Dear Midlife...

How many of you out there have limiting beliefs of some kind?  Maybe we should ask is there any woman out there WITHOUT a limiting belief of some kind!??  And, lately, when you think of YOUR limiting beliefs, have you ever started to dig into where in the hell they came from? 

When diffing dug deep to get at the root of limiting beliefs, we realize is that we've been programmed our entire lives...Programmed to believe we're not good enough, we're not lovable, we're not beautiful...programmed by the patriarch, by media, by our own damn parents!  

Our guest today, Denise Morrison, is here to tell us how we can use Neurolinguistic Program (NLP) or neuroplasticity to RE-program these negative narratives, overcome our own obstacles and live the life we're meant to. In this episode, our listener shares with us a personal story about how she was struggling to get pregnant when a functional medicine practitioner that said, you are so healthy. You are doing all the right things. Eating right,...exercising. But your mindset is killing you.

Like so many of us, Denise was basically beating herself up with her own negative beliefs and thought patterns after growing up in an abusive household. She didn't realize that she was repeating these patterns and habits and they were depleting her of her life force and energy. Her body couldn't produce a child because her body thought it wasn't a safe environment.

So listen up! Your brain, mindset and self-talk are important! They have an IMPACT. Today, Denise has transformed herself from a shy, introverted girl to a strong woman who learned how to overcome emotional eating and and abusive self-habits to become a dedicated and vibrant Physical Therapist, Yoga teacher and finally, a Transformational Health & Life Coach. She uses her personal experiences and certification in NLP and other mindset and coaching strategies to help women overcome self-defeating patterns and really transform their lives.  

Denise explores with her clients 3 key areas of their lives:

Behaviors - things like your diet, exercise and daily self-care habits

Beliefs - things like your mindset and the deepest beliefs you hold about yourself and others

Being - who you identify yourself to be on a deep and even subconscious level

In this Denise teaches us:

1. We receive programming everyday in various ways and these memories are stored in our senses and nervous system. Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) is a way to help an individual discern what memories they want to hold onto and reshape the negative narratives with "new programming"
2. NLP Uses the full sensory experience to anchor thoughts and beliefs within your sense of smell, sight, touch, sound and taste.
3. Finding out what you DO want your new narratives to be can be a process of elimination, starting with what you DON'T want...
4. How you do one thing is likely how you do everything....so identifying and shifting small patterns can make a big impact on your life.
5. Leave voice memos to yourself about how you feel...then you can really get a true perspective on the words you use with yourself. Be kind! to YOU!

You can find Denise at:

LinkedIn | Denise Lynn Morrison

FB | Denise Lynn Morrison

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From the moment I wake up....Before I put on my make-up...I say a little prayer for you! How many of you women out there need a little reminder that YOU ARE WORTHY?  What if you could carry in your pocket gorgeous thoughts of positive intention to lift your spirits and reflect on who you are and what you're capable of?

Our next guest, Jenna Brocious, has developed a set of prayer cards to provide motivation and inspiration at just the right moment.  Jenna is a wife, mother, spiritual intuitive and, like so many of us, has worn so... many... hats. And, also, like you...she had a busy real estate career and "did all of the right things" and just hit a point in life in which she was feeling a bit lost.

Thankfully, she was afforded the opportunity to pull back, and sit in silence and meditation (hats off to Jenna's supportive husband...and for our two guys listening out there...listen up!) and gain clarity on how she can show up in a different way to serve others and believes these special prayer cards she's created are the product of God working through her to provide others intention and inspiration when they need it most.

In this episode, Jenna reminds us of the importance of setting boundaries and finding time and space to sit in silence and reflection...to find your own spirituality in whatever shape and form that take...and in that space ...find yourself.

In this episode Jenna teaches us:

1. Set clear boundaries and know what is important to you
2. Welcome negativity because it not only shows you what you don't want, but what you do.
3. Self-love allows you the power to stand in your own strength, your own boundaries and your own values
4. Give yourself some quiet time each day to get out of your head
5. Schedule quiet time for yourself

You can find Jenna at:

Website | JennaBSpiritual.com

IG | @jennab_spiritual

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Dr. Aimie Apigian is THE REAL DEAL! In this episode she teaches us about the "Biology of Trauma™ a unique lens for understanding trauma and how to emerge from it by joining the two worlds of neuroscience and trauma therapy uniquely by reverse-engineering the chronic effects of trauma on the nervous system and body on a cellular level.

