm in the process if discovering my worth" or "I'm in the process of learning to love myself". Doing so moves your mind from static to momentum and forward growth.

    You can find Lucy at:

    Website | https://Shiftyourstory.net

    IG | @Lucy.M.Price

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    Make sure we are connected: FB | Dear Midlife and IG | @DearMidlife

    51 min
  • Finding Your True North

    If you've ever been to New Orleans, today's guest has a name you won't forget...Ben Yeh (pronounced just like that sweet treat from the south the beignet). Not only does he have a name that resembles a sweet pastry, in today's episode Ben lays on us some sweet wisdom....and girl, let me tell you...we were eating up every word.

    Ben is a business and transformation coach on his 3rd chapter in life, as he says. He began in real estate, then became an investment officer investing over $1 billion dollars for a private family of restauranteurs (where he gained tremendous insights into how a business is run and how to accumulate and invest wealth) and now he's taking these years of business and entrepreneurial wisdom and sharing that with his clients and with us today.

    So good! And he uses his investment experience, business coaching and his personal, spiritual journey to empower heart-centered entrepreneurs on how to gain clarity on their "true north" and thrive in life. And to our Listener out there who is feeling stuck...Ben helps others live into a space of expansion where the possibilities are limitless.

    Ben launched Boom Vision Podcast in 2021, a show about health, wealth and higher self! For anyone with a burning desire to live an enriching life: physically, mentally and spiritually, Ben and his guests share valuable perspectives & action steps to help you build optimal health, create aligned wealth, and connect to your higher self. It starts with a powerful mindset!

    In this episode, Ben shares with us to:

    1. Understand that health, wealth and higher self...are all interconnected
    2. Focus on 3 core pillars - imagination (what you see internally) - voice (what you hear internally) - intuition (what you feel internally) These get projected to your outer world. You must work on your outer world, as well. This means you have to examine the soil (the environment you are rooted in), water (are you watering your mind daily to expand your imagination) and sun (where do you get your joy from and are you carving out time to do something that brings you moments of joy). These work together so that you're operating at a higher level.
    3. Realize,"energy cannot be created or destroyed...it can only be transformed from one form to another" (Albert Einstein). The way that you think about money (or anything) drives different actions and associated reactions. Money is energy...if you want more you have to change the language and actions you take when it comes to money.
    4. Adopt a simple morning ritual that includes: 1) Calming your mind, 2) setting your intentions (my intention for achieving x is y because it will make me feel z), 3) listening to a song that raises you to your Z state energy, 4) making a declaration "I am..." intentions, actions, manifestation. When I set my intentions towards a goal, and take actions toward that goal, I manifest.
    5. Consider the input you received as a child. how many more "nos" did you hear vs. "yes"? 5% of our day is run by our conscious mind. 95% is run by the subconscious mind or SOS (subconscious operating system). What input are you providing yourself now? Are you your worst energy or your biggest cheerleader?
    6. Practice using your intuition. When you do things that bring you true joy, you will be in a different frequency and when you are in that flow...inspiration happens. 

    Find more of Ben at: 

    Website | benjaminyeh.com

    IG | @benjaminyeh

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/benjaminyeh

    Boom Vision Podcast; Available on all podcast directories.

    Apple | httApple Podcasts | Boom Vision

    Free Downloads for Listeners: https://www.benjaminyeh.com/thankyou

    So, ladies...we want to hear from you. Ben shares with us some major inspiration today...what message resonated with you the most? Please leave us a review and share this episode with a friend! 

    Make sure we're connected!  FB | Dear Midlife and IG | @DearMidlife

     

    1 hr 6 min
  • Discover your Core Motivations with the Enneagram

    So a few years ago a woman in my neighborhood sent out an invite for a little happy hour at her house...with a twist. She had gotten very interested in a self-discovery tool called the Enneagram (prounounced any-a-gram) and sent a link for us to all take an assessment to find our "type"...then we all discussed our types, fears and motivations over a glass of wine. That was my first exposure to this tool.

    Today's guest, Chelsie Engle, has a coaching business centered around this powerful tool and today, she helps us understand ourselves a little more deeply and identity our core fears and motivations through the lens of the Enneagram.

    After years of infertility struggles, pregnancy loss, and fertility treatments Chelsie finally became a mama only to find herself in a state of postpartum depression and anxiety, and feeling lost and stuck as a new mom and working in a toxic and difficult environment. She needed help, which is when she found a therapist that was trained in the Enneagram. 