Girl...if only you could see Shelby right now. Here inner nerd is geeking out! She is literally drooling over Dr. Aimie's incredible resume. She is a double board-certified medical physician in Preventive Medicine and Addiction Medicine. She has a Masters in Biochemistry and a Masters in Public Health. In addition to her medical training, she is also a Certified Functional Medicine physician and has a crazy number of additional certifications in neuro-autoimmunity, nutrition, and genetics for addictions, mental health, and mood and behavioral disorders as well as in various trauma therapies including the Instinctual Trauma Response Model (an art trauma therapy), Somatic Experiencing (developed by Dr. Peter Levine), and NeuroAffective Touch (Dr. Aline LaPierre).

Not only is our guest exceptionally well qualified, but she's also motivated by her own personal life experiences as she worked to solve chronic trauma related issues for her adopted son, and then for herself. Dr. Aimie offers science-based solutions on how to rewire the nervous system. Dr. Aimie is the founder and CEO of Trauma Healing Accelerated, offering her foundational online course: “The 21 Day Journey to Calm Aliveness”, which is an experiential journey into the nervous system that is open to all.

In this episode, Dr. Apigian teaches us that:

1. Many women believe the feeling of being "stuck" is stress when, in fact, it is actually a trauma response.
2. Stress response comes with action! We are in stress response when we are actively working to solve the problems in our lives.
3. We need different solutions when we are either in stress response or in trauma response. When in stress response, we need support and resources. When in trauma response, your body needs safety, energy and time to process what just happened.
4. In order to change your trauma response, you have to rewire the way your body and nervous system reacts through somatic experiencing. Resolution happens in the body...not in the mind.

You can find Dr. Apigian at: 

Instagram: @draimie

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/draimie/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-aimie-apigian-1b863244

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/draimieapigian

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Our guest today, Melissa Giller, is an MBA and former Sr. Management consultant with a Big 4 firm. But, decided to leave the corporate world behind "on a whim". Or so she says, but in reality Melissa, like many of us, went through what she calls her "winter"....and when we say 'winter' we're talking a 'Game of Thrones' kind of winter (lol)...a year long feeling of being stuck or lost during the early years of motherhood. I'm sure you may resolate with this feeling where you feel like your life is out of alignment with your goals and values and you really don't know who you are any more.

BUT...a massive panic attack that woke her out of the blue, and was the catalyst to her journey of deep introspection, mindfulness and inner healing. Annnddd...Thank you, Canada, for your generous year-long maternity leave practices! Because, it was during this time that Melissa began searching for her soul. Ultimately, the journey lead her to pursue her life and spiritual coaching certification, and she launched her coaching business, Life With Soul, in August of 2020. 

Melissa's focus is mindset work around the cognitive distortions: recognizing when your thoughts are running the show, and how to challenge the negativity within them. Since then, she's helped countless women find themselves, establish solid self-care practices and truly find alignment in their lives (personally and/or professionally).She views self-compassion and non-judgement as the pathway to healing yourself, and therefore, your partner, children and the world around you.

In today's episode Melisa teaches us:

1. To ask yourself "How do I want to feel?"...Today...In my life? and then consider what's one little shift or think you can do today to bring these feelings into your life
2. Identify where your can'ts are possibly "won'ts" and disrupt the pattern with something positive
3. The hardest thing is starting. Break down big goals or new habits into the smallest possible steps.
4. Self-care is any activity that feeds your soul and then continually reassessing what's working and not working and adjusting.
5. Cognitive distortions are tendencies and patterns that paint a false or inaccurate picture of the world around you and why people may be making certain decisions. So, instead ask yourself "Is it true? If it's not true, what is a more logical story?"

You can find Melissa at:

https://www.melissagiller.com

https://www.instagram.com/melissa_giller/

Podcast: Life with Soul

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Ladies, ya'll know midlife is FULL of transitions. We spend our WHOLE lives as women living for every. one. else. Can I get an "amen" if you know what i'm talking about?!?!  AMEN! So true..you see, what happens in midlife is that life... shifts and changes...our marital relationship may dissolve or go through significant curves in the road, our children move out, retirement is looming out there in the distance and we suddenly find ourselves on this roller coaster of transition and change. And NOBODY likes change, but frankly it's the only constant in life. Today’s world is constantly shifting, evolving and pushing our personal and business visions into new territory.

So, girl, we gotta move forward and embrace the unknown, because that is where the true magic lies... Our guest today, Sam Plovie, has over 10 years experience in transforming peoples lives by helping them to navigate the turbulent waters of change to bring clarity and purpose forward so they can make more informed and sound life decisions. Sam is the ultimate ‘ Guide by your Side ’ removing the barriers that sabotage your success! With unparalleled expertise in Chinese Metaphysics, Sam assists people through their life transitions, career redirects, home harmonizing, optimal office work flow, staff alignment and corporate stratagies.

Sam's philosophy is success is science. If you have the conditions, you get the results” and she strives to help people attain those conditions and live their life at full potential by aligning people to their environment, tapping into their true skills at the right time, with the right strategy, life is smoother, simpler and more purposeful.

Sam is schooled in the Chinese Five Arts of Metaphysics, of Feng Shui (environment) BaZi (Chinese Astrology known as BaZi) Mian Xiang (Chinese Face Reading) Qi Men Dun Jia (Strategy) and Yang Style Tai Chi Chuan (Martial Arts).

In this episode Sam teaches us:

1. Feng Shui is the art and science of noticing how the environment effects you. By aligning to the environment around you, you are better positioned to make sound decisions. A good home finds you.
2. We can have it all...but, typically not all at once. Life is a meandering path, when we can embrace the notion that life is happening for you, everything becomes simpler.
3. When you put somebody else first, you have become second.
4. The obstacles aren't IN your path...they ARE your path. Life isn't happening TO you, it is happening FOR you...embrace it.
5. Girl 2023 IS OUR YEAR! According to Chinese astrology and metaphysics there's a new sista in town! Feminine energy is moving in and will culminate in Dec 2023, when the world will come back into alignment. So, THIS is the year to make new changes and take new chances.

Sam is the voice of the mind-blowing QiProSam (pronounced Chi-pro) Podcasts, informative blogs, inspirational videos and mentor to aspiring consultants.

Once you align your life, your life is more aligned. If you want more alignment in your life and to add a little science to your success, you can find Sam:

QiPro Sam Website

IG | @qiprosam

Join us in the new year for our follow-up interview with Sam who will reveal our BaZi charts (birthdate chart known as natal chart) and demonstrate her abilities to guide US to be powerfully informed to make better decisions about our lives and business.

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Today's guest Helen Ferguson, likens our "Self" to little Russian nesting dolls...you may be familiar with these. They are often ornately painted wooden doll figurines-a bit shaped like an hourglass. You can separate the bottom of the doll from the top and there inside is yet, another similar, smaller doll, and inside that doll...there's another doll and inside THAT doll... And just like the Russian Nesting dolls, the world has an outside view of who we are but, inside, there are so many unique layers that lay beneath the surface.

Helen is a Trauma Psychotherapist specialising in guiding women on their healing journey from childhood trauma, Cptsd & sexual abuse. For the past 23 years she has been sharing her knowledge, skills & expertise with women in guiding them to liberation from the pain of trauma to defining and living life as the confident, calm, courageous & vibrant women they can be.

In this episode, she teaches us that healing is a JOURNEY...not a destination and she embodies that healing journey for herself after experiencing three abusive relationships, and shares the thriving woman she is within every therapeutic relationship to create safety & security for others in their healing. It's within that therapeutic relationship that she guides women to a relationship with themselves. She is providing an empathic mirror for how they can define the relationship with themselves differently. She offers herself as an example of how we can be healed through playfulness with our inner child, acceptance of all parts of our self, curiosity & exploration of what could be, and empathy for ourselves, (all of which is underpinned by self-compassion), then we get to be liberated from the wounds we have been carrying and become our true core self. 