    Chelsie now works one-one with clients helping them determine their enneagram type (in a Typing Session) and helps them explore a life on their terms using her 1-1 elite life coaching experience.

    This tool can be used to gain greater insights to who we are as individuals, create a life that is in alignment with our core motivations and desires, recognize the healthy and unhealthy behaviors in ourselves and others and help strengthen our personal and romantic relationships through empathy and understanding of the fears and motivations of those who we are closest to.

    Today, Chelsie teaches us: 

    1. The Enneagram is a self-discovery tool that helps an individual discover their core motivations. It allows us to explore our actions and behaviors through this unique lens to determine if they are serving us in a healthy way or not.
    2. Our behavior and qualities should be seen as neither good nor bad, but rather healthy or unhealthy. Often, what we "loathe" in others are characteristics we don't see in ourselves.
    3. It's easy to get caught in between your fears and desires and feel like you're on a hamster wheel you can't get off of, however, awareness is the first step to understanding how to create healthy behaviors in your own life.
    4. A great way to identify your type is to ask yourself what is the best feeling in the world for me? (this will usually help you pinpoint your core motivation) and What is the worst feeling in the world for me? (which will help you pinpoint your core fear)
    5. When you recognize you are in stress, stop. Acknowledge what you're feeling (usually something linked to your core fear). Ask yourself WHY you are feeling this way? Finally, ask yourself what you need in that moment? I feel...because...I need... and VALIDATE. yourself in these feelings.

    Find more of Chelsea at:

    Website | eliteenneagramcoaching.com

    Take the test!

    We'd love for you to take Chelsies free Enneagram assessment to find out who YOU are. When you do, leave us a review and let us know!

    Make sure we're connected! FB | Dear Midlife and IG | @DearMidlife

    57 min
  • People Pleasers...Meet Your "Nope Coach"

    We know many of you out there have a dirty little secret. Raise your hand if, like me, you are a people pleaser!  Girl, today we stop and explore the 'why'?  The answer to this question is something we've been contemplating. WHY is it that women (specifically) fall into patterns of people pleasing? Are we so desperate to have people like us that we're willing to sacrifice ourselves in the process? There are so many answers to this question...perhaps, it's societal conditioning that causes women to put everyone else's needs before our own...perhaps, it's just part of who we are as individuals...maybe we LIKE doing things for others. Maybe it's just because we're suckers.

    We're kidding of course! But, know you're not alone and today's guest, Suzanne Culberg, will be able to provide some refreshing guidance and reassurance! Suzanne calls herself a "nope coach" and is a coach and author who helps "over-givers" and people pleasers learn to set boundaries and say "no" in a way that feel good. 

    Suzanne is a certified practitioner of Neurolinguistic programming (NLP), holds a bachelor of medical science, and has a variety of other certificates that she leverages to help women stop over-giving, over-consuming, and overdoing everything. Her mission is to help women set boundaries for themselves and make boundaries NORMAL...we simply should be saying NO more often.

    In today's episode Suzanne teaches us that:

    1. Saying "no" doesn't mean the other person will be offended or that there will be conflict. It can sometimes generate the opportunity for more collaboration and honesty.
    2. Not setting boundaries or saying no can generate resentment. People can genuinely "sniff out" the little white lie (such as I have a headache and can't go to dinner). But, people respect your honesty.
    3. You can begin to reclaim your own sense of self and identity by defining what you DON'T like and then clearly define how you will set boundaries around those things.
    4. If you're such a people pleaser you're not being honest with yourself or coach, you're doing yourself a disservice. Instead, use "pennies" to change...these are micro-shifts that (when done consistently) don't feel like big changes....but, a lot of little changes that add up over time.
    5. Sometimes a collaborative approach to boundary setting with someone you deeply care about is necessary. By taking this approach, the needs of both parties can be met.