In this episode, Helen teaches us that: 

1. Childhood trauma can live in your body at a cellular level. This can translate into chronic fatigue, illness and even mental health issues. In order to heal, we don't have to deconstruct or relive the past, we need to rewire our brains for the future.
2. You are not responsible for what happened to you. Say it again....you are not responsible for what happened to you.
3. Shame underpins all childhood trauma. We can re-wire our brains by understanding our inner layers and shifting the shame into self-compassion and kindness.
4. Self-compassion is a holistic acceptance of self and all your parts, whether you like those parts or not.
5. Connect with your values at all times. They are the handrails that will guide you across the rickety bridge of life

You can find Helen at:

Website | helenbferguson.com.

Access FREE Resouces on Helen's Website HERE

Facebook | Helen Ferguson Therapy

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Our guest today is Sabrina Rice. She is a wife, a mother of 2 daughters, and a lifelong seeker of truth and knowledge. As a Soul Alignment Coach, Sabrina's passion is helping women to come into who they are and discover who they are meant to be. She calls women home to their inner knowing and the truth that has been there all along.

She's been coaching in this space for 10 years. And, girl, ain't nothing this gorgeous spirit hasn't tried. She says her career has been as much of an evolution, as her soul's evolution.  She's been a personal trainer and a holistic nutritionist that has evolved into the desire to do so much more. And she uses all these tools to focus primarily on mindset work. As a human behavior lover with a certification in cognitive behavioral therapy, she focuses on helping her clients shift their mindset and channel energetics for self development and life manifestation.

She's equally used all these tools on herself, to help others understand them and then guide them through their own limiting beliefs to help them create more of what they wanted in their life. Her Understanding how the mind works and that being aware of your thoughts are optional is the most powerful thing she believe one can know.

In this episode Sabrina teaches us:

1. We are born into our truth, but as we move through life, we acquire programing that moves us farther from who we are at our core. We need to realign with our truth in order to move past stuck and life the life we want. 
2. We need to calm our nervous system to receive the possibilities. This can be done using a variety of techniques like meditation, journaling, walking, stretching... Find the tool that works for YOU...Don't start where yogis end...it won't happen overnight.
3. Thoughts create your feelings, which drive your behaviors which give you results.
4. Tap into your body and feelings first...then look for the source to figure out where you're out of alignment and how you need to shift your perspective.
5. We've programmed our brains throughout our lives with negative thoughts. We can re-program them with positive thoughts that serve us.
6. You're perfectly where you're meant to be

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You can find Sabrina at:

https://linktr.ee/sabrinaricecoaching

Instagram | @thesabrinarice

So, ladies hang on for this one! We love the twists and turns that our bubbly guest takes us on today. Please leave us a review and make sure we are connected on Facebook and Instagram.

Ladies! Sometimes mama knows best! Our next guest, Lauren Dreher, took her mother's advice when she wrote her book "Go with Your Gut: Then Keep Going. She was inspired by the words of a friend who said, "the book that needs writing will write itself". So, our girl, Lauren, just sat down one day with her trusty 99 cent spiral notebook and wrote a damn book.

And she has a LOT to share. She was scarred as a child with the removal of large birthmarks on her face and endured the cruelty of people staring and commenting about her physical appearance. And ladies, we alllllllll know the stories that get stuck in our head....? Right? The stories that tell us we're not good enough, we're not perfect. We can never be successful...fill in the blank girl. We all do it.

But, Lauren decided not to let these (false) narratives hold her back. She knew she was meant for more and set off on a journey to heal her own past traumas and triumph over tragedy. Today, Lauren is a mindset enthusiast, the author of Go With Your Gut: Then Keep Going and the host of the podcast: Go With Your Gut. 

Today, she shares with us the tools she used to change her own habits and in turn, her life. She uses these tools to help women to let go of who they were in the past, discover who they are now  and figure out their new path in life.

In this episode, Lauren teaches us:

1. We (women) tend to get stuck because we spend a lifetime assuming the roles and doing the things we think we're supposed to do or be. We get stuck in the everyday rituals and forget who we are as individuals. We need to be openminded about where our gut is taking us and what gives your fire and energy at this stage in life. Regardless of internal or external opposition. 
2. Lauren is a huge advocate of journaling/writing out what you can't figure out to help with forward momentum, helping to change daily habits. 
3. Know yourself...what stories are you telling yourself and what impact did these have? Then dig into the root cause behind your mental stories. 
4. Get over the stigma of therapy and start to listen to your body and emotions.
5. Be open minded to new possibilities. It's never too late to make.a change.

You can find Lauren at:

FB | Livinglifewithlauren

IG | @live.life.with.lauren

Podcast | Go with Your Gut (on Spotify)

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So, you may not know Trinity's story. Her father threatened to kill her mom when she and her sister were young and they fled their city and lived on the run for several years under assumed names. Our guest today, Nichole Myles shares a similar story. She went from a ‘traditional’ upper-middle class life to losing everything, living in domestic violence shelters, and having rebuild an entire life while raising 3 children.

Now, Nichole brings not only her personal story but, more than 20 years of experience in education, nonprofits, and leadership, to engage her clients in a journey of self-discovery to overcome trauma and experience growth. 

She carries 2 levels of professional certifications in Trauma and Resilience. She has a masters degree in Organizational Psychology with a Coaching and Consulting concentration is expected early 2023. She uses her education to hone her poignant personal stories into opportunities for her clients to glean critical steps to support their own growth – to examine what they’ve overcome, and how to lean into that experience to amplify their futures.

70% of Americans will be effected by trauma in their lives and Nichole works as an ‘expert companion’ in the position of speaker, facilitator, consultant, or coach, helping move clients from ‘survivorship’ to ‘thrivorship’.

She use a metaphor for resilience being akin to falling off a boat and uses a kayaking trip with her teenage son to explain the trauma experience (getting flipped out of the kayak) and the act of getting to our feet as resilience: however, it's critical for you to understand that being safe in the water is resilience, but it's not the same as being back in the boat. This is why 'being resilient' isn't enough to move forward from our traumas. 

In this episode, Nichole teaches us:

1. How our brain cannot tell the difference between trauma that happened years ago and what's happening right now. It gets stuck believing you are still in danger and causes you to continually react to potential triggers and signs of the past trauma.
2. The importance of healing trauma because brain trauma can affect us at a cellular level and can contribute to any number of health issues and disease.
3. The fact that 70% of us will experience a significant trauma in our life. Self-care has to become part of our daily practice...It's what keeps our brains healthy in the way working out keeps our bodies healthy. 
4. Post-traumatic growth frameworks that help us to recast our trauma, deal with our losses, discover our own strengths and then re-write a narrative we can put into action.

You can find Nichole at:

Myles To Go Website

Miles To Go Linktr.ee

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Our guest today, Andrea  Lowell, has come into our lives at just the perfect time when we needed to receive the message that she's sharing! Andrea was exactly where we are at one point. She was working a full-time "day job" for Playboy, had millions of listeners for her on-air program....living the life that, to outsiders, might seem like she'd reached the pinnacle of success. However, she was ACTUALLY feeling stuck and like she was living a life that was out of alignment with her truth and her values and she reached a point where she just couldn't take it anymore!

And she got really honest with herself and made a leap of faith to start her own business and develop the I Am Everything Project in which she brings her clients to to radical self-awareness that propels them to a state of self-expansion and growth.  Her 2-month self-mastery program centers around the never-ending practice of self awareness, which propels the spiritually-minded to next-level frequencies, mindset, and connection to The Divine (and therefore next-level manifestation!). She literally teaches her clients to become their own gurus.

In today's show, Andrea teaches us:

1. It all starts with quantum mechanics...Everything in this reality is energy and intention...everything we feel at hard material is actually "empty space". 
2. Karma is real. Stop focusing on the negative things in your life and focus on the good. When you practice gratitude daily, you operate on a different frequency. 
3. Karma is the law of cause and effect. What goes around comes around. So, if there's something you feel you lack...you've gotta give it to receive it.
4. The Ego has 4 states or stages: 1. Unawareness, 2. Awareness, 3. Ego "Eagle" and 4. self-mastery and when we understand this, we can begin to make different choices and begin to operate on a different frequency.
5. When you notice a negative feeling, you're operating a lower frequency. Identify, catch-it, flip it and release it.

Find more of Andrea at:

Free Raise Daily Vibration Guide!:  https://tinyurl.com/andrealowell

https://linktr.ee/IAMEverything

Andrea Lowell Website

IG | The I Am Everything Project

EMail | [email protected]

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