    You can find Suzanne at:

    Website | suzanneculberg.com

    Facebook | suzanneculberg

    IG | @suzanne_culberg

    Make sure we're connected: FB | Dear Midlife and IG | @DearMidlife

    And girl...If you ARE a people pleaser, make Shelby and me happy by sharing this podcast with a friend and leaving us a review. :) 

    58 min
  • What Happens in the Vagus Stays in your Body

    Have you heard of the Vagus, girl? Perhaps, you're thinking...I could tell you, but I'd have to kill you...bearing in mind the rule "What happens in Vegas, Stays in Vegas". But, we're not talking about Las Vegas....today, we're talking about our Vagus Nerve. Despite popular belief the Vagus Nerve isn't the nerve we lose or our even our last nerve, it is a cranial nerve that interfaces with the parasympathetic control of the heart, lungs and digestive tract. They should change the phrase to "What happens in the Vagus stays in your body" because when chronic stress and trauma happen over an extended period of time it can show up in our bodies as anxiety, depression, gut disorders, autoimmune conditions and chronic pain. To our listener out there...THIS is very well what may have you feeling STUCK!

    In this episode, we totally get schooled by our guest Jessica Maguire. After all the amazing things Jessica teaches us in this episode that we DIDN'T know, we're starting to wonder how in the hell we ever passed biology!

    Jessica Maguire has a degree in Health Science and a Masters in Physiotherapy and has spent over 14 years helping people improve the health of their brain and body. She specializes in helping her patients get to the root cause of their issues rather than just relying on others to resolve their symptoms. She does this by providing a framework within which her clients can understand the different responses of the nervous system and better engage with it rather than being overwhelmed by emotions and physical sensations...

    In this episode, Jessica teaches us:

    1. Our nervous system can be in 3 states: a) regulated in which we are at our baseline and operating in a calm, focused, stable and connected state; hyperarrousal in which we may be operating in a state of anxiousness, anger, and hypervigialance; or hypoarrousal in which we slip into a state of shame, withdrawal or burnout...essentially feeling "stuck".
    2. The Vagus nerve is a cranial nerve that connects the body and brain. 80% of its fibers are sending signals back up to the brain. It plays a critical role in emotional health, physical health and even effects how we connect with other people.
    3. Our brain and our nervous system don't just passively receive information throughout out lives. They are shaped by experiences and relationships.
    4. Making a shift, isn't about changing a mindset, its about working with our body to create a new experience that then sends a signal to the brain that we are safe and capable and THAT reshapes our mind....moves you beyond feeling stuck
    5. Leverage the gift of co-regulation and bring these people (or even pets) in your life close to help you operate in a more stable, connected and calm state.

    You can find Jessica at:

    Website | Jessicamaguire.com

    IG | repairing_the_nervous_system

    We LOVE this conversation! Jessica so clearly articulates what is happening in our bodies and how to tune into the signals our body is sending. If YOU love this episode too...Share this podcast and leave a review.

    Make sure we're connected at: FB | Dear Midlife and IG | @DearMidlife

    1 hr
  • Cultivating Belief and Making a Leap into a New Future

    So, girl...we talk a lot on this show about who we want to be when we grow up. We know this proverbial midlife identity crisis can leave us confused as to who we are and who we want to become. We've struggled with this topic and if you (our listener) are struggling out there, then this episode is for you.

    Today, entrepreneur, Motivational Speaker, Mastermind facilitator and business coach, Cheri Ruskus, speaks to the freedom and challenges that come with owning your own business and embracing new possibilities. So, if you have ever thought about what it would be like to step out on your own, Cheri walks us through how to determine if being an entrepreneur is the right path for you and the importance of creating a strategy to make the leap with confidence.

    Cheri has authored two books and speaks to audiences about how to run their business with efficient systems and a positive mindset. She is host of the Bright Shiny Object Project podcast with 150+ episodes and has also created the BSO (Bright Shiny Object) Grow Planner, a physical paper planner, to assist small business owners to accomplish more, as they honor their most precious commodity, their time.

    In today's episode we learned:

    1. How to use "morning momentum" to begin your day in a positive way...That means get up before your household and use that time to "meditate".
    2. Meditation doesn't have to be sitting in silence, YOU do YOU....you can take a walk, watch the sunrise with a cup of coffee, use a meditation app. Find they approach that works for you.
    3. Turn your "to do's" into "ta das". Start each day by focusing on what you accomplished the day before.
    4. Focus on relationships. Write down what are the 5 relationships you want to nurture that week or that day. You don't have to write a novel. A few words go a long way.
    5. Establish systems to make your life and business work.

    You can find Cheri at:

    Website | Business Victories

    IG | Victory Girl

    Book Recommendation: Book Recommendation | The E Myth: Why Most Businesses Don't Work and What to do About It

    45 min

